I understand. Years later when you looking back, the hurt the pain the disappointments will mean nothing to you.

Help is more to like having people to listen to us when we want to talk it out. At the very same time, take some time to hear what they have to say about it and about us. More often than not, what close friends tells us is really true about ourselves, it's just that we don't notice it until it's too late.

Crying is a normal issue. Of course I did cry myself to bed a few nights in a row, but after that I told myself, no matter how much I cry, she won't return to me again and neither would all those things I've done wrong could be undone nor would she even bother about what's happening to me now.

What is important is to pick up those pieces of your life and put them back together and reprioritize everything you want to do to get your life back in order. There's no use sitting down doing nothing about your current state when you know clearly that, there's something that must be done and some things has to change.

It does mean something though. It tells you what you shouldn't do in the future and how you should repent from all those mistakes that has caused all those pain and disappointments.

"Living well is the best revenge" Always remember this, especially if the person dumped you.

yeah living well is the best revenge
enjoy ur single life
=) enjoy urself
dont sobber on a break up for a long period of time

Agreed for the short term. However, over the longer term, one has to let go of the hate in order to love again. Life's hard enough as it is, don't carry the weight of all your baggage with you wherever you go.

Quoted for the truth. When i broke up i did cry too. But i told myself that this is the last time i'm going to cry and starting from tomorrow, i will start life afresh. I will continue on with my life journey, widen my social circles, improve myself in every aspects and of cause, along the course, find new potential gf. It has been 3 months already and i can say that day by day, i'm getting better and better.

What is important is to pick up those pieces of your life and put them back together and reprioritize everything you want to do to get your life back in order. There's no use sitting down doing nothing about your current state when you know clearly that, there's something that must be done and some things has to change. This is good stuff.

+1

This thread is great!

Reading this makes me feel a bit better 'coz at least now I know what to do but it's the matter of whether I'm ready to let go or not.

Thx for sharing

i am coming back here again.. I really dont know, seriously, should i still give in any hope for her to give me just 1 last chance to proof myself? Or should i just let the chance to probably someone in the future, i wont know who is she, maybe is her again, or maybe is a new girl that will walk into my life. I treat everything that happen, our break up is becos God wants us to learn, becos i know, if we continue on, we wont be happy at all, something got to happen, and it happened. I really love her, what can i do? I am no playboy, i am not that kind of ppl who arent responsible for everything. Should i give her time? Is it worth to take a shot?

All i can say is that do what your heart desires and always be prepared for the worst outcome. You dont want to live life with regrets, thinking back all the what ifs. If you think that you should give her a chance then by all means give her the very last chance for you and for her to rekindle the relationship. It if doesnt work out at least you know you have given it the very last go and you know it wasnt meant to be.

Move on with life. Life is actually great when you are single. Yes there is the lost of companionship but hey we are all borned single right? and we dont need someone to help us to live our lives. What i'm trying to say here is that, enjoy the most while you're still single and when the right one comes along, you know your partner will be complementing your life with more fun and surprises.

Hey there mate,

You see I've learned it the hard way back like 3 months ago. The thing is, if things doesn't work out the very first time when you and her tried to get back together, it probably won't work out anymore for the time being. That is what I find true enough. If you keep on trying to make ends meet but at the very end of it, it still frays, why go on with a losing battle? You know you ain't going to get her feelings back the way it used to be. I know it's rather harsh to say this, but we've gotta to think about the big thing not the small thing. I know to many of us, "Giving up is not an option" yes it true why give up when you know you might still have the chance to make ends work? But think of it this way, if you are in the situation where you are fighting a losing battle, giving up is the only option.

What I would suggest to you is that you take some time out for yourself say a few years or something and give the same to her. If you really want to see yourself happier each day and at the same know that she's happier each day, let her go. If you do believe in miracles, who knows, what may actually happen? You may get her back or even better you might even find yourself going out with another girl whom is much more lovely than her.

Now I understand why my mom always says "Don't get so hooked up with one girl. You have a long way to go and there are plenty more out there for you to find."

damn! my mother said that too me too!
i guess they speak from experience eh.haha

This post has been edited by D-Zire: Nov 3 2009, 10:42 AM

Back then, that advice didn't make any sort of sense.

Three broken relationships later, I realise my mother was right. It would not have changed anything, perhaps, but I would not have gotten so hung up on them if I had listened to her.

I guess every other mother out there would say the same thing to their daughters or their sons.

My recent break up was really had a big hit on me and yes, finally those words she uttered to me before finally went into my numb skull.

I finally deleted her Facebook, Friendster and MSN today.

As for me, I didn't delete her from my FB and MSN. I just left it as it is. After all I don't really talk to her since she called it off.

I can't help myself stalking her online.. Guess that's something I have to do in order to get over it.

Well for me... I don't really bother about the notifications that comes on on MSN and my FB. But if it helps you, it's good for you.

yeah...u shud

I used to check if she's online during the first month like Kenneth on top there. But I don't know what is his extends of his "stalking".

dude , i need some advice i broke with my ex last 2 month and she blocked for that long and today suddenly she unblocked me and type alot stuff like u know u suck when u miss me =P. Over the 2 month alot of thing happen to me alot of new random account add me some scold me some trying to befriend with me.