Yeah, I understand how you feel now though and I'm in the same shithole as yo do now. But I'm trying hard to cope with it.

hmm.. dont u think being so close with her when u r still having feelings for her hurts even more? Don't you think it makes u harder to move on?

Sometimes, i feel happy looking at someone whom i fail to court, being with her partner.

dude, u basically already knew that being with her so close pains u and all.. then why didnt u do something abt it? Why dont u stop being close with her since u obviously know it hurts u?? Why did u choose to keep hurting urself?

dont interfere into her personal life; how is she doing with her bf is none of ur concern. Whether onot ppl is going strong is also none of ur business.

U r living in denial. U know the truth but u just didnt do anything to make ur life better

Do u think she'll be happy seeing u this way? who r u living ur life for? urself or her?

@suffa, from the day you decided to let go, you should not see her, talk to her, or even think of her. Occupy yourself with other things, no point wanting to stay as friend when you really wanted more.

One day, when you wake up and really don't care anymore, that's the time when you are ready to be friends again.

I just broke up wit my bf 4 days ago..
We was in Long Distance Relationship for almost 2 year..
Everything was fine.
He called me almost everyday. Even when I din ask him to do so.
we r so sweet on monday as usua;
then on tuesday
he said he cannot commit to me...
need break up
i am confused
i feel betrayed
i feel cheated
cause we used to talk bout future and stuff
which kept we strong to continue the LDR
he convinced me into LDR but he is the one resigned haih

what shud i do now?
i am lack of friends
i try to find ppl to accompany me but i failed
i feel this is the loneliest moment in my life..

how to find friends? how to get new friends??
what can I do to forget him??
I miss him badly~

yea i know
but now i just wish i could find friends i could hang out with
i feel lonely and almost cant cope with it..

i tried
but my friends are limited
most of them have bf ---> no time for me
some even ask me be light buld..
i dy so heart broken, how i can watch them both hold hands happily??
colleagues...yea did went out with them but hey
they cant out with u almost everyday or whole weekend rite?
somemore my colleagues are limited too
sigh no other way to find company ma? i mean friends?

haih
i am away from home..
My hometown-> Kuantan
I am in KL
just started work around 10 months ago
life sucks specially working life

its way better when i am in UNI
sigh...
feel so lost now..

i dont know if i can share my sad story here >< seeking for help..

i just broke up with my gf recently, we both had been together for about 5yrs+ and get along very well.  she suddenly just dont love me anymore and i keep to convince her to tell me why countlessly. she just said doesnt have feel anymore. she said she had thought aboutt it for past few months already, just that she don't dare to tell.. end up she admit to me and said ' i know this is cruel to say, but i don't love you like i did anymore. ' i'm guessing she had another guy behind, a guy who can teach her guitar ( my gf likes to play music instrument by the way, but sadly i got no talent in that, and also who sell his Myvi to her) , but she said we can still be best friends and she ask me to be strong and support me all the way. but how can i face her now? i felt cheated and my feeling for her still there.

But by just thinking my own gf suddenly just broke up with me and be with another guy is just too painful, and worst of all, we can only be best friends. I missed her and wanted to chat with her like we used to, but I stop myself when thinking that she already have another guy, and this hurts like hell.

I've seen some advised, and i committed myself to gym and try to make myself bz, but when this case pop into my mind, i just dont have the mood to continue my workout anymre.. I dont have much friends and most of them already have their own partners.

Can anyone teach me what to do? i'm feeling very depressed and down now. a lot of things just reminded me of our loving past. food, music, places, etc etc..

i also have a 5years + relationship. gonna be the seventh month tomorrow. He told me that he needs time to consider whether still want to be with me or not. everything is just so complicated. i'm not sure what is the main reason that causes him feel wants to leave me.

we were staying together since last year and we study in the same college in kl. we're happy although sometimes we would have argument. i am in my hometown for my training now, this week is the forth week. he said that when he needs me the most, i'm always not around.

these few days he said he's in bad mood and i know when he is bad mood, he doesn't want to talk to anyone including me. Plus he is having exams, so i think he is too stress. i look for him, he said he got no mood to talk to me, so i left him alone. After that, when he looks for me i already got no mood to reply him. then he said, when he needs me i'm not there for him. i'm so sad, he asked me not to look for him but why he say me liddat? Afterall, i still look for him after some time.  i'm not sure what's going on, he keeps ignoring me these days. Today, he doesn't even sms/call me, yet he only reject my calls. he said it's because he needs time to consider and stay calm that's why he doesn't want to contact me. i'm not sure if there's mis-communicate or misunderstanding or because i'm not in kl? Or he is just tired of us always quarreling. i know i'm wrong as i always being too suspicious because he ever lied to me so many times before. i don't know what to do. but i really love him, i've cried so times whenever i think that he wanna leave me. i can't sleep well can't eat well i don't even have mood to work and i cried today when i was working. last night i even dreamt he had planned to breakup with me, i couldn't even sleep well after the nightmare woke me up.    i wanna try to prepare for the worst answer from him, i know i will collapse if he really decides to leave me. i pray that the nightmare is not coming to haunt me.

What can i do? i sms/call him he ignore me. yesterday he just called me and told me that give him time alone and don't look for him anymore and stop sms him. i'm feeling so sad, holding my tears day and night.    today i sms him as well and call him, but he never reply or pick up. i hope we can talk it out, but he's not giving me even one chance. i feel like we're lack of communicate. i miss him a lot, what should i do as he keeps ignoring me?
i found that everytime when problems occur between us, i don't know how he does, but he will make me feel guilty and like everything is my fault.
i also feel he's escaping the problems. or he's just too tired to face it. 

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Added on May 13, 2010, 6:51 pm

Thanks. i will stay calm and cool, but say is easy.. i still always cry alone in room. he's ignoring me yet still haven't give me an answer. i'm impatient already..i look for him also useless cos he won't even bother me. Guys, just wanna ask, do you all need such a long time to consider to continue or give up a relationship?