im dying to let it go. I feel like im also forcing myself too much.

@Peach88

i think time will help..maybe don't go out with them? or u can always see til u sick n wana move on. it depends on u really..


@slushie

heys, ur not alone. i feel the same, but just remind urself that u are all u have now, and just do sumthin else to keep ur mind off it.



just to share with u guys,
a fren asked me today - have u seen anyone who actually stayed brokenhearted for 1 person for the rest of his/her life? of coz, movies not counted.

i guess it's true. nobody that i know stays brokenhearted forever. it will take time no doubt, but time do heal they say.

even those that says it was so bad end up married even.

so there's still hope. just pick up the pieces for now. that's all we can do.

yea.. i also think time is the best medicine for me now. just that i guess i can't help it and feel the pain when i see them communicate. just feel i can't control the hurt from attacking me.. but i still can control my words and action, but it is very very tough ..

just spoke to him.. suddenly i just felt so much better. gosh, he's like a drug to me

Me here have had and still having that kinda feeling at times. Actually I would say it's normal to have this kind of feeling. It's just part and parcel of life. It does hurt a little every time you have that kind of thoughts but there's nothing much you could. What has been done is done, let it stay in the past. There's nothing else you could do to turn the past around right?

Stay calm when you have that kind of thoughts. Just bear with it and after a while you will get used to it and you will be able to adapt to that change.

You gave in into temptation or something? I really you would reply my PM... Just wanna hear you opinion.

yea me too.. i always feel so much better when we chat/talk. if we dun, i'll feel down. this is not good >.<


actually i dunno the reason why i always felt the hurt is it because i always see them communicating with each other thru sms and msn. and i have to meet them regularly because one is my room mate and another is my classmate. furthermore, she is my best fren and he is my ex, somehow now i feel like a barrier between them like i have become a third party instead now.

yea, i can't turn back the past now. i can't do anything to change the situation too. is there any way/method to stay calm when the hurt attack me?

Lately I think of him slightly more, I think it must be because of the Valentine's day is near. I can still remember clearly the great moment we had together but sadly it is all past. I think I do not want to talk to him for the time being. Sometimes I feel that I should help him to forget about me.

winnie, usually ur ex talks to u first or ...?

When we first broke up, I was the one who talked to him first, but after that later on, he started and I hardly to start the conversation with him anymore. Now it's more like he is showing interest in me again by paying extra attention to me. Sometimes he tried to avoid me, but sometimes he pays extra attention. For knowing him so well, I know what's in his mind, sadly we both know it just does not work out anymore.

sometimes i really wish i know wat's on a guy's mind... at this period im just totally clueless..

guy mind is easy...

simple answer to ur question is = nothing

there is nothing on guys mind... most of the time we stare out n our mind just goes blank....

but gurl mind... now that is diff.. always thinking.. think duno wut also i tak tau... i wish i know....

girls r more expressive in nature..altho they can be contradicting/inconsistent at times..but at least they will talk their feelings out when they feel like shit etc.

but guys on the other hand.. everything just keeps to themselves. sigh. if only they r more expressive. i know million of things could be running on their mind..they just don't tell out...

This post has been edited by slushie: Jan 30 2010, 03:41 PM

this is the basic things abt a guy that u can not change one... its wut makes a guy, a guy... else they already become a gurl if they keep nagging about how they feel. its kindda gay....

and seriously.. for guys right.. there is NO one million things on their mind. guys oni think ONE thing at a time. when they finish settle that problem only they move on to the next stuff. we dont really do well multitasking. this is also a guy thing... we can only do one things at a time. dont try to force a guy to change this... its impossible

guys mind is not like a women minds which can worries about 100 things at once. its not that we dont care, but we are very mission oriented. its not that the gurl way is bad... its just thats how it is. that is why a guy get annoy when u tell him to do this one minute then the next u ask him do something else... then they will annoy and say back "so which one u wan me to do first?"... u ever kena this before?

for gurl its the other way round. u all worry about everything. but seldom hav solution to any of them. things that shouldn't be worried also u all worried. but.... this is what makes u all so great. because this is what the guy is there for. remember i say guy is very mission oriented? do u ever notice guy always try to solve ur problem even tho u oni wan him to listen n not to fix things. this is in fact the way guy is. we always try to fix things.. things we duno also we wan to fix.. hahaha...

the differences between a guy mind n a gurl mind isnt a character flaw in any side. in fact its actually an advantage. but its only become an advantage once u realize that the key is not to be the same... but to compliment each other. and that to me is the beauty of it.....

i understand what u r saying here..and i am aware of it too.

but really...all i need is just a clue..

guys dont give clues to the ladies..
so i guess we hv to live with it.

yup.. haha. guys dont giv clue. oni gurls giv clue... and even then most of the time we are impervious to it...

exactly..
so in the end, ladies get frustrated because guys dont give clues and they are oblivious to the clues given by us.

maybe i've seen the clue but i just refused to accept..

im still living in a denial.

u need to be more obvious... clue wont work.. need to tell direct one

u are at a better place than some, coz u noe the reality of it, while some of us is still struggling to face it dear.


that's so damn true.