Syawal should be the time for joy & celebration but Im not in the mood for anything.

It was Ramadan when this happened:



I got involved with a girl in my workplace.

To make it more complicated, she is someone’s wife, newlywed.

She is asking how I feel.
She is asking my thoughts on this.

I truly like her but if I tell her the truth, will I make this more complicated?

What should I tell her so that I wont hurt her feelings?

Thanks

Book 5 star hotel not so easy kena tangkap

Home wrecker!
Home wrecker!
Home Wrecker!

ask yourself this: would you like your future wife to do the same to you? just married recently but already can fall in love with other guys

I hope the girl will reflect and contemplate her inappropriate relationship and stay committed to her marriage

I dont think i will have future wife

Im the type who can’t commit to a stable relationship and I dont have 5Cs to attract girls to marry me

I only drive a Perodua Ativa, and I only have RM22 with spare change in my bank account, until I get paid on Friday when bank is opened for business



But I understand where u r coming from.

You want me to empathize with the husband.

F (the girl) told me about him. A lot about him.

I tried to empathize, but I feel that I hate him more for treating her with cold shoulders.

It is not her fault that she strayed because the husband didn’t provide her with warmth and tender loving care that she deserved as a newly wed wife.



Her last 2 sentences, makes me think whether Im being used for her satisfaction instead?

Whoa...TS in a position to green hat another guy

Wow. Your paramour writes very well. I'm impressed.

if you don't mind going to hell can just play along with her. but still go meet other girls.

Postgraduate
T10 family background, English educated

Petite, intelligent, attractive, well-groomed, well-dressed, pretty, smart, sharp, kind, playful, my vocabulary is limited, I dont know how to describe her

I don't know if you're lucky or unlucky.

If divorce is an option, and she doesn't have any kids, might be worth to go for it if you really love her.

I know of cases where it worked out (divorced and married the lover and had a long marriage) and cases where it didn't work out (divorced and married the lover and divorced again not long after).

Dont be sohai. She keeping you as a side piece.

I thought about it too but there is saying which I always remind myself of:

Ukur baju di badan sendiri

I wont be able to afford her lavish lifestyle, when we go out buka puasa also she paid everything

I dont think she can divorce too. Just got married. No kids. Rich husband.

She wont be able to handle the embarrassment & family pressure. I dont want her to regret later when we can only afford plain porridge and ikan masin.

Ain't TS always at /k punya why suddenly bukak at Cupid?
Tapi percaya you babi pun boleh panjat pokok 😂😂

My life is already a living hell.

Another girl Im seeing has a gangster sugardaddy

i think TS just trolling.. cerita sensasi
anyone with a clear conscious mind will stay away from this nonsense..
maybe the hubby is enjoy reading what happen between u two, being a hulk 😆

As a pretext, I'm non Muslim so I will not say anything in relation to your religion, but I'll come purely from my personal moral compass / how I think a human should behave:

This looks all cute and innocent at start...
"Continue being friends"
" I aware I'm being very selfish...."

Oh wait nvm, funny she wrote "what I'm feeling isn't purely lust for you (would be much easier if it was)". This is a big red flag. So it's okay for her to fuck around as someone's wife? I cannot imagine any husband agreeing to that lol. She WANTS to cheat both emotionally and physically...

"Of course there's sexual tension but we never let that lead the conversation ."
...except, she ALREADY crossed the line with her text below.

... But this here confirms to me that she is not doing her role as a wife/committed partner and she's telling her story in a way that benefits her.

In any relationship, if there's a problem, it is often** two-way.
(**exception: domestic violence or abusive relationship)

What has she done for the husband so far? It's easy to take your partner for granted as time passes and/or when you're really preoccupied with your own life -- her having a job. I'm not saying she should quit her job, but I think she's taking the easy way out by looking for a quick romantic connection outside her committed relationship. I believe in fixing a relationship with your partner first, and that includes keeping the problems private so you create a safe bubble for the relationship without external judgement. That means, you as the third party should have never heard anything bad about her husband.

