i also have a 5years + relationship. gonna be the seventh month tomorrow. He told me that he needs time to consider whether still want to be with me or not. everything is just so complicated. i'm not sure what is the main reason that causes him feel wants to leave me.

we were staying together since last year and we study in the same college in kl. we're happy although sometimes we would have argument. i am in my hometown for my training now, this week is the forth week. he said that when he needs me the most, i'm always not around.

these few days he said he's in bad mood and i know when he is bad mood, he doesn't want to talk to anyone including me. Plus he is having exams, so i think he is too stress. i look for him, he said he got no mood to talk to me, so i left him alone. After that, when he looks for me i already got no mood to reply him. then he said, when he needs me i'm not there for him. i'm so sad, he asked me not to look for him but why he say me liddat? Afterall, i still look for him after some time.  i'm not sure what's going on, he keeps ignoring me these days. Today, he doesn't even sms/call me, yet he only reject my calls. he said it's because he needs time to consider and stay calm that's why he doesn't want to contact me. i'm not sure if there's mis-communicate or misunderstanding or because i'm not in kl? Or he is just tired of us always quarreling. i know i'm wrong as i always being too suspicious because he ever lied to me so many times before. i don't know what to do. but i really love him, i've cried so times whenever i think that he wanna leave me. i can't sleep well can't eat well i don't even have mood to work and i cried today when i was working. last night i even dreamt he had planned to breakup with me, i couldn't even sleep well after the nightmare woke me up.    i wanna try to prepare for the worst answer from him, i know i will collapse if he really decides to leave me. i pray that the nightmare is not coming to haunt me.

well, i also was like u, hoping that she'd come back, heck i even had a dream about that lol. Yeah the memories are hard to control, but in time, u will learn to accept it, and then the memories will be sweeter instead of hurting. and i also asked myself the same question of how she is able to move on so fast, and when i think of her together with the guy, it hurts alot. I even wondered if she ever loved me, but in the end i just told myself... that i did the best i could at that time, and that i was sincere with her. The question of whether she loved me etc didn matter anymore. I did my best.

Anyways, everyone deserves to find their own happiness. Sometimes, we're just not  the one. We can't blame them for seeking for that happiness.
I once told her "I hope hes everything u wanted, and everything i couldn't give."I loved her and i sincerely hope she can find whatever shes looking for.

im not completely healed lah.... some days are good, some days its really bad.

as for friends, hmmm i haven't seen her since we broke up about 7months ago. MSN sometimes on or off, i just let her msg me first... im still trying to get over it, hence the minimal contact. i do check her fb profile from time to time to see if shes doin ok.

im not wise lah,its just that i've been thru what ur goin thru and did alot of soul searching lol

i also have a 5years + relationship. gonna be the seventh month tomorrow. He told me that he needs time to consider whether still want to be with me or not. everything is just so complicated. i'm not sure what is the main reason that causes him feel wants to leave me.

we were staying together since last year and we study in the same college in kl. we're happy although sometimes we would have argument. i am in my hometown for my training now, this week is the forth week. he said that when he needs me the most, i'm always not around.

these few days he said he's in bad mood and i know when he is bad mood, he doesn't want to talk to anyone including me. Plus he is having exams, so i think he is too stress. i look for him, he said he got no mood to talk to me, so i left him alone. After that, when he looks for me i already got no mood to reply him. then he said, when he needs me i'm not there for him. i'm so sad, he asked me not to look for him but why he say me liddat? Afterall, i still look for him after some time.  i'm not sure what's going on, he keeps ignoring me these days. Today, he doesn't even sms/call me, yet he only reject my calls. he said it's because he needs time to consider and stay calm that's why he doesn't want to contact me. i'm not sure if there's mis-communicate or misunderstanding or because i'm not in kl? Or he is just tired of us always quarreling. i know i'm wrong as i always being too suspicious because he ever lied to me so many times before. i don't know what to do. but i really love him, i've cried so times whenever i think that he wanna leave me. i can't sleep well can't eat well i don't even have mood to work and i cried today when i was working. last night i even dreamt he had planned to breakup with me, i couldn't even sleep well after the nightmare woke me up.    i wanna try to prepare for the worst answer from him, i know i will collapse if he really decides to leave me. i pray that the nightmare is not coming to haunt me.

yeah once awhile good and once awhile sad... i'm like that too... then have to force myself to think of all these advices to calm dwn..
i also didnt contact her much ady, but she wont msg me even in msn, coz all the while it's always me who msg her 1st and its like a habit already.
i know i'm not sippose to ask this, but is she doing good with the new guy in this 7 months?

hey, i think you've make a good decision by staying this condition..it's good that you guys got contact once awhile in msn too.. better to have a friend than an enemy.  1 day maybe she will come back to you. good luck yeah! 

