what does "tts" mean?

Sorry... I don't normally use abbreviation...one of the occupational diseases I have

This post has been edited by debbieyss: Jan 26 2010, 11:54 PM

there were many times i did something bcoz I wanted to do it.. bcoz i felt like doing it..and i just went for it coz that's what my emotions told me so. eventually i ended up feeling worse than before. Felt so stupid to be doing all this like that person even cared.

and actually before doing that, i did tell myself that i wasn't gonna mind however the outcome may be. I'll just do it willingly and without any expectation.

but the truth is... i was really lying myself. I did have some expectation out of it.... how can i not expect the slightest bit of reciprocation from the person i deeply care? i was just in denial.

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Added on January 27, 2010, 12:06 ami think she meant 'that's'

This post has been edited by slushie: Jan 27 2010, 12:06 AM

Well, I think it's normal when you have put off so much efforts and time to pleae the man you loved so much. Nothing's wrong with it.

As long as at the end, we don't force him nor demand him to give us anything in return, and respect his will, that will do.

Heh..not like we can "literally" force anyone anyway... things like this are not controlled/determined by just us alone.

so much for acting so strong...so much for thinking that im alright etc.. in the end still broke down... but I came to learn that, if this is the process i gotta endure in order to get better.. by all means..i'll keep holding on.

Just like any of u who did.

Forcing can be "die die also want to sms him, call him, stalk him, purposely pass by his house etc", which is emotional force, for my own opinion..

The longest period of time I ever spent to forget someone was 3 years, now thinking back, that's part of my life and I'm glad that I have found a better one.

wah like that... is too desperate d... as a female, we must at least keep some pride/dignity to ourselves..haha

"im glad i've found a better one" will alwiz be there until the day the person is no longer there again.. and then we will start the whole cycle feeling the same shit again. lol

Restart the whole cycle? I will faint... LOL

ahahaha i've fainted a few times already then.. but right now still alive and kicking... zzzz. Cannot let ourselves faint. must alwiz prove to ourselves that we can survive from this BS no matter what.

Oh ya, one of the ways to forget about him is take up some courses, it really works. My humble opinion...

3 years is long... Maybe short in other people's terms.

Another way to forget about someone is to bake! Be it cakes or cookies or something else.

What I did was went to Gasing Hill if you know where is it to get some breath and scream the hell out of me.

i've been reading a lot of self-help books, articles about r'ship and psychological stuff.. everything has been enlightening. Feel like I've learnt alot

Ya.. 3 years is long, but different people have different characters and different stories, so the questions isn't how many years it counts but how well one could go through it.. my humble opinion..

Same here... I'm currently reading lots of investment and finance books, taking up a Finance course, too. But then, this has nothing to do with my love story, just my intention and curiosity to learn something new, as I'm not from Economics background.

I have a book which I've borrowed from a friend and till today I haven't even started reading it yet . Been so busy with all my studies I am going insane with all the test coming up. But it's good also la... At least it keeps my mind occupied.

That's right though. Everyone has a different way of dealing with things and different stories. Cheers!

well,as for me had beeen working even harder wit my ass out for my better future~
no time for relationship but a bit free to go out wit yam cha or kai kai wit groups of friends~

my heart is so pain... sooo suffering... my brain is uncontrolable... alwaz thinking of HER... still care bout HER.... aaaaaaaarrrrrrrggggggghhhhhhh......

hey, you know what? it's alwiz good to be busy.. like me, i've tonnes of assignments on my hands (which can definitely prevent me from thinking nonsense should I start doing) but im not even doing. Sigh..blame myself.

But i've gotta say, self-help books really opened up my mind a lot... eventually, it still depends on us on how we want to make things right again Books are just guidance.

Hi there.. it's fine to feel like shit for a couple of weeks, maybe months even. Trust me..things will only go better from there. It's a process we have to endure..... don't give up

its soooo difficult.... OMG!!!!!! its affecting my appetite...my sleep...my work... geeezzzzzzz..... y muz endure such pain.......

its part and parcel of being in love. if u feel the pain, it means u have really loved the person with your heart. mind sharing whats the problem here?

this is true..

Well you have assignment and I have my textbooks to read because my test are coming like the flow of a river.

It is difficult in the first few weeks or maybe should I say for the first 2 months. But after a while when you get yourself back intact, in one piece, in rhythm and your sanity you will be alright. Trust me. It's been more than half a year for me and I am still going over it and it's easier for me already day by day.

Nevertheless, look on the bright side dude, take this as an opportunity to get experience. When you have gone through this one this time, the next time you are faced with this same problem, you will know exactly what to do and what to expect. I always like to say this, take these challenging times and turn it into an advantage as an opportunity to learn rather than taking it as a burden and rant all about it.

Time to get yourself working mate!