hehe sorry debbie and thanks slushie, ya i meant 'that's'

slushie i think that's what i'm doing right now, but i try to expect very little and if i want to say something i just say it though, and if it backfired(which is not often coz i say it without thinking much and just being honest most of the time) then it's a reminder to move on every single day.

sometimes it feels like im stepping backwards tho, and it scares me.

seems like he's slacking towards his future goals nowadays, and it kinda worries me that if i let him be he'll be worse off. sometimes it feels like it's no longer my business though, but i guess i still cared enough to keep reminding and pushing him towards those goals.

but like this, how do i move on properly sia. kinda confusing.

i do try to remember back on how i was perfectly happy being single before i met him though. guess i'm looking for that old self again.


very true.
bruce07, share with us your problem, den mayb we can help each other ma
even if can't help, its still a good way to let out ur feelings. maybe u'll feel better.

and yeah, read the first post if u haven't. it helps

This post has been edited by Lost~*: Jan 28 2010, 10:20 AM

thanx 4 the encouragement guys.... really hate these things... we hav been so happy 2gether.. juz new yr eve me n her had a wonderful time.... within a few weeks...everything change....my heart soooo devastated...

hehe love is a funny thing..can change within a short period of time.
but it shows we can change too, maybe not in such short period, but it's possible right?

she said she is not happy wif me...tired of r/ships...tired of having to care for her partner feelings... she said she want to b herself... she oso said i did not care for her much... when we argue she cried n i din care... i did change for her... but apparently...not good enough.... i did alot of things 4 her... trying 2 satisfy her everything.... trying 2 make her happy.... but in the end.... haaiizzz...

i've been living wif her for almost 3 yrs... everythinng we do we do together... she is part of my life... now everythinng is gone...

that's exactly the same thing i told my bf last time..
maybe because i didn't get the comfort i want..
i always thought he never cared much bout me..
but think back..
he really did alot things for me.. maybe he's just not that good in expressing his own feelings..
hope it's not too late to realize that..

i told her i admit i'm wrong... coz when both parties r angry...guy hav tis bad habit of their ego... i admit i shudn't hav did wat i did... in my heart i really loved her... care for her.... i juz wish she could c the real me....

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This post has been edited by Peach88: Jan 28 2010, 04:44 PM

i hurt so much 2.... its juz sooo painful.... still think of HER so much....

don't filled your free times with all the thoughts
find some activities or work to keep yourself busy
or hang out with buddies

Hi all guys and gals... Cheer up!

Real and True Love will go to those who genuinely appreciate it.

ok...thanx guys.... will try very hard 2 get thru it.... although i still love her n care.................................

well, for the first step, why dont you stop telling yourself its very hard to get through this, it hurts so much to see you and her going your own seperate ways..etc? i mean we all understand totally how you would feel sad and frustrated for that sudden change. But the minute you stop thinking about it, i'm very sure its a little small step towards healing that broken heart of yours.

I'm not saying you cant grief over it but tell yourself that you'll mourn over it for 2 days (for example) and then you'll start to pick yourself up and start afresh. Since you never really tell us your side of the story, I'll assume that she is the one who dumped you? but fret not. Its definitely a blessing in disguise. I didnt believe this the last time I went through this difficult period until one fine day when I really go out and meet more people. I met better and more capable girls. I knew the quote "Don't give up the whole forest just because of one bad tree". How true.

Yes it is. As time changes, people change too but without themselves knowing it. The people around will definitely be aware of it.

Smile mate. Those were the exact same time my ex told me when we broke up. Of course, I don't put the entire blame on her for leaving me because I am partly to be blamed as well. But then again, don't put all the blame on yourself because you are only being a fool to take all the blame. When a relationship comes to an end, it's not entirely one person's fault but both parties has their wrong doings which lead to the end of it. It may not be something wrong you did recently but it could have mounted from before when you were with her. Say for example last year or last 2 months.

I mean no offence here, but seriously, I felt the same way you feel because my ex left me with those reasons after being together for 2 1/2 years, and I totally blamed myself entirely for it because one thing, I don't stay that near to her thus not being in her presence when she needed me, and I am not in town for the entire week (except the weekends) due to my studying location. But after a while of taking all the blame, I felt stupid and a fool because the cause of the breakup wasn't all because of me but partly due to her mistakes and wrong doings.

Furthermore, most girls, (sorry girls but I have to say this because I find it quite true at least in my case after 6 girls in record) they get satisfied easily at the beginning stages of the relationship, but as time goes by, they aren't that easily satisfied and they are more stubborn and not to forget more demanding. What you said or done in the past won't necessarily work in the future. This is all due to pampering.

Very well said! Cheers!

Do tell yourself that, you're strong enough to pull this through. Also, do remember, you're not alone when you are going through this because there are friends around who will pick you up when fall. Just remember one thing, this path you have to walk it yourself not someone else. There will only be help from people to help you get up when you fall on your knees. As long you're determined to get out from this mess and pick up the broken pieces of your life, you will be able to stand tall again.

At this period, giving up is not an option.

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Jan 28 2010, 08:41 PM

i kinda miss him... even in the midst of rushing for my deadline..

.... i really feel like a failure.

Hmm... Not only you... I don't know why but a few days in a row, I thought of her . But what can I do... It's all over now... so... maybe just build sandcastles in the skies would do... *sighs*

It's been exactly 7 months already... feels so wrong and stupid to have this kinda feeling.

AND..... no one SHALL be a failure and that includes you. As long as you don't give up and give into regrets, sadness and yourself you will always be a winner

i finally let out a bit of tears just now.. i've let down myself.. coz i've promised myself not to shed a single freakin tear on this anymore..

*sigh* such an embarrassment to myself.

i'll get back to ur PM prolly later. after i finished up my tasks. Sigh.

good night all~

at first my ex broke off with me, i felt that i owed her a lot. After some time, i feel that i did contribute towards the relationship too, since it does not work then just let go.

it has been more than 2 months but still i would think of her sometimes. as we are still human, we cannot get rid of the feelings so fast since the partner was part of our life too.

the last 2 months was better because i had friends to accompany me but recently my friends are busy, i feel quite empty and some matters are just keep on bothering me. i feel quite down...

anyway, life goes on! tomorrow will be better!

Agree on that mate. There are days you will definitely feel emo and empty. I have that off and on.

nearly 3 months after we broke up, my ex told me he has feelings for my best fren/ room mate. each time i see them chatting online or when a group of us meet up, i feel hurt and sad and start thinking too much, but i know i must control myself because there's nothing i can do about it, though i still have feelings for him.

anyone had similar experience as mine? becoz i dunno how to deal with the hurt i felt each time..

i guess you have to give yrself time to get through this..it's only 3 mths after u guys broke up..dun be too hard on yrself ya.