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Added on May 13, 2010, 5:18 pm
hi girl, i understand you, i really do because i just dropped out from my 5yrs relationship with my girl. i know how how insecure the feeling is.
in this case, looks like your guy is just trying to escape the problems or in another way, he is just trying to make you feel guilty. its best you try to reach or contact him and sort out what the problem is.
If he really treasure this 5yrs relationship, he wont behave like this for long, if he really loves you, he will forgive you, afterall its his fault of asking you to leave him alone and reject your calls.
so just calm down, take a deep breath, and tried to contact him and settle it out.

because no point you keep guessing here and sadden yourself, and worst of all, spoil your mood and affect the rest of your duties. so you should first find out what the problem is before you start looking for a better solution.

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Added on May 13, 2010, 5:18 pm
hi girl, i understand you, i really do because i just dropped out from my 5yrs relationship with my girl. i know how how insecure the feeling is.
in this case, looks like your guy is just trying to escape the problems or in another way, he is just trying to make you feel guilty. its best you try to reach or contact him and sort out what the problem is.
If he really treasure this 5yrs relationship, he wont behave like this for long, if he really loves you, he will forgive you, afterall its his fault of asking you to leave him alone and reject your calls.
so just calm down, take a deep breath, and tried to contact him and settle it out.

because no point you keep guessing here and sadden yourself, and worst of all, spoil your mood and affect the rest of your duties. so you should first find out what the problem is before you start looking for a better solution.

Stay calm and cool I suppose he expect u to comfort him, which u probably didn't. And if it happens, then it happens. Not gonna say too much, wish u all the best my fren.

Guys, just wanna ask, do you all need such a long time to consider to continue or give up a relationship?

What can i do? i sms/call him he ignore me. yesterday he just called me and told me that give him time alone and don't look for him anymore and stop sms him. i'm feeling so sad, holding my tears day and night.    today i sms him as well and call him, but he never reply or pick up. i hope we can talk it out, but he's not giving me even one chance. i feel like we're lack of communicate. i miss him a lot, what should i do as he keeps ignoring me?
i found that everytime when problems occur between us, i don't know how he does, but he will make me feel guilty and like everything is my fault.
i also feel he's escaping the problems. or he's just too tired to face it. 

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Added on May 13, 2010, 6:51 pm

Thanks. i will stay calm and cool, but say is easy.. i still always cry alone in room. he's ignoring me yet still haven't give me an answer. i'm impatient already..i look for him also useless cos he won't even bother me. Guys, just wanna ask, do you all need such a long time to consider to continue or give up a relationship?

I'll tell u what. Frankly speaking, its not worth it. Do u think its worth it being frustrated over such an unreasonable and undecisive guy? Sorry for being harsh, and I totally agree with vo0de3_x | oum@n. If he can't even sit down and talk out the problems nicely with u, is there any point of this relationship continuing? The childish part of him ignoring you is just plain stupid. Don't feel guilty, because u are not. U made an effort to fix things, while he? He tried making things worse and push them to u. Still, I wish u all the best in whatever choice u made, and cheer up!

bolded part ... for me i dun nid to use a long time to consider .... he might consider if he break up with u, wats goin happen in his life and he might hold back this relationship just bcoz he cant stand the loneliness , once i duwan the relationship i will just say no and -end- ... if he cant even communicate the problems with u and solve with u, might as well just move on and get a better 1, its all abt 2 way communication but obviously he is not doin so ... take ur time n think its worth or not ... remember, there are still alot of guys out there waiting for u =)

btw i nvr read ur story ... if ady 5 years and 7 month, then let him think abt it @@ ... since he is having exam... after exam only decide lo

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Added on May 13, 2010, 7:24 pm
he has finished his exam today. but still same, no response from him. actually, i just want to know whether he still loves me or not. if his heart isn't with me already, there's no point for me to stay.

after read the posts you guys posted, everything is just mess up in my mind now. i don't know what should i do. maybe i just need a break. but thanks for those who is supporting me. at least i feel better when i speak out the words in my heart and listen to ur opinions. before this, i kept everything with myself and it makes me feel so worse. what should i do to cheer myself up? 