Now, she's definitely part of the problem especially for the fact she said such irresponsible lewd things to a coworker. No sane platonic friend of the opposite sex would describe his/her sex activities this vividly to the other. She's obviously luring you in to cross the line with her.

We do not know the husband enough to pass judgement that he is or isn't doing his role as a husband, but her actions so far tells me SHE is not.

My advice: no.

---Edit:
Lol are you for real?

I guess I should've heeded /k advice, mmg resident troll ni haih

This post has been edited by Takudan: Apr 10 2024, 08:53 PM

Impressed, as always......

U do know he is trolling right?

Her husband doesnt know

Office romance is common

Im not trolling

I have girls around because Im single and available. Im not the one cheating.

They know Im a low hanging fruit. I am approachable, easy to talk to and girls dont see me as a threat because I have what they call “lepat pisang” face.

Itulah my edit later, thought one cool story may be true enough so I gave the benefit of doubt, then he gave a cooler story 🙄

But ehh we have a resident monkey torturer, I won't be surprised if he's real and some time later stops posting because some big shot wants him dead for screwing with his girl 🤷‍♀️

Just choose reject or accept and suffer the consequences.

What? U looking for enough moral police to stop u?


Oh waiiiiiiii

Yes I admit that we CROSSED the line, it was a spur of the moment thing. We just finished visiting the Opera House and she asked if we could have some private moments.

We promised that we would put it behind us, what happened in Oslo remained in Oslo.



She was not happy with her marriage. Not happy with her husband. Not happy with her in law. Not happy with her family. She was going crazy and decided that if she was going crazy, she might as well unleash her insanity on me.

I dont condone her behaviour but I can empathize with what she is going through.

I told her Im also seeing other girls but she assured me that there is no strings attached. I can say Im gullible. I never connect to anyone like her. I was struggling with my moral and religious compass too.

The needle went crazy.

I dont meet her anymore like I told her in the text

She kept luring me, telling me “daddy is sick, can’t go out” etc

There are eyes around. I dont wanna take the risk.

I just wanna let it out of my chest

I feel bad for getting involved. If I wanted to reject I should have rejected earlier.

Not when the rice has become the proverbial porridge

Did you know she was engaged prior?

nah no way the k troll also has setori in romance

but whatever, is not me to judge whether ur story real or not, just see this base on a case basis, if true story

u cant fix her or anything around her, her husband that's her matter, she consented to the marriage, she chose that path to follow that man, even if she complained to u about her husband matters, what can u do? persuade her to divorce her husband? morally, dont do it, that's her business unless ur in it for the lust

and the gangsta story, distance urself if u dont want to become news material, find other girls but not this one, u dont want to mess with gangstas

She initiated crossing the line and you accepted it - I've said enough about her by now, but you've been thinking with your small head so far... What does your big head think?

Whatever you guys said so far holds no weight at all, you both have been eating up your own words lol. "Whatever happened in Oslo stays in Oslo"? Bro you're sharing a saved photo on your phone to the internet of your porridge and you both continued to talk about things you shouldn't (the sex talk in your previous post).

"no strings attached" konon, she's literally STRINGING you to be her shining knight in armour to save her from her broken marriage with all those words.

If you truly feel bad then end it and throw the porridge away. Change job if you must but do not contact her anymore. If she values her face so much, she should know better: cheating is a huge embarrassment to herself and it hurts everyone around her. You as the third wheel, will be condemned by society. Everybody loses.

You'll only have your chance after she breaks off her marriage and dealt with her emotional baggage. People will raise eyebrows if she immediately jumps into a relationship with you after divorce, so you'll have no choice but to wait it out a few months.

I knew her way before she had sugardaddy

She asked me to support her financially but i couldnt afford to pay for what she wanted

So she went to get a sugardaddy instead.

This is a different girl. Not the colleague

I definitely can’t and not in a position to fix her problem.

The way i see it now, I can only be a sanctuary for her to be herself (she said she can’t be herself with her husband and also her in law, staying under the same roof)

She said her only escape is when she is with me, free to be herself without putting on a mask of a goody wife and a goody daughter in law

She felt restrained in that house, with rules n regulations, family events every weekend, entertaining guests, cooking, preparing meals for guests, and long golf games.

