We do not have to forget, we just have to get over it. Mine is still fresh, 1 month plus, but as you have said, time will heal everything. Wonder if it was a mistake to have loved someone so deeply.

Agree with that. Break ups does sucks but it teaches a person a whole lot of lessons. I've got my first deep wound when I was still in lower secondary and this is my second deep one which was 2 months ago.

Speaking of which, I am learning my lesson the hard way on how to prioritize things. I've also come a long way learning that I've not only neglected my friends and sometimes my family but also my very own.

Yes, I don't deny the lesson learnt and all. I need to learn to improve my interpersonal skills & emotional control (that maybe the big fault there).

Any ideas how to those two ? (in case anyone can answer this ;-) )

i share the same feeling of my heart being shattered into zillion pieces when she tells me she is moving on without me. That was 1 month+ back then. Days after that were literally dark and gloomy. The rainy days didnt helped much either as I was stuck at home. I felt really emotional. Wondered why it ended like this. But as i read through all the 17 pages in this thread, i found solace. Thanks to all who have contributed constructively.

I really wished to turn back time. To those sweet times we have been through though i have to admit that it wasnt all smooth sailing too. But i know i have to face the reality. The reality is always very cruel. It was my first love. Day by day i started to realised things. Do not be a priority in someone's life when you are just an option to him/her. It made me realised that she wasnt and never really prioritise me all the times while i gave her my all. Devoted all my time for her. Attended to all her requests. In the end i got nothing but her moodswings and her cold shoulder. I know that i shouldnt expect any thing from her coz i did all these willingly. But all least appreciate what i've done so far. Too bad for me. Ahhh..its really complicated...

I'm picking up myself slowly. Hanging out with friends and with the support of family members i hope i will be able to stand strong again.

I believe in miracles. Do you?

i broke up during september...now still feeling the pain whenever i see her fb thats why i dun really log in to fb anymore...the wound is still fresh but day by day i'm getting better...i hope..

thank you dremax, i am trying my best to do everything that i can. i am very happy in these few days with my friends around. i manage to make it until like, i do not even bother to look at my phone to try to sms him again. i do not even bother it anymore. finally, i feel i am just happy and i am setting some new goals for myself in year 2010.
i was like you too. i was very depressed, i washed my face with tears every night too. i even tried to commit suicide due to this. i did a lot of stupid things, i even lied to myself to make myself to be there for him, kept telling myself that he would be back but until i was so tired and cried until my tears are dried.

my dear, if you do not learn how to love yourself, who will ever care to love you? i do not lie to myself, i told him too that i love him very much and i do not deny any of my feelings. i think, i put it in a way which i choose to face everything instead of running away from it. i missed him, i told him. i loved him, i told him. when now im typing this, i do think of him but i do not think that i have the feeling want to talk to him at the moment, because i have my other work to do. i told myself that, i want to love myself first before i love anyone again. may be in the future i will not love any other guys as how i love him anymore but i can not say it for sure in the future, no matter what, i know the most important thing is, my own happiness.

Oh.. I failed to meet my mission 'cos I have just sms-ed him, again.



I'm not cool at all...

You sms-ed her, too?

I don't want to claim myself as a loser, but not cool, instead.

Does it valid?