maybe the issue isnt about the dog. how invested are you in the marriage in the first place? If you can't commit to what she wants as a compromise, and she does not indicate that she wants children, ie lack of compromise in her part, then there really isn't any two ways about it.

a bit pointless to point out that she suddenly like something, like a dog. Both of you also have never had children, no? How do you know its something that you and her would want to commit to? Especially since you won't be able to do couple things anymore. Same situation as having a dog, really, only you need more commitment than a being a fur parent

my point is, if you can't handle having a dog to the point of considering divorce, then having a kid would cause a greater strain to the marriage especially if your wife needs to compromise with you and have a kid together -if- she does not want kids. Basically putting her in your situation but instead of 10+ years, it would be a lifetime.

you might need to talk in depth about each others needs and expectations at this point. Marriage means that you don't get to do what you want 100% and you need to consider your partner/family/pets before yourself.

When we were dating, of course will be doing what a couple usually does, sharing and doing things TOGETHER.  Before marriage, we also thought we will have children and the pet only came in after we got married.  That's when she realized she like her pet more then building a family together.
When you move from a dating relationship to marriage, definitely there's a common goal after marriage to nurture. For example, have children, build a dream house, do a business, etc. that both of you will you work together to achieve it.  After the pet came in, i do not have any OUR time together anymore and she focus mostly on the pet, which is not want i want, is she want. 

Going out - we can't be away for whole day, need to feed the dog, fetch the dog from "dog daycare center", etc. This is not the life i want with my lifetime partner, my friend.

Well, i have friend similar to TS situation, but luckily they are not married yet, still got time to think.

TS really need to sit down, get a formal talk. IF hard, then pay some $$, get a mediator/consultant/lawyer to host the talk. Casual talk/discussion wont help, it will probaly come out with "ok ok ok, we see how then"

Post #2 & Post #3 obviously dont understand the actual situation, how things changes over time. TS emphasized he wan kids, and he is not pet type person, u still ask TS to go along -.-

Like you said, a dog life span, at best 10+ years ... A child is a lifetime ...

Hmm, did you try to find out why she does that ? Is she using the dog to prepare herself ?

After you do have a child, whatever that you were experiencing now will some what be similar, there are places where you can't bring your kid (bar, etc), whenever you travel you will have to check here check there, bring stroller, let say when you two want to have your "own" time, you will be worried about your child ...

All in all ... do have and try to have a talk with your wife ... wish you all the best !

Finally there is saying :-
寧教人打仔，莫教人分妻

You are in ur late 30s, what about her? Late 30s as well?

2 years marriage not conceive yet..hv both of u done fertility test?

Yes she is in her mid 30s too.. and no we have not done any fertility test.

I know a women can still conceive at her age but there will always be risk.  I feel it’s abit too late now. 

Anyway, like I said having children together is no longer in the picture.  If so, I do not know how to continue with this marriage.

i had my kids when I was in my late 30s and my wife in mid 30s

it's not too late now

Yes she is in her mid 30s too.. and no we have not done any fertility test.

I know a women can still conceive at her age but there will always be risk.  I feel it’s abit too late now. 

Anyway, like I said having children together is no longer in the picture.  If so, I do not know how to continue with this marriage.

With the current situation, i reckon having children (if lucky) will turn from bad to worst as my partner does not have the intention to have kids.  Even after we welcome the kids, anything happened sure will backfired and blame will be put on each other, and it all back to square one. 

By then, a divorce may make more difficult particularly on the children custody, etc. 

So the discussion to sit down, talk and discuss on family planning is not a viable option.

I think comparing a dog and a children do have some similarities but in fact they are really big difference.. at least the children exist because of love between 2 individuals but dog can be any dog (be it from the shop it was purchased from or from the street etc..)

As for this quote 寧教人打仔，莫教人分妻, I don’t really agree as I feel that is should not be a taboo to break off if love doesn’t exist anymore, no point being together for the sake of being together especially in our era where things have changed so rapidly..

Yes she is in her mid 30s too.. and no we have not done any fertility test.

I know a women can still conceive at her age but there will always be risk.  I feel it’s abit too late now. 

Anyway, like I said having children together is no longer in the picture.  If so, I do not know how to continue with this marriage.

With the current situation, i reckon having children (if lucky) will turn from bad to worst as my partner does not have the intention to have kids.  Even after we welcome the kids, anything happened sure will backfired and blame will be put on each other, and it all back to square one. 

By then, a divorce may make more difficult particularly on the children custody, etc. 

So the discussion to sit down, talk and discuss on family planning is not a viable option.

Hmm, do you still remember why you would marry her ? Any recollection of the good days ? Is it still worth it ?

TS using waifu dog issue, blow it up and make it a big deal to divorce his wife😆😆
A man will know what other man unconsiously have in mind  

So I have been married to my partner where we know each other for 10 years (married for 2 years quite recently).  Along these years, we are just a happily ever after couple but our relationship/bonding changed after my wife decided to have a dog (thanks to MCO) and this was an impulse decision - we did not discuss what and how if we were to have a pet. 

After the pet came, our marriage life change drastically where my wife will put all the time and effort to the dog (treating it as if like is her own kid).  We have been discussing and i stressed that i want to have kid, but she would not be able to commit.  We have been petting the dog for 3 years now and our daily routine is nothing but all about the dog now. Wherever I plan to go (like a short trip or so), she will be worried for her dog, as you know in MY not everywhere is pet friendly place. 

I'm not a pet person and i do not enjoy walking the dog in the park, pet cafe hopping, pet gathering etc.  I'm in my late 30s now and i do not want to carry on with this lifestyle for the next 10 years (assume the dog can live for another 10 years).  I have a good career and ultimately i want to have a family but not with the dog.

After all these, i have been thinking for a divorce.  We have been discussing/deep talk this few times and did not managed to come a conclusion (she will not let go of her pet/and I'm not willing to go on for my remainder of my life with the dog).  If i were to compromise and accept the dog as a family, i will not be happy and it will not be marriage life i want. 

Additional info - I'm a man with no bad habits, typical house-husband type that does all the housework.  So i do not think my wife attitude change cos of some bad from me. Just FYI. 

Please my friend, your two cents of advice would be very much helpful to me.

TLDR:
Both married with no kids
Wife have a pet dog but husband dont like
Husband want to have kids but wife not able to commit
Divorce??
Reconcile??

because it's easier to take care of a dog compared to a child

it's also much cheaper to take care of a dog compared to a child
Not really.  The monies she spent on the dog, is as much or even more expensive for a children.  Premium food, day care, vet, pet shirt, stroller and bags, etc.

it also requires less time to take care of a dog compared to a child
Yes in a away.  But she spent most of her free time accompanying the dog on her free time, i.e. after work, weekend.

it's also less stressful on a woman's body by having a dog
This one i agreed.

one caution
even if she eventually agrees to have a child, she would put all the blame on you if anything untoward happens

Divorce is the only solution

Looks like your wife put the pet first before you and she is not able to balance you and the dog which make you rant in this forum.

1. Some serious discussion need to take place
- Dog lifestyle :
a. If travel, what are the plans
- Pet friendly hotel, food etc
b. If dog social activities (i.e dog walking, vet check etc ), who is responsible and what are the plans?
This is the concern.  We did travel before, putting the pet in a pet hotel.  But my partner just so worried about the dog and we do not enjoy the trip at all.

- Husband need :
a. Travel plan
b. Social plan
c. Leisure plan
Mostly yes.  I feel a married couple should have balanced the sequence of priority but all came into disappointment.