Whenever the husband is busy, her in law send her to office. She doesnt have her “me time”.



It is like prison. Or under parole. Or surveillance.

these kind of stories
-trying to woo a girl from own working place
-trying to sleep with someone wife

all stemp from lack of security, seeking validations
It feels like a trophy being able to temporarily get a physical thing, ie money or a married woman attention (in your case)

ive been on a period where sleeping with a female who seems "higher" quality than mine (primarily from her looks) i thought its going to enhance my status. It could be, but the state is always like a tidal wave. It will crash at anytime

Do you really want to live like this where everything outside yourself, is able to influence you with the fact that you dont even realize who are you/why are you coming to this earth?

I gave you a deep perspective to start thinking.

Talking about your colleague you banged in Norway.

Didn’t know she got engaged.

Didn’t know she got married

Knew her for a year. Hi bye

life's short, go for it and enjoy the ride while you can

Not really seeking validation or a trophy or anything.

She didn’t even tell me she was married in the beginning.

We were just colleagues, hi bye colleagues.

Texting only started when there was a project that required collaboration between our department.

I dont like small talk. I didn’t ask personal questions in professional settings. She did most of the talking. And the conversation flow naturally.

I dont know how to flirt. Im not far from kayu, 🪵 or blur sotong 🦑.

People say “bertepuk sebelah tangan takkan berbunyi”. I feel stupid for fueling the first spark of infidelity.

Was just curious....

Sorry to hear that

So what are you trying to achieve?
Do you want to smash or just being a keyboard righteous warrior?

This kind of scenario very simple & straight forward. Married ppl = these ppl have taken their vow. We do not interfere with their matters. As simple as that. If simple thing like this also so hard to make decision, you are going to have a lot of trouble in your day to day decision making.

Before this you don't know her marital status - that was history. After you know about it, is it still so hard to make a decision?

It is hard to make decision because we are made from flesh and blood.

If she was robot & I were washing machine maybe it is easy to unplug and switch off.

Married people who made the vow live happily ever after. She is not happy, and what she wanted in a marriage was not there. Her husband needed a trophy wife, keeps her in a cage, and chains her on a leash.

I know thats not my role or responsibility to meddle in her marriage. But now it has already happened. We had a long talk. U can see she is trapped in between a hard place and a hard wall.

We enjoy each other’s company. It is not easy to wake up from this dream.

You is the problem. You can ignore her but you decided to continue, as simple as that.

Assuming this story is true..

Best thing for TS is to advice this woman friend to remember her marriage vows and to work harder to be a good wife.

She is working hard to be a good wife.

She wants to build her family, she wants a baby, but her husband doesnt want baby. Both of them have different wants



Her husband doesnt do his part, and doesnt even fulfill her physical & emotional needs

Her husband only care about his golf



And his golf time is the chance for our rendezvous

Which I start to feel that Im being… i dont know the English equivalent, but in BM: tempat melampiaskan nafsu

She wants babies so badly that she asked me not to use protection, to inseminate her.

Will I be a surrogate father?

💯 with nihility here. At this point you're just enabling this infidelity for your own and her convenience/enjoyment. I can put on a troll /ktard hat and tell you ATTABOY but you know it better than anyone else, you're a moth helplessly attracted to a strong fire and you know you're dooming yourself sooner or later.

I'm sorry you were lured in unknowing of her marital status. Here I'll agree you were the victim of her seduction and irresponsibility, but as mentioned - NOW you know, you KNOW there's the next correct step to do. Are you following through?

Reread what I said earlier. It's easy to give in to temptations and the immediate fun times, you and her together. Everything you say now is just an attempt to gain validation/sympathy for the wrongs you both already committed. I can sympathise with her difficulty in her marriage, but I will not support her continued acts of infidelity. Frankly speaking, I find your conversation below disgusting.

LMAO your small head is speaking louder right now. Wake the fuck up, I'll bet you got turned on by that idea. Don't bring in a child born of infidelity, you will ruin MANY lives including your own.

