Try not to answer his call. When he messaged, wait one day only reply, or don't reply at all. Stay strong and give yourself some time. You may sulk for a few weeks, it's ok to mourn for the relationship. Then, start to do some things for yourself. Try out new activities and meet new friends. Don't be afraid, there are people out there waiting to get to know you. Cheer up!

Smoke, flirt with others, party , shopping, go for holiday and seek for another chicks! You lost one tree but not the forest!! There are many choice out there! Like me go holiday! Seek for another chicks hahhaa!! And now I'm with the chick for 2 years! Sit and cry doesn't help much just get rid of it! Dump the old one get a better one!

i just broke up wif my gf.. its a mixed feelings. first, i was sad, then the sadness turned to anger, as i know for the past few months, shes been cheating on me. the reason why i am so damn mad is that eventhough she was disloyal, she treated me like hell, but turns to be so affdectionate when she wants something for me to buy. she even bought a new phone just to contact that guy. furthermore, she asked me some money to buy things, but somehow she used it to buy topup to text her new lover.i hated her, but i dont know why i still love her..

I just broke up wit my bf 4 days ago..
We was in Long Distance Relationship for almost 2 year..
Everything was fine.
He called me almost everyday. Even when I din ask him to do so.
we r so sweet on monday as usua;
then on tuesday
he said he cannot commit to me...
need break up
i am confused
i feel betrayed
i feel cheated
cause we used to talk bout future and stuff
which kept we strong to continue the LDR
he convinced me into LDR but he is the one resigned haih

what shud i do now?
i am lack of friends
i try to find ppl to accompany me but i failed
i feel this is the loneliest moment in my life..

how to find friends? how to get new friends??
what can I do to forget him??
I miss him badly~

I am here as ur friend. Chill.

Life goes on, no point dwelling on the past too much. Cheer up! U jnow, just like what many would say, time heals. I would say that as well.

yea i know
but now i just wish i could find friends i could hang out with
i feel lonely and almost cant cope with it..

Don't worry bout it too much.. Believe me, time heals. A mth or two ago, I had some shitty situation as well (just read the earlier posts, few pages before this), but I gradually picked up. Find some activity you would love to do, spend more time on it, don't dwell on the past.

Ur old schoolmates? Colleagues? I bet u will have some friend who will always be there for you

i tried
but my friends are limited
most of them have bf ---> no time for me
some even ask me be light buld..
i dy so heart broken, how i can watch them both hold hands happily??
colleagues...yea did went out with them but hey
they cant out with u almost everyday or whole weekend rite?
somemore my colleagues are limited too
sigh no other way to find company ma? i mean friends?

Well, I guess thats how it is. I do understand ur situation. And, its mother's day, try going out with ur mom . May help u forget bout things even if just for a slight moment.

If u don't mind, i can be ur company . *Wei, pls, i'm not buaya-ing, no misconceptions here!*. Hehe, u could drop me a pm or anything, i don't mind.

haih
i am away from home..
My hometown-> Kuantan
I am in KL
just started work around 10 months ago
life sucks specially working life

its way better when i am in UNI
sigh...
feel so lost now..

I see i see . That's tough.

U are lost now. But u will nvr be lost forever. Sulk all u want now, cuz u know tomorrow u will nvr be doing it already . Easier said than done, but u need to keep all positive beliefs n encouragement within yourself. Only then, u'll be able to pull out of this. It won't make a difference if u keep dwelling on the past, so look to tomorrow hehe

i am so strong in everything
but i feel vulnerable when it comes to love..
look for tmr?
i can only see grey~
ntg new, same, boring work, no excitement, same ppl around me..
argh~~
i need some light....some ppl to take me away from all these~

organize something to look forward to and give urself targets. like saving up towards a holiday overseas etc.
i felt like u too when i broke up.. so i joined the gym, and now im looking to continue my studies part time. Whenever i think of her, and my day is grey, i just think of all these targets i have.. continue my studies, find ways to further my career etc.

i wouldn't say it would work, coz im still hurting, but i guess its better than mope around coz she aint comin back.

This post has been edited by chickenshit36: May 10 2010, 08:37 PM

going for a trip next week with 2 other couples..haha....hopefully is a nice one pls~~

find myself still lingering around thinking of the relationship....

it's really not easy to let go just like that...we went out last week...then after tat i think back about the past...haih...feeling is really hard to control once u r in...i also feel i m most vulnerable when it comes to love...but there is ntg i could do...finding new motivation...last time i can shop alone and i feel it's best somemore...but now when i walk in the shopping mall alone...i feel lonely..hate all this feelings that bother me..

