This post has been edited by nice[jisho]: Mar 2 2010, 01:16 PM

I used to be jealous seeing her being so happy going on without me and all. But a month ago, I just don't wanna give a shyet about it, whether or not she's with another guy or what. Anyway it's doesn't concerns me anymore.

Due to the my break up, seems like now I am writing some stuff on my blog in hope to help those in grieve about getting over their relationship. In fact this afternoon I did put up something again. If you wanna check out here's the link

Actually since me and her broke off 4 months ago, I hardly spoken to her on MSN already. I just want to keep my mouth shut with her since you know it takes time for me (and I think most people with their ex-es) to accept her as a friend again.

wanna add me just type in Darren Kam and look for the one who's wearing a black blazer.

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Nov 4 2009, 06:56 PM

ya...

i was

*sighs* Stalking won't bring them back... more often than not, they really bother what happens to us once it's over.

huh??
they do?

Most of the time? I mean it also depends on how you look at it.

For me I really prefer to be left alone to sort things out by myself rather than involving other people especially my ex.

This post has been edited by nice[jisho]: Mar 2 2010, 01:15 PM

No worries. I will add up as soon as I get yours.

People always say time heals a broken heart. I am starting to feel that magic. Actually not only she's still on my FB but some of the pictures we took together are still there. Just that I don't open those pictures I uploaded before so it doesn't hurt my feelings. Just that I am getting used to this form of loneliness.

ah...pictures....heats up the green-eyed monster in me...thats why now i dun go FB often...or at all...so i dun have to see her updates etc...i didnt want to delete her off..i just try to avoid it....it hurts...a lot..but slowly i'l adapting to it...getting a grasp of the reality rather than keep living in denial...

This post has been edited by nice[jisho]: Mar 2 2010, 01:15 PM

I don't intend to delete her and really cut all connections with her. I just want to be left alone by her while I catch up with myself and yeah, pick up my shattered pieces of my life.

Apparently, I just want to ask people around here, How long would it take for you to be able to be normal friends with her again?

This post has been edited by nice[jisho]: Mar 2 2010, 01:15 PM

i broke up during september...now still feeling the pain whenever i see her fb thats why i dun really log in to fb anymore...the wound is still fresh but day by day i'm getting better...i hope..

Take it easy.. you will get better really soon. Cheers

Personally I think it take a few years. Perhaps one or two years just to be able to chit chat like normal without feeling awkward in any way.

I broke off in June. Ya it does hurt a little every damn time you see her picture on FB or MSN or whatever... But never mind it... Might as well get used to it than not getting used to it at all.

Take care
It takes time though..but the wound will heal eventually, and u deserve someone who loves u better ^^
Mayb u can try to go for a vacation or go for party with ur friends

yea i know it takes time. i just didnt know that it impacted my life so much so that when she left me, its like woah! i cant even breathe...now day by day i'm getting better...thanks for ur advice and for all who cares..

Welcome welcome. I am also going through the same thing. Now I don't really feel the pinch like it used to. After 4 months, I feel like I've grown to be a stronger and more matured guy.

Just that, friends with her for the mean time is not quite possible. It takes time to accept her to be a friend again don't you think?

it really depends..some can some cant...for me i still can accept her as a friend but with boundaries set...i once thought of just leaving her alone and not replying to all her smses, calls, etc...but i was too weak...i guess being friends is sort of like a consolation for me...the love was too deep already...all in all...before we start to love someone, we first have to love ourselves...i guess i have no love myself enough because i always let my heart get shattered into million pieces...

anyhow, that was the past...its a new fresh start for me =)

I agree with you. For me I am not so ready to accept her as a friend just yet. Probably in a few months down the road I will be able to and I hope I will be able to. My break up did have a big impact on whatever I was doing and still doing. But it seems kinda clear to me what is actually happening around myself now. Those shattered pieces of my life are slowly coming back together with no thanks to some of my friends in and out campus who has been able to help me a little here and there to let the past stay behind and slowly move on step by step.

I've also gotta to agree with everyone that, it really takes some time to accept our ex-es to be nothing but just friends. It's just how ourselves tend to deal with it and how long we actually really need.