girl ... just move on and wait the good 1 to come ... i not sure how old r u but if u rush things , it will make it worst =/

I think u know the answer urself already. Its up to u to take the move further. And yea, u gotta be independent. I believe u definitely have some frens who would be there for u when u need them right? Seek them, they'll be all u need the most right now (maybe also providing assistance when u're in KL). Right now u're in a mess, so u definitely are unable to concentrate on ur studies. But how long would this continue? It'll stop then u'll be back to ur original self one day. And again, it all depends on u. Like what many others would say, time heals.

Well, its a mistake to be thinking to far into the future perhaps. Like what vo0de3_x | oum@n said, I dont know how old r u, but since u haven't graduated, I believe u're rushing things as well. Take it slow, and move on

right..time heals. appreciate and thanks to vo0de3_x | oum@n and suffaxile for helping out so much. i have only a few close friends, but i don't really talk about my relationship problem with them. and they're busy with their boyfriend too. well, right..i'm still young, what for rushing? i have to heal the wound and concentrate on my studies. actually i went to 'tilik nasib' today, u guys know what is that rite? well, some ppl will believe it but some don't. the person told me that he's not my mr right and he is immature. he's just a passenger passing by in my life, no matter how long i'm gonna be with him, this relationship is gonna end still. this relationship and studies are making me too stress. i'm way being too serious in this relationship over these years. i was told that having gf for him is like for showing off. Maybe Peach88 is also right, probably he's interested in other girls. no matter what it is, i know i must accept the fact. what i need is time..

No probs , we're all here as ur friend. Good that u could figure things out, its the first step towards u moving on hehe. Slowly, but surely.

i received the answer yesterday night. i believe the reason is not because of he has another gal. but he said, if i didn't have look for him for the last few days and just left him alone, maybe he would still be with me. but because i looked for him..(maybe he felt frustrated, annoyed, exhausted). i looked for him is cos i miss him lots, but it's now all my fault! he is now already decided to give up cos i failed to leave him alone. i'm not gonna stay with him anymore, probably he might go overseas to further studies as he said he feels unhappy and stress for staying here. i couldn't sleep at all in the night and woke up early in the morning first thing i do is cry. i feel very very stress!

This post has been edited by bbcheryl: May 16 2010, 09:11 AM

Oh my, I'm sorry to hear about that... But, stay strong. Don't start feeling as if it is your fault, because it isn't. U missed him, and u wanted to be there for him, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Break-up just because u failed to leave him alone? What kind of lame reason is that (enough to make me lulz).. Be glad things have ended with him, he don't deserve u.

Well, cry and sulk all u want now. Because, u know the next moment when u stop crying, it is a new day to look forward to and this thing won't bother u already (not instantly, takes time, but slowly u'll cope with it). Good luck my friend

Yes, cry and rant to somebody whom you trusted the most until you are exhausted. Tell yourself that you deserve a better guy than him, the failure of your relationship isn't your fault and never from the beginning. It's definitely going to be really tough for you for the next few months or so but believe yourself that you will get over it as time passes. Take care.

when ur partner wants to breakup, they can find 1001 reasons to do it. don't let it get to u. just understand that, he doesn't want it anymore therefore no point for u to stay in the r/s. when 1 party gives up, the r/s will die off sooner or later... just remind urself that it is inevitable.

thank you guys for being here for me. right, that is a stupid excuse that he had used to leave me. i know actually the main reason is he is tired of quarreling with me as he said we always argue over a small matter. because of 'trust', i was being too suspicious on him as he used to lie to me many times before. i was just insecure. whatever it is, he had decided this. i can do nothing except accepting the fact. it's really tough for me to go through this. and yet i need to settle many things i have left in his house, again i need to find accommodation before college starts. stress. i hope that.. time goes faster. i need to learn to be independent. i really really appreciate u guys for giving me encouragement, advices and be my listener.

well, i still sms him..but not so much already. i hope i can care him as a friend only. cos when i heard he cry yesterday, my heart feels pain..i know he needs my encouragement too. am i suppose to do this? i will let go of it slowly.

I think you both shouldn't keep in contact at the moment because you might confuse yourself and even giving yourself a false hope that there is still a chance with him especially when you get to care for him and stuff like that. You already decided to leave him, so just take a time off then come back to him and ask how is he doing.

Your heart feels pain is mainly because you didn't really want to leave him at the first place, and he chose to end this relationship with you. How do you know he needs your encouragement? If he does, would he be asking for a break up and telling you he is tired of everything?

You want to let go of him slowly, then better not contact him for the next few months until you both are ready to be friends again.

i think you guys shouldnt meet or contact yet, like me.

yes cheryl you already know the answer now. relationship is all about both parties, if 1 of them doesnt have confident in this rs, then its gone and hard to continue already.

take this few days or even 1 week to cry your heart out and let it go. after that you will feel bored of crying already and that time you will truly let go this rs.
i know this is hard for you because its very sudden and you are not ready to accept the fact yet, but its already happen, we have to force ourself to learn to accept it. keep telling youself, he sux, you dont need him to survive. you can still live good without him. and dont contact him anymore. if not , you will have alot of flashbacks which can kill your determination.

and you wont be staying with him anymore. a lot of things you guys wont be doing it together already. and you feel very lonely life without him. you suddenly feel very insecure and when good things or bad things happen, you find it you cannot share with him anything anymore. you just feel something isnt right without him.

i faced all this prob like you too... just have to tahan with this lonely feeling and go on only.. thats all we can do now. keep missing him wont help anything at all, it just makes you wanted to get back together only. you are not alone here. me and a few ppl here also have the same prob like you..not only you feel hurt, but we all also. now also struggling to heal ourself.

so yeah.. gambatte together yeah!!

i'm feeling so stress. i eventually collapse in front of my family. i will cry but i will also gambatte together with you guys.

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Added on May 16, 2010, 9:18 pm
How do you know he needs your encouragement? If he does, would he be asking for a break up and telling you he is tired of everything?

you're right.. i shouldn't contact him anymore. what for? i care him he won't even bother. he's the one chose to breakup and hurt me so badly, there's no point for me to do so already. thank you BlueWind, i will learn to be strong.

This post has been edited by bbcheryl: May 16 2010, 09:18 PM

Yea, there is no point in u contacting him already. Once its over, then its over.

Stay strong. We're all here for u

thank you guys. i reallly lov ya all. (for friends) when i need someone to listen, you all are always here for me. thanks for all the advices.. i really really appreciate..

you can do it!

u can alwiz drop us pm for chat or other stuff

sure. i will

wow ur story is super sad bbcheryl..i mean..got hung up while saying something to ur beloved one? that is super cruel..

yes. and i haven't even finish my word. i was trying to care about him.. but.. nevermind, he was just feeling so annoy even just listen to my voice for one second. his words and actions really do hurt me badly. but i still miss him a lot. yet there's nothing i can do. when he brokeup with me, he didn't even try to talk or discuss with me, he just decided himself and that's all. i asked for a chance, he said NO is NO. so, i seem never had a chance to speak. ppl always say, nothing is impossible? but i'm sure and i keep reminding myself, me and him is never possible ord..