Just imagine if you're that child born of you, the third wheel, and the cheating wife. The child would find out sooner or later and this will mess him/her childhood, a pivotal part of life to form his/her personality -- you will be creating a broken child into a broken family. It'd be so much easier if she just divorces her husband first then settle with you later.

Look, I understand that some people may find their soulmate/loved one outside/past their marriage. My father had a mistress and eventually my parents got divorced and he settled with his mistress. Many years later, she stayed with him throughout his battle with cancer -- she supported him in the hospital, personally cleaned his vomit, blood and literal shit in his final days and cried the most in his funeral. I'm glad for him that she took care of him until the end, because he already lost us siblings many years ago when he chose that woman. That's what it means to cheat: you needlessly sacrifice many for the one.

I thought Malaysia got one archaic law about a man messing about with another man’s wife? Where that man can sue you in court for tempting his wife with sex?

Yes, that law which Daphne Iking’s husband used on the man she fucked around with.

But I guess since you both (TS and his ‘lover’) are Muslims, maybe you both ought to fear the wrath of God more.

TS being small white face?

I feel deeply sorry for her.

You want to help relief her deepest sorrow as a lady. It shows that you are a kind soul.

However the way you are carrying out with her, isn't effective and beneficial for her in the long runs, and instead is going to invite more troubles for her and for your kind self.

There are much better ways you can help her.

If you truly like her but unable together due to her married status, then, upgrade your love to her to something that bring her towards a stronger and better person.

Try to convince and invite her read
"Surah Al-Waqiah", "sebagai Doa Harian ", consistently.
It's a very sacred and helpful for Malay ladies.

Then you take a smart exit.

She is married into a big elite and probably powerful family. You never know what their family members would do onto you at your back, or ask some groups of ppl do onto you, once things got found out.

The best way to avoid "Dendam" being instilled in the husband and the family's heart, is to steer clear of a married lady.

By this, you accumulate great merits.
For your own protection in the sense of your valuable live and your careers. In the times to come.

And the highest form of love a man to a lady he believes he loves at heart, is to help the lady achieving to be a lady of mentally and emotionally strong, and to be better and greater in various aspects of life.

Pls forgive me if any above words felt like offensive.

TS, if this woman that you are referring to is not fat and ugly, then her HB is gay.

ask her to file for divorce cos in Islamic law, heard that there are provisions or the wife to ask for divorce if the HB can't fulfill his husband duties

then you and her can decide what to do or you can just piap her but make sure you don't cream pie her

Thanks for sharing your first hand experience and your family’s dark history.

I hope your father rest in peace with his decision.

I dont have kids to sacrifice for 1. Now it is 3 persons, 1 will get hurt

The husband doesnt know yet. So he is not hurt
F is torn between 2 men
I might sacrifice myself, and let myself be severed from this relationship

God is definitely punishing me now

It is raining now, dark & gloomy day, on Hari Raya.



I have no mood to beraya also.

I dreamed about her last night, running, as if something is chasing us.

😱

I should have seek Cupid’s Corner advice much much earlier!!!



Oh no, oh shit, oh my god 😭

Thanks for your wishes. I'm sorry but I don't think you got my point fully...

Marriage is not just union of 2 individuals; it is a union of two families. Both families will be affected by the infidelity and eventual divorce. At the very least, wife's family will be ashamed of her. Husband WILL know sooner or later, and that's when the hurt comes to all.

Least hurt is when you both agree to break it off cleanly. You both started the fire so both need to take responsibility, hurt now better than hurt more later.

We decided to end it last night and chat until 230am



She asked me to end it and make her cry

I decided to pull the plug 🔌

My world went dark

Pitch black

Thanks for sharing bro 🙏🏻

Your words are profound and inspiring, not offensive at all

It came at the right time, and brought me closer to the right path

Yes I might be a kind soul, but the road to hell is paved with good intentions

“Dendam” is a dangerous thing, and I dont want to merangkak at Padang Masyar to seek for forgiveness

She is just too good to be true.

