I don't see how you can be high maintenance and not expect your boyfriend to be rich.

uh. you're either high or low maintenance ... what's all this about "levels"?

lol why is that I always see you get pwned, debbieyss

girls who choose only money or only looks are just bound for a failed marriage. Those things are so flimsy ... here today, gone tomorrow.

it's one thing to disregard or not take other people's opinions of you too seriously ... but to completely ignore them and be all "high and mighty" that you are right is something else.

be proud of choosing a rich husband? that's called "stuckup" and "arrogant" and a "show off". Be HUMBLE.
Be proud of your husband, not of your choice that he's rich.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Oct 8 2009, 11:45 PM

Not necessarily a good thing.

why not now? why not consider that you might have been wrong about some things since then and actually try to change them instead of defending them mindlessly regardless of whether they're wrong or not?
there's nothing wrong with finding financially capable men, but if that is your first and foremost criterion upon looking for a suitable partner, you need to seriously reconsider your priorities. Like I said to moorish's opening post, be not proud of your husband's wealth, but of him and thus be humble. You notice that people who act high and mighty about their wealth never have real friends.

That gives me the impression that you are rash and don't really think about what you're talking about. Like sinchro has pointed out, why are you here if you have no comment on what moorish has said? You seem to be out to set yourself apart from the rest of the gold diggers by saying you aren't one ... yet your first and foremost criterion of a man seems to be whether he's financially capable or not.

I say there is no difference. Wanting money and wanting money for security still has "wanting money" in the equation. Financial security doesn't last forever too, you know? Here today, possibly gone tomorrow.

Yeah, but you just said you hope you will regret this mindset? So why not now?

Impress you? Or you're interested to know how they got to where they are and thus be able to support you and your shopping sprees?

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Oct 9 2009, 01:37 AM

okay how about this: why do you want to set such a high standard for a "financially capable" man when you're already financially capable yourself? Why bother getting married then, since it's SO difficult for you to find a good, financially capable man?

You have your own house, you say you pay for your own shopping sprees, you provide yourself with your own food ... why look for a financially capable man?
Why is it okay for you to bum off men's money and not okay for men to bum off you? Because you're a woman? Because you believe, as a woman, you are entitled to these things?

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Oct 9 2009, 04:06 AM

Yes, and women like you don't do shit to change the way this happens. It is a fact that this happens because women think they are entitled to what men earn ... and then complain about equal rights and all that jargon. So you want to be able to bum off men and have equal rights? You can't have both, woman, pick one or the other.


Yeah ... so you're basically saying that a financially capable man is at least 10 years older than I am. So I should go for such men in order to guarantee my future? Hell no, I don't need a man to have a future!


Changing your name to his doesn't give you entitlement to everything he owns. It just means that you are part of his family now. It's women like you that make men do prenups.

Real life example of when you can regret your current mindset? What nonsense are you talking about? It doesn't sound like you regret your mindset at all, let alone hope that you will regret it someday. (this whole regret thing doesn't make sense but I guess I'll use it so you'll know what I'm talking about).

Yeah, so why can't you contribute to household expenses? Why must everything be on the man's shoulders? And then when he fails, you call him incompetent. What about you? All you would be doing is nagging him and not doing shit to contribute and you want to tell me about living expenses and financially capable men?

Yeah, and all that money that my parents spend on me is food alone. Again I reiterate: where is YOUR contribution to the family? Are you telling me that you are perfectly happy merely being the vessel from which children are sprung from? Sounds like it is because you keep talking about feeding your kids blah blah blah. Surely you're not SO concerned about your children when looking for a financially capable man? And that brings me to my mentioning your shopping sprees ...

You said it yourself that you are high maintenance and therefore need a financially capable man because of your preference for branded goods and expensive makeup brushes due to their quality blah blah blah ... and then you turn around and talk about looking for a financially capable man to feed your children. You're so all over the place is it really any wonder why I don't know what your stance is anymore?


So with that being said, you agree that when men betray and cheat on you, THEN you can bum off them
All men in agreement say AYE!

It was justified.


Breastfeeding. And you're a mother? Wow.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Oct 9 2009, 12:06 PM

yeah but he has every right to judge, it's just not a very nice thing to do

Yes. They feed their kids. Breastfeeding is free you know? Also, if you're talking about those housewives that don't use their brains and amuse themselves by gossiping with the neighbors about other neighbors, I have little to no respect for those people. Tell me you aren't one of them then maybe I'll forgive your little lapse.


Oh my time to get married is sooner than you think, and yet I don't think like you. Huh... strange isn't it?


