QUOTE(myvi5949 @ Oct 8 2009, 08:16 PM)
I see your point.. a positive, self motivated man is what you looking for.
In order to live a fulfilling life you have to take action..visualize, ask for Gods abundance, plan and be courageous enough to seek what you want..despite what other say. You have to work for what it is that you want in this life. Very few follow this path..most people go through life taking what's "given" to them. They dont aim for success. They dont achieve their full potential. The side effect of people that aim for success is that EVENTUALLY they too will be wealthy.. not only spiritually but also financially.
The problem with your paradigm is that, not all wealthy men are matured, ambitious and positive.
A guy could have all the money in the world.. He could easily provide for his children and wife.
But..what IF he is a drug dealer? What if he makes money from other people misery? What if he inherited his richest from his billionaire dad? What if this rich guy have some issues? Would you be willing to marry this guy? Would your morals and conscious accept him? Does SECURITY means that much to you?
Security is important. Yes everyone needs security / certainty. But its not all there is a relationship. I trust women of today should be above this. They should aim for a fulfilling life.. aim for what they want in life. Not just stand there by their man.. and watch as her dreams pass her by. If you want a positive, self motivated and successful guy.. you yourself must be willing to reach the same heights as your partner.
I saw this post yesterday but didnt find time to reply. I find his angle very very interesting. Drug dealer.
During my time with my ex he is sort of gangster type, I've come to know a lot of others in gang and of coz the girls would be mixing and chatting.
I used to follow my ex to meet this leader in penang, he is filthy rich and his money of coz isnt clean. He has 4 wifes and all the wifes knows each other. They stay in big houses each of them, with so many big guard dogs, they drive nice cars, he has a guy who drives an Estima to all the wifes house to pick up and send all the children to school, LV and diamond rolex of coz included in the package, I used to adore her watch we call them "moon thin sing", diamonds were set even on the casing and bracelet, it cost about 120K that time, I'm not sure how much it cost now.
During that time, we're living hands to mouth, no savings, sometimes ex will get big money duno from where and he will spend it all within 2 weeks, karaokes and gambling. I remember sometimes deep in my mind how I wish I was like those wifes enjoying life. All his 4 wifes are ex karaokes GROs
I sometimes try to put my shoes if I can be like them? I guess when you're very low in your life you dun seem to have much choice, so security has a new meaning, you actually dun care, but its only in my mind I didnt do it.
Then I look at those girls and wonder, do they love him? The answer is yes I believe. But if you ask what kinda love this is I dont know. I guess it depends where you come from.
I've mixed even with prostitutes, some of his frens gfs are prost and we do talk a lot, I've asked them why they do what they do and most times they come from poor broken families.
I guess moral and how many people ignored moral, or are force to put moral aside. I dun and never look down on them, I kept in touch with a few girls after married but I can see from hubbys face he dun really like me mixing around with those girls so I slowly stayed away.
Coming back to this topic, those girls comes from broken family with very little guidance, sometimes money is so tight and without much education and mother sick or bro and sis still young need to go to school they sell themselves for quick money. I respect this girls in the sense they willing to lower thier standard and make sure their younger bro and sis can have proper education. OLs I know or white collar girls, will never in thier life sacrifice so much for the family.
They never got out from the slum as its already become part of their lives now.
I dont come from broken family, but I do come from poor family, my parents never agreed with me going out with thugs, but that time young and I practically elope and stay with my ex, I was very in love with him, and broke my mums heart into 1000X pieces.
As I grow older, and time is catching up, I start to panic coz I see this is going nowhere, hence fast forward to today I got out of it.
So you see, if you come from a comfortable lifes, drug money is a big sin, but if you're way down there, its heaven sent.
I know its morally wrong, thats why I make sure I'm a fulltime mother and put as much reality and moral to Noreens life. I'll try to give my best.
ok guys, time for yuo to twist and attack me...I'm being truthful of my experience and what I felt that time, the temptations was strong.
This post has been edited by moorish: Oct 9 2009, 01:59 PM 
Oct 9 2009, 01:11 PM
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maybe on another thread lah :3 this topic is reserved to bash moorish 
, kay kay...im joking im joking...
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