i guess you have to give yrself time to get through this..it's only 3 mths after u guys broke up..dun be too hard on yrself ya.

@Peach88

i think time will help..maybe don't go out with them? or u can always see til u sick n wana move on. it depends on u really..
@slushie

heys, ur not alone. i feel the same, but just remind urself that u are all u have now, and just do sumthin else to keep ur mind off it.
just to share with u guys,
a fren asked me today - have u seen anyone who actually stayed brokenhearted for 1 person for the rest of his/her life? of coz, movies not counted.

i guess it's true. nobody that i know stays brokenhearted forever. it will take time no doubt, but time do heal they say.

even those that says it was so bad end up married even.

so there's still hope. just pick up the pieces for now. that's all we can do.

just spoke to him.. suddenly i just felt so much better. gosh, he's like a drug to  me

Me here have had and still having that kinda feeling at times. Actually I would say it's normal to have this kind of feeling. It's just part and parcel of life. It does hurt a little every time you have that kind of thoughts but there's nothing much you could. What has been done is done, let it stay in the past. There's nothing else you could do to turn the past around right?

Stay calm when you have that kind of thoughts. Just bear with it and after a while you will get used to it and you will be able to adapt to that change.

don't have to apologize, in fact, feel free to reply..the forum is not mine anyway. just thought it would be better to stick to the thread topic

today i realized one thing.. that some things are just meant to be broken.. no matter how hard we try.

One can be so cold when they no longer have any feeling.

no no, don't have to apologize. i didn't mean that you can't share ur point of view with me. u know what? this happened last night before i went to bed.. i called him, he answered. i was damn nervous as he finally picked up my call..i remind myself to talk nicely.

me: hello? (no response from him) you still haven't sleep yet?
him: why you still look for me, didn't i tell you i just want to be alone?!
me: i know, but i just miss u a lot..
him: miss me...a laa a laa a laa!!!!
me: remember to eat... * there.. he hung up*

isn't that obvious? he is treating me the way so cruel and cold blooded. he has changed so much like i don't even know him anymore. i was so hurt.

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Added on May 14, 2010, 6:49 pm
we can't sit down to talk is because i'm not in kl with him now. but i thought we can talk through phone rite? forget it, he didn't even giving me one chance. i feel like giving up, but whenever i think about my kl life with him..i just couldn't end it up. let me explain my 'kl life'. as i mentioned we have been staying together since last year, almost one year already.. we always stick together and he will send and pick me up from college everyday. we talk everything, we share everything. i'm doing training in my hometown now, actually i didn't want to go back hometown to do training, but he asked me to. ok, fine. i listened to him. it's only now forth week of my training, our relationship just suddenly gone so worse. After tenth week of training, i'm gonna go back to kl continue my studies. all my stuffs are still at his house. everytime i think about moving out, i just couldn't.. he's the only closest to me. i'm afraid even when i go back kl, i can't even concentrate on my studies already. i will i know collapse *sigh*

Well, these memories are here to stay. Like it or not, we'll face it. Even till now, some memories of mind regarding her still creeps back randomly as well. But, we just gotta cope with it, don't let it bother us too much. Cheer up!

Yup, I do have some flashback at times too. Whenever there's this same word comes out, it will immediately remind me of the past. You should remember one thing, you are not dwelling in that anymore, but rather just some memories that reminds you whether you like it or not as suffaxile said. At the end of the day, just deal with it and continue with our life.

Well, same here. But I try not to let it bother me too much, and when I thought of those sweet memories, I just remind myself I've already emo-ed enough and those shall remain only a small parcel in my memories. Life goes on.

Flashbacks are normal. After all, for a while you were happy with that person. Happy memories will always remain with you, regardless if it was with your ex, your dad or even your childhood friends. What is important is you realise that new memories are there to be made, and that you should not live your life in the past.