Then what's with all the "be proud that you've chosen a rich man"? Shouldn't it be "be proud of your man"?
You are deluded if you believe that men prefer a housewife because he feels more like being in a family. Those men are chauvinistic pigs.

no that was not me disagreeing to fulltime mothers. that was me saying that people have a right to judge others, it's just not a very nice thing to do.


How old are YOU then?
Oh, and I particularly hit on housewives because if they gossip, that's frickin ALL they do. You cannot compare that to career men and women because they have something housewives do not: OMGWTF THEY HAVE CAREERS!


lol or maybe they don't want to run the risk of having a wife that earns more than they do. Men who love family don't work very far or very often away from family. They don't designate that they want a housewife.



This post has been edited by spunkberry: Oct 9 2009, 12:40 PM

funny how you say that seeing that he trolls most of the time.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Oct 9 2009, 12:50 PM

Not that many years older. If you were as old as my mom then whoa, sorry my bad. But yeah, even then I wouldn't agree with your way of thinking.


Uh ... I never said I disagreed. I already told you what I meant with that other sentence that you quoted. .. what's the problem now?


I didn't say career women are greater than full-time mothers. Your argument was that career women gossip just as housewives do and I pointed out the difference: career women have careers. They have other things to concentrate on other than amusing themselves until the husband/kids come home from work/school and therefore have active brain stimulus. Most housewives don't have that, and that's why they turn into those catty do nothing b****y women on Real Housewives and only spend their husbands' money.

I have respect for women who give up life careers to care for their children... but I don't think very much of those housewives who do nothing all day but knit and gossip and, like I said, wait for the husband/kids to come home before they have anything productive to do.


You can believe whatever gender I am, I feel no need to prove it. There are some here who know what I am, and that's good enough for me.

I was under the impression that depression meant sadness ... not murderous killing spree.
I was also under the impression that this depression happens because the mother is uncertain of herself, afraid of what the future may hold regarding the child ... maybe even questioning her own capabilities in raising a child.... not murderous killing spree.

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Oct 9 2009, 01:05 PM

and I love how suddenly she says it must be a balance between money and love, when I'm pretty sure all this shit started because she was PICKING MONEY OVER LOVE IS THE MATURE WOMAN'S CHOICE

Okay let's see here ....

Postpartum depression:
Thoughts of hurting the baby
Thoughts of hurting yourself
Not having any interest in the baby

I've read about six pages on google now and not one of them says anything about killing babies.

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Added on October 9, 2009, 1:22 pmLOL Why has the original post been edited and the incriminating statements removed or modified?!

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Oct 9 2009, 01:22 PM

Well no man can be with a woman who isn't motivated to contribute to the household expenses either, which is what you're implying.

1. Do you know what facepalm is? It's not something you do on other people.
2. You are confusing me more and more on this. You want me to "prove you the real facts so that you will regret one day" but that wasn't what we were talking about at all! We were talking about how you hoped to change your current mindset in the future and I was saying that it doesn't look like you're going to change it so why hope? Fehem?


LOL I love how you're using it in the wrong context .... I'm just imagining you facepalming someone and that's REALLY FUNNY! AHHAHAA!!!
Tak tau guna, janganlah guna sayang..


If you want. Not that I would really listen.


which brings me back to my original question: why would you want to bother looking for a financially capable man when you're so financially capable yourself? Are you one of those women who can't decide whether they want equal rights or to be weak and require a man to function? You can't have both, you know?

So you want to get married for the sake of getting married? Because it seems to me to be like "Oh he must first be financially capable ... then see if there's love, then MAYBE lorrrrr...."
spunkberry flaming == spunkberry trolling idiots.

ANYWAY, I have Signals homework to finish up on top of Japanese so you girls have fun playing with each other.

*sigh*
1. Calling me immature doesn't make you mature.
2. Talking down to me doesn't make you a bigger person, it makes you petty.
3. Well read the second part of my "sake of getting married" sentence.
4. My comprehension or your grammar/spelling/1337 minister speech writing english?
5. You really like to pay attention to the vulgar words, point them out, call the user out, and then fail to continue your argument.
6. Why would I want to be compassionate towards you? I think I would be more compassionate towards moorish than you, and that's saying something.
7. Words == meaning. Say what you mean, mean what you say.
8. And yet again you fail to understand what I meant about the whole "mindset changing thing". Why do we need to provide the reasons why you should change? Shouldn't you be doing that yourself? Or are you just being lazy?

This post has been edited by spunkberry: Oct 9 2009, 02:08 PM