Great to hear that good news from you! I feel happy for you.

Actually not all guys are like that. A living example is me Some guys tend to be more sensitive about all this relationship issues and I know for myself I am one of them. Guys generally look cool and macho on the outside but, more often than not, they actually have a very soft side and when they are heartbroken, it's really really for real. The feelings in a guy like myself is more fragile than girls at times.

Oh well forget about it since it's been long and over. The damage has been done and the repair work will take sometime. I am still working things out for myself and yes, it's going well so far.

Speaking of which, talking about a meet up for people in here, this thread especially would do good for those who just joined in. At least a face to face talk between all of us could bring even more impact and help to the others.
When you fake a smile, most people think you're alright. The ones you are close with will know that deep down there is something just now right.

Slushie, smile for yourself, smile when you feel like it. Do not force yourself to smile. If you are here, I have two arms open wide to give you a warm hug, I hope you can feel some warm for your broken heart. Remember, it's your heart, take care of it. No one else will bother about it.

Thank you Dremax. I will only make myself to have a better life for whatever it is.

I know not all the guys are like that, I don't hate guys after all the hurt, but I think he made that mistake which I think there is no point for him to show any care or interest in me anymore. I think, that is just too late. I know how soft he can be but that isn't an excuse for him. Whatever it is, I don't bother anymore. May be he just need to settle his own feelings now.

I don't mind for a meet up, if everyone agrees with it, then why not we just make one?

Yes, only some who can understand you inside out, they know how you feel deep down inside. I was like that, pretended to be very strong, but deep inside, I cried badly and screamed for the help. Only a few that know about it.

thank you winnie

everything has been difficult lately.. but i am willing to learn again.. willing to do anything to make myself feel better.

thank you winnie

everything has been difficult lately.. but i am willing to learn again.. willing to do anything to make myself feel better.

Great to hear that one too from you

About the drink, we shall see how people respond it. Maybe we start a separate thread or just do it inside here. Furthermore, there was once a new thread was started just to ask LYN forummers out for a drink which didn't turn out to be a good one. The thread starter Got flamed like crazy.

Actually most of my problems I keep it to myself because maybe I know what I should do best rather than other people.
Keep your heads up. Look ahead and look forward to a better day than today. Don't look back and think back about what has happened. It just dampens your day.

AND please... don't hurt yourself by any means even if it does make you feel happy.

I think this thread has gone more normal and peaceful, unlike those threads at outside.

I have seen many of you have done much better than the last time I stepped in here... Congrats!

i am here.. *forcing a smile* ..

thank you winnie

everything has been difficult lately.. but i am willing to learn again.. willing to do anything to make myself feel better.

Lost,

don't force yourself to talk to him if you don't feel nice/right. That's what I've learnt. Do something that will make you happy.

winnie's right, its up to us to take care of our heart now.

i read something from another thread recently, but dun remember where. i took up the quote and put it in a notepad though.
it says "Live with people you're happy with. Not with people who you have to make happy. "

i think its true!
besides, i think the first post that says abt when a bird shits on u how long u gona stay there n cry is very true. at some point better clean up the shit and get going.

its not easy, i still stumble at times now, but when i think of these i do try harder to move on. like they say, just do it! 

Hmm...

But when we love someone very much, we do want to make them happy, no?

Hmm...

But when we love someone very much, we do want to make them happy, no?

Happy is an emotion. Emotion comes from ourselves but not anyone that can give us that. People may do things as what they want to do but to be happy or sad, it is actually decided by ourselves. Try to look for more research on emotional intelligence.

that's true also, but until when u wana make them happy at the expense of urself?

unless u can make him happy by being happy urself then it's acceptable i feel.
if not den one day ur gona burn out rite?

Hmm...

But when we love someone very much, we do want to make them happy, no?

it's not that i force myself..just that i long to do so u noe? hehz.. but instead of stupid2 sit there n wait for his replies on msn i watch my korean dramas now so time pass by faster and i don't feel half as bad already.

he seems to change into a different person..he used to be hardworking but now very slack. duno wads happening, n im kinda worried. but then, im nobody to him alrdy so i don't want to kick up too much fuss. i better work to make myself happier without him i guess.

hehe i do hope we will all feel better.

I'm saying making HIM happy, not how to make MYSELF happy. But anyway, thanks for that sharing of thought~
Yes, agreed. 

it's not that i force myself..just that i long to do so u noe? hehz.. but instead of stupid2 sit there n wait for his replies on msn i watch my korean dramas now so time pass by faster and i don't feel half as bad already.

he seems to change into a different person..he used to be hardworking but now very slack. duno wads happening, n im kinda worried. but then, im nobody to him alrdy so i don't want to kick up too much fuss. i better work to make myself happier without him i guess.

hehe i do hope we will all feel better.

i know... but dont succumb to the feeling.. each time we succumb into doing something bcoz we "long" for it, we actually defeat our purpose to make ourselves feel better/ to bounce back from the heartache.

just ignore all the feelings.. do what ur MIND (it's the most logical) tells u to..not ur feelings/emotions. Those r evil!

Lost, somehow, if you are the one who initiated the break up, it is so much easy for you to let go, no? I experienced it before.

But when comes to the time someone else initiated the break up, you will find it hard to let go.

Well, nothing... just mumbling...