Good piece, some highlights:

Children for what ?

Children for what ?

that why many bullshet, make child n throw it to grandparent

when u are young u regret having children...

when u are old.. u will regret not having children

A lot of those that regret are due to not being prepared. They have no inkling on how to be a parent or different expectation of the child.

Last time got own parents stay with you so they teach and help you. Now is all yolo style.

Pls go google, youtube and learn how to be a parent. Learn the basics what need to do and things to prepare. It's a lifelong learning skill.

The kid will only bother you for 20 years, that's only a quarter of your life. Cherish it.

A lot of pubic got it wrong. It is not the task of present generation alone themselves to raise the children. Raising the children, you need the combination of 3 generations - there is proverb stating "it takes a village to raise a child". If any of these elements are missing, you will experience the extreme condition to raise the children.

If the elder generation refuse / not willing to help the current generation in raising a next generation, thing is a lot more difficult. If you have elder parent who loves the children, raising the younger generation will be much more easier. No new parent have the experience to raise the children except the previous generation - this is the fact.

What is scarce nowadays is the "quality time". The period of raising the children from new born to 3 ~ 4 years old is the most tedious & difficult. It will drain away a lot of you daily energy if the mother is working + no one is helping out. If you experience this, you will be certain to think twice to have another newborn & repeat the process again. This process itself creates fear even to the couple earning decent living.

Nowadays, a lot of the previous generation emphasis on freedom of living, asking them to take care their grandchildren is a no no as they will feel that their time will be "binded" toward the commitment. 

Those who have the previous generation who loves the children & willing to do anything for their grandchildren are the most blessed couple out there.

i don't know about you guys.

but my 22 month baby sometime just out of nowhere come and hug me and say love you.

if i am hurt or saw any part of my body bleeding, she will just go and sayang that part.

every night without fail, light off she will say night night and love you to both of us before tido.

i don't even know if she understood what it was or not.

anyway, it was the best gift i can ever have.

problem is the kid is carsiew. mentally challenged from the get go, although physically abled...surprise muthafarka!

child is not burden, i view child as gift from god. we tried ivf for 2 years still x jadi, we plan to adopt

nowadays don't talk about 1 area/section/ village 1st, just your left and right neighbor do you really build good relationship with them? Many doesn't, don't know them is 1 thing, don't even talk or greet but want to geh poh matters of others is worst.  i'm lucky my neighbors are quite friendly as long you are friendly and chill. my children even interact with them.

  i'm a father of 2... of course i know their rebellious stage but i still have to prepare myself for their teen rebellious stage  even my elder son who is 6, still quite rebellious at times but i know it's bcoz he is scared that he fail to achieve 1 matter. my young son is 4 and everyday still dealing with drama  but i'm very grateful he has stopped pampers and pacifier earlier than many kids, even than his brother. 

  if my in law still around, i know my kids will be spoiled to rot, especially my in laws loves boy than girl. my parent are still working as it's their business thus is a no no. once a while play around is ok. for now we are still doing our best for our children with minimum helps from others. but still i'm grateful that my in law's maid is helping to take care of my monkeys during weekdays.

i've seen more happy childless old folks than old folks with many children who dumped them in old folks or go overseas and never visit eventhough dying in hospital beed