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Added on May 13, 2010, 7:24 pm
he has finished his exam today. but still same, no response from him. actually, i just want to know whether he still loves me or not. if his heart isn't with me already, there's no point for me to stay.

yeah shes doin well. from fb i can see shes happy lah... and she got a new job too with better pay. so all in all, shes better than when she was with me. i guess i hafto love her enough to let her go. btw i just had tea with her, and i tot its gonna be ok but apparently not, i just realize the things i miss about her and why i loved her so much lol... and im hurting now again, so word of advice... don meet her till ur really ready LOL

What can i do? i sms/call him he ignore me. yesterday he just called me and told me that give him time alone and don't look for him anymore and stop sms him. i'm feeling so sad, holding my tears day and night.    today i sms him as well and call him, but he never reply or pick up. i hope we can talk it out, but he's not giving me even one chance. i feel like we're lack of communicate. i miss him a lot, what should i do as he keeps ignoring me?
i found that everytime when problems occur between us, i don't know how he does, but he will make me feel guilty and like everything is my fault.
i also feel he's escaping the problems. or he's just too tired to face it. 

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Added on May 13, 2010, 6:51 pm

Thanks. i will stay calm and cool, but say is easy.. i still always cry alone in room. he's ignoring me yet still haven't give me an answer. i'm impatient already..i look for him also useless cos he won't even bother me. Guys, just wanna ask, do you all need such a long time to consider to continue or give up a relationship?

Well, I apologise if I did mess up ur mind.. But well, after reading ur posts, that is my conclusion. I won't talk bout it further, later I might subconsciously ruin ur relationship, which I don't wish to. All the best in whatever decision u made.

There's lots of things u that can cheer u up with. Hang out with frens, keep urself occupied with things that interests u. Or even seek new things to do.

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Added on May 14, 2010, 10:01 am

well, what i wanted to said is already all be said by suffaxile and vo0de3. i would said the same thing too.
such childish guy isnt worth to be wanted.

firstly, pushing  every problem to you and just leave it like that.
secondly, acting all high and mighty like that to wait for you to go back to him. what kind of gentlemen is this?
and thirdly, his exam is already over but where is he now? dont talk abt aplogize, but did he even come and look for you? like what vo0de3 said, sit down , hold hands and settle things together?

we all know its not easy to let go in a relationship, we are all here because we all have the same relationship prob, i am also struggling not to think abt my ex-gf now (she has got another guy in mind now by the way, which is damn hurtful) but you might need to decide to move on. like what suffaxile said, we wish u all the best in whatever choice u made, and cheer up! There are many others better outside for us! ( advices from cupid-ians here! )

no no, don't have to apologize. i didn't mean that you can't share ur point of view with me. u know what? this happened last night before i went to bed.. i called him, he answered. i was damn nervous as he finally picked up my call..i remind myself to talk nicely.

me: hello? (no response from him) you still haven't sleep yet?
him: why you still look for me, didn't i tell you i just want to be alone?!
me: i know, but i just miss u a lot..
him: miss me...a laa a laa a laa!!!!
me: remember to eat... * there.. he hung up*

isn't that obvious? he is treating me the way so cruel and cold blooded. he has changed so much like i don't even know him anymore. i was so hurt.

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Added on May 14, 2010, 6:49 pm
we can't sit down to talk is because i'm not in kl with him now. but i thought we can talk through phone rite? forget it, he didn't even giving me one chance. i feel like giving up, but whenever i think about my kl life with him..i just couldn't end it up. let me explain my 'kl life'. as i mentioned we have been staying together since last year, almost one year already.. we always stick together and he will send and pick me up from college everyday. we talk everything, we share everything. i'm doing training in my hometown now, actually i didn't want to go back hometown to do training, but he asked me to. ok, fine. i listened to him. it's only now forth week of my training, our relationship just suddenly gone so worse. After tenth week of training, i'm gonna go back to kl continue my studies. all my stuffs are still at his house. everytime i think about moving out, i just couldn't.. he's the only closest to me. i'm afraid even when i go back kl, i can't even concentrate on my studies already. i will i know collapse *sigh*

Gal, I think he has found someone new, from the way u describe seems that he has fallen for another girl. the way you depended on him with ur life in kl really remind me of my own situation when i was with my ex. last time i depended on him too much too, did everything together with him, go places with him, etc. after we broke up i felt very lost without him, but slowly i learn to depend on myself. i told myself i must change, i couldn't depend on anyone but myself now. i have to learn to be independent. it is tough at first, but slowly u'll get used to it. i'm sure u can do it as well.. i have learn that in a relationship, never depend too much on ur partner!