A time passes by, direction unknown
You've left us now but we're not alone
Before you know it your cups overflown
You measured no one that I've ever known

And it's quite alright
And goodbye for now
Just look up to the stars
And believe who you are
Cause it's quite alright
And so long, goodbye


We always knew that it'd come to thi...s
It's times like these i forget what i miss
Matters of heart are hard to address
Specially when yours is full of emptiness


And it's quite alright
And goodbye for now
Just look up to the stars
And believe who you are
Cause it's quite alright
And so long, goodbye


A time passes by, direction unknown
You've left us now but we're not alone
Before you know it your the cups overflown
You measured no one that I've ever known

And it's quite alrightAnd goodbye for now
Just look up to the starsAnd believe who you are
Cause it's quite alright
And so long, goodbye.

i dont know if i can share my sad story here >< seeking for help..

i just broke up with my gf recently, we both had been together for about 5yrs+ and get along very well. she suddenly just dont love me anymore and i keep to convince her to tell me why countlessly. she just said doesnt have feel anymore. she said she had thought aboutt it for past few months already, just that she don't dare to tell.. end up she admit to me and said ' i know this is cruel to say, but i don't love you like i did anymore. ' i'm guessing she had another guy behind, a guy who can teach her guitar ( my gf likes to play music instrument by the way, but sadly i got no talent in that, and also who sell his Myvi to her) , but she said we can still be best friends and she ask me to be strong and support me all the way. but how can i face her now? i felt cheated and my feeling for her still there.

But by just thinking my own gf suddenly just broke up with me and be with another guy is just too painful, and worst of all, we can only be best friends. I missed her and wanted to chat with her like we used to, but I stop myself when thinking that she already have another guy, and this hurts like hell.

I've seen some advised, and i committed myself to gym and try to make myself bz, but when this case pop into my mind, i just dont have the mood to continue my workout anymre.. I dont have much friends and most of them already have their own partners.

Can anyone teach me what to do? i'm feeling very depressed and down now. a lot of things just reminded me of our loving past. food, music, places, etc etc..

my story is also kinda similar like yours, though our relationship was very much shorter than yours. she also had someone quite fast after we broke up, and yeah i understand how the hurt feels. Thing is, if u think u can't handle being her best friend for now, try to put her out of ur life for a little time, till your stronger. i think she'd understand if u tell her u need some time away. i deleted her fb and msn for a period of time, coz the hurt when i saw the pics of her and her bf were tremendous. even now, i block her notifications. Just take time away from her and focus on ur own life. Better yet, just start dating again, meet girls etc.

in a way im lucky i had supportive friends. god knows how many drinking sessions or the times where i joined a friend with his gf for an outing being a lamppost haha. thing is, real friends wouldn't mind u hanging out with them but just don overdo it lah. maybe u shud try...

and yes, i tend to avoid the places we frequent too, coz it just keeps giving me flashbacks. But this i think, will be solved in time when the hurt heals

Ouch, 5 yrs! I feel for you, bro. Its hard, but u just have to face it. I can't be saying too much, cuz u already knew that the solution lies within yourself. Well, just keep urself busy, seek ur close frens and have a good time with them. Time will heal things, although ur memories of her is here to stay but there will be a day when u just wake up and realise u just don't care anymore. When that'll be, we'll never know, it depends on u. Good luck bro!

i also have a 5years + relationship. gonna be the seventh month tomorrow. He told me that he needs time to consider whether still want to be with me or not. everything is just so complicated. i'm not sure what is the main reason that causes him feel wants to leave me.

we were staying together since last year and we study in the same college in kl. we're happy although sometimes we would have argument. i am in my hometown for my training now, this week is the forth week. he said that when he needs me the most, i'm always not around.

these few days he said he's in bad mood and i know when he is bad mood, he doesn't want to talk to anyone including me. Plus he is having exams, so i think he is too stress. i look for him, he said he got no mood to talk to me, so i left him alone. After that, when he looks for me i already got no mood to reply him. then he said, when he needs me i'm not there for him. i'm so sad, he asked me not to look for him but why he say me liddat? Afterall, i still look for him after some time. i'm not sure what's going on, he keeps ignoring me these days. Today, he doesn't even sms/call me, yet he only reject my calls. he said it's because he needs time to consider and stay calm that's why he doesn't want to contact me. i'm not sure if there's mis-communicate or misunderstanding or because i'm not in kl? Or he is just tired of us always quarreling. i know i'm wrong as i always being too suspicious because he ever lied to me so many times before. i don't know what to do. but i really love him, i've cried so times whenever i think that he wanna leave me. i can't sleep well can't eat well i don't even have mood to work and i cried today when i was working. last night i even dreamt he had planned to breakup with me, i couldn't even sleep well after the nightmare woke me up. i wanna try to prepare for the worst answer from him, i know i will collapse if he really decides to leave me. i pray that the nightmare is not coming to haunt me.

think your gf found a better guy, nowaday gals want to find guys that hv money. even if together with so many years when the time break up, the reason is no feel anymore.