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ameliorate
post Apr 24 2024, 09:33 AM

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Instead, after electing to be a stay-at-home mother, Robin found herself in what she calls “the domestic gulag,” a life that consisted of being “a chauffeur and an arranger and an appointment setter and a social secretary and a party planner and a chef and a meal planner and a budgeter” and “an emergency nurse and a night nurse and a psychologist and a confidant.”

What is wrong with that? That's call being a mother and taking care of another human being.

She prefers to party all the time instead?

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post Apr 24 2024, 11:20 AM

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A lot of those that regret are due to not being prepared. They have no inkling on how to be a parent or different expectation of the child.

Last time got own parents stay with you so they teach and help you. Now is all yolo style.

Pls go google, youtube and learn how to be a parent. Learn the basics what need to do and things to prepare. It's a lifelong learning skill.

The kid will only bother you for 20 years, that's only a quarter of your life. Cherish it.


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post Apr 24 2024, 11:57 AM

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QUOTE(V3i HoN6 @ Apr 24 2024, 11:24 AM)
how bout 'no'.
It's true any loving grandparents will want to participate and this do help, but It's not the grandparents 'task' per se.
They can participate when they are willing and available, but it should not be expected to.
Congratulations.
It's a reflection of you and your partner for being lovely and caring.
Of course personality is a thing that born with, she's naturally more lovely but that is only 1 side of a human being, and human are much more complex.
Be ready to find out in other department that she's lacking and ready to help her with those, like she could be later on too soft, afraid of confrontation, lack of competitiveness, unambitious and prefer stable life. (Im not saying she is, just example and not necessarily a bad thing also if she' cruising well in life).
What i meant is people wont be perfect, don't be contended for how lovely she is now, but still strive to give her guidance in all ways of life, so she can be great and well balanced.

Happy for you.
most likely the parents are charsiew too.
Charsiew doesnt grow one day, is a bbq'ing process of continuously many many years.

I've been observing many many years, people been roasting charsiew themselves, and guess who have to face the consequences the most?
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Correct. If the kids are charsiew, it's the parent's fault. Always, without fail, no ifs and buts.

Kids mimic their parents, you don't even realize it. One day you'll surprise pikachu how come there's a mini me in the house, lol.

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post Apr 24 2024, 10:09 PM

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QUOTE(Koranshita @ Apr 24 2024, 09:23 PM)
No baby here, already over 40y
No regrets langsung.
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If you've never tried it, there's nothing to regret.

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post Apr 26 2024, 09:41 AM

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QUOTE(Bananahead @ Apr 26 2024, 09:28 AM)
People without children are miserable when they get old.
My superior is a childless and unmarried man. He is so free that he even works on weekends and kacau us, all my colleagues who are married all share the same ill feeling towards him. We all agree that these unmarried middle aged people are miserable and immatured, despite their age.
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Yes, I know one old spinster as well. Always look for things to do. She will go holiday for couple months at a time by herself. Just wandering from country to country, stay in hostel or any cheap lodgings.

If you don't want children, at least get married. Humans are social creatures, no man is an island. Once you get older you will realize is so lonely.

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post Apr 27 2024, 10:06 AM

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QUOTE(xpole @ Apr 27 2024, 09:55 AM)
This is the problem with the mentality of Asian people.

Judgemental towards individual that decided to become single and they don't want any marriage or children.

Do you know that person may experienced life trauma during her life? Abuse from family members? Sexual Assault? Confused sexual orientation and many more?

Marriage is not a solution.

Who cares on what she wants to do with her free time. At least she has her own hobbies and money to spend.
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To clarify, she was the one who complained to me nobody wants to go with her. She is lonely.

Forever alone can only last so long. You will be miserable after a while, of course you can hide it but we know.

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post Apr 27 2024, 10:43 AM

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QUOTE(swanlover @ Apr 27 2024, 10:18 AM)
Life without love or home is pretty sad..
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Especially if you fall sick. You will realize how fragile you really are when old, sick and alone. When young and strong you feel invincible, don't need anybody.

So those determined to be forever alone, make sure you're filthy rich when old. That can alleviate some of those issues. Otherwise...


 

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