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And what we think about the "One" or "Soul-mate" is soo wrong man... Gosh.

Yeah, I understand how you feel now though and I'm in the same shithole as yo do now. But I'm trying hard to cope with it.

How does it change your mindset towards a relationship? Share with us please.

*High Five, BlueWind*. Haha.. as much as I love her, I just gotta let it go. At times I've been thinking like a loser, hoping one day she'll turn her head left or right and notice that there is someone who has always been there for her. Such a pitiful loser I am. In the end, just gotta realize it is entirely her choice on who she wants to be with, regardless of how idiotic the current bf is (Not that i'm perfect).. But yea, gotta face tomorrow and move on.

Yup, we will still have to face for tomorrow and move on. Sometimes, somethings are never meant to happen for you. But oh well.. life goes on.

Yea, just not meant for me. Its too bad, so bad that it pains me. Will never know how much time it'll take to mend this broken heart.. Just hope the sooner the better.

Sometimes I wish things will never happen at the first place haha

Sucks to feel this way. Is there a place where I can bang myself? LOL

Hey.. Its the same as me. I mean, sometimes I wonder, is it fate that brought us to meet one another? Lol.. I wished it never happened but at the same time I was glad to be able to meet such a wonderful person.. I'm selfish, ain't I?

Surely it sucks to feel this way. That day, I just laughed so loud such that tears was beginning to jerk up my eyes. Thinking of this kills me. When you found a place to bang urself, bring me along... LOL

Yeah, same here.. I am glad to be able to meet such a wonderful person. Feel like yelling and release all the tension. Haha

Just yell. That's what I did. But it ends up the same, lol.. We just need time, time will heal, or so they say.

Glad to see another person with the same situation as I am..

Lol, we both are in a one-sided thing. Meh. Anyway, you take care.

Same to you. Let's just move forward and look to tomorrow

Hey u can neva forget but dun ever try to remember, its better to live that way, its stupid to think of dying, life is something precious, we must learn live and laugh.

We keep going because of ourselves not for another person..

Get a rebound relationship, its better that way but must know not to hurt the person, get the rite partner to do it...

Only if I have plenty of girl friends that I know, I would go for a rebound relationship but sadly I do not have one right now lol. I think I can cope without it.

Same like me. I really hope I could cope with it... Its tough. And as painful as it is...

I did occupy myself with lots of things these days, but towards the end of the day, it is impossible that I don't think of this. I live and laugh for the day only to be down at the end of the day.. Makes me wonder if I could find someone like her ever again and kept telling myself I made the right decision to leave things as it is, not interfering with her relationship and maintaining our friendship. It sucks, really, the sight of her holding the hands of a guy which is not me.

Hopefully, time will heal this and I shall stand back up from this.

Yeah, today I read an article in The Star about why people feel regret after they broke up and I think it really helped us to point out why are we acting this way and what we could do to overcome it.

Isit the one at StarMag today? I read that as well, but nothing changes in the end. Sad.

I think that's the one. At least it helped me a little bit in some ways.

hmm.. dont u think being so close with her when u r still having feelings for her hurts even more? Don't you think it makes u harder to move on?

Sometimes, i feel happy looking at someone whom i fail to court, being with her partner.

It does hurt me terribly.. And even right now, I doubt I can really move forward. But what can I do? Nothing. Spanar is not for me, I just don't want to be selfish and ruin her current relationship with her bf which is still going strong.. Somehow I just knew I wouldnt' stand a chance. Knowing that just pains me even more... Worse still, shes in fact 4 years older than me, and is from another state. Right now shes here in KL for job training and would be leaving in 3 days time.. After these 3 days, I would no longer know when I'll see her again and I really do want to see her. Still, her bf would be here with her till she leaves, so it just... pains me so much. Age isn't a factor for me, but the thought that shes almost in an ideal age for marriage just kills me. I know I'm thinking too much, cuz I just can't get over her right now.. Her bf is 27 yr old, and u might be thinking why he has all the time in the world for his gf. Fact is, he pretty much unemployed though he runs some part-time business which he started only 2 mths ago while previously just sitting at home gambling and playing for a long time. Well, I don't want to touch on his bf issues too much, though I believe I would be able to do better than he does. However, its her choice in the end, I can't do anything bout it. It hurts.. but hopefully time will help me move on.. At same time, I wouldn't want to lose a friend like her. I'm selfish, wanting everything. Sigh.

I tried telling myself that as long as she is happy, I'm alright. But, its a lie. I'm just not being honest to myself. I'll just have to live on this lie and try moving on.. The sight of her holding the hands of another person which is not me makes my heart bleed.. Anyway its just never meant to be for me and just too bad.