regret not having baby at old age or regret have a baby during young age?

which regret runs deeper?

A lot of pubic got it wrong. It is not the present generation alone themselves to raise the children. Raising the children, you need the combination of 3 generations - there is proverb stating "it takes a village to raise a child". If any of these elements are missing, you will experience the extreme condition to raise the children.

If the elder generation refuse / not willing to help the current generation in raising a next generation, thing is a lot more difficult. If you have elder parent who loves the children, raising the younger generation will be much more easier. No new parent have the experience to raise the children except the previous generation - this is the fact.

What is scarce nowadays is the "quality time". The period of raising the children from new born to 3 ~ 4 years old is the most tedious & difficult. It will drain away a lot of you daily energy if the mother is working + no one is helping out. If you experience this, you will be certain to think twice to have another newborn & repeat the process again. This process itself creates fear even to the couple earning decent living.

Nowadays, a lot of the previous generation emphasis on freedom of living, asking them to take care their grandchildren is a no no as they will feel that their time will be "binded" toward the commitment. 

Those who have the previous generation who loves the children & willing to do anything for their grandchildren are the most blessed couple out there.

That’s scary. Kids sleeping with eyes open like fish

or hire full time maids, childcare or send to tahfiz

A lot of pubic got it wrong. It is not the task of present generation alone themselves to raise the children. Raising the children, you need the combination of 3 generations - there is proverb stating "it takes a village to raise a child". If any of these elements are missing, you will experience the extreme condition to raise the children.

If the elder generation refuse / not willing to help the current generation in raising a next generation, thing is a lot more difficult. If you have elder parent who loves the children, raising the younger generation will be much more easier. No new parent have the experience to raise the children except the previous generation - this is the fact.

What is scarce nowadays is the "quality time". The period of raising the children from new born to 3 ~ 4 years old is the most tedious & difficult. It will drain away a lot of you daily energy if the mother is working + no one is helping out. If you experience this, you will be certain to think twice to have another newborn & repeat the process again. This process itself creates fear even to the couple earning decent living.

Nowadays, a lot of the previous generation emphasis on freedom of living, asking them to take care their grandchildren is a no no as they will feel that their time will be "binded" toward the commitment. 

Those who have the previous generation who loves the children & willing to do anything for their grandchildren are the most blessed couple out there.

i don't know about you guys.

but my 22 month baby sometime just out of nowhere come and hug me and say love you.

if i am hurt or saw any part of my body bleeding, she will just go and sayang that part.

every night without fail, light off she will say night night and love you to both of us before tido.

i don't even know if she understood what it was or not.

anyway, it was the best gift i can ever have.

for now still an angel, after 3 years old here comes the devil    if after 3 years old yet still an angel, you are one of the luckiest father

  all i can say is enjoy and cherish the moment as long as you can.