Starting with “bibit percintaan” which became “tanah semaian yg subur utk iblis & setan”, I guessed the devils were having a party linking both of us together.

Celaka punya setan

rat see trap, but don't see trap. rat go trap. rat kena trap. the end.

human make trap. human put trap. human camouflage trap. human won't won't kena trap.

moral: if you know what is trap and see from far already know is trap, why even go near trap?

rat see trap, but don't see trap. rat go trap. rat kena trap. the end.

human make trap. human put trap. human camouflage trap. human won't won't kena trap.

moral: if you know what is trap and see from far already know is trap, why even go near trap?

If she can't connect to her new husband, why the heck did she just marry him in the first place?

She is obviously looking for a distraction or escape from whatever that's going on in her new marriage. Seems like there's a lot going on under the water.

This is a minefield that, as a bachelor, you do not even need to navigate through.

If she has ended it, then she has spared you a world of unnecessary pain.

Anybody can lie to be in a relationship, simply by condemning the other party. The motive here is to gain your sympathy. As a newlywed, I wish her the best in her future endeavors. To me, you are just a pawn in this game. Get out before it's too late and things started to get bloody.

This post has been edited by Savor_Savvy: Apr 14 2024, 08:21 PM

Because trap can appear in many forms and camouflage

Trap can also be so well packaged and decorated that it looked like a sanctuary

Men had been the victim of seduction since the beginning of time.

Adam was deceived by the Serpent, via Eve’s temptations, to take a bite of the forbidden fruit.

My will was weaketh, and my body succumbed to the pleasure of flesh.

Stay away. Fear the wrath of God. Nothing good will come from this.

Don’t think we need to say anymore.

wow ada vellfire with drivers

TS, if you are for real, cut communications with both this girl and the other one who has a gangster sugardaddy.

Or you might appear in the news one day.

Yes we kinda agree to end it

But we still on instagram

I saw her IG story, she said she was nauseous this morning

So I asked if she is pregnant



She said no

We have reduced our texting now after the shooting case in KLIA

https://www.channelnewsasia.com/asia/klia-s...manhunt-4264166

I worry the next one might be me

Dah la tu
Said cut contact but still message...

TS dreaming

Tanya jer

Mana tau kalau pregnant

Fuh lega

TLDR


Gatal!!!!

They have been dating for ages. For donkey years.
They were the first for each other. They had gone through a lot together. Their family knows each other. They are more like friends. Best friends.


True. Im the distraction. I provided her shoulder, listening ears, sympathies and my heart. She cling to me and i became her air under the water.

Im still in pain

I still see her daily life in instagram. We dont talk anymore but i know where she is going and what she is doing. She wants to meet this Saturday.

I dont know if i should meet her

Dude which part of cut her off do you not understand? No more following her on IG. Unfollow her. No more messaging her. Get a new number and cut off the old one. Cut her off completely. Block her even if you have to. If you don't cut her off, you and her cannot move on.

Of course unless secretly you don't want to move on la. Or you are hoping to be her knight.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Apr 18 2024, 08:10 PM

This

Dude.. this is the classic takde pasal cari pasal. Don’t talk about religion, ethics, moral bla bla.. it just simply a problem that you don’t need unless it’s worth fighting for.

Totally agree with Ramjade. cut off means blocking and unfriending her on every social media and don't even stalk her if her media is set to public. Block and delete all her number. After both decided to break off and now want to meet again. If you do decide to meet then don't update here how you are feeling, how you miss her messages, want to get back etc. It will be a never ending circle until something bad happen

If she wants to meet you, just make sure you dont get caught
otherwise whats the point of interacting with a married woman
If you want hanky panky, its more comfortable to find a divorced woman, or even girls with boyfriends

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Apr 22 2024, 09:46 AM

How is ts doing?
Work at Oslo at least t10 level

I hope you are doing ok now, TS….

Im still alive

She is back in Malaysia



She wanted to meet but i dont dare to reply her

I worry I wont be able to control myself and I will break my promise to all of you to end this relationship

It has been eating me from inside, like cancer

Thanks

Im ok.

No one came to knock on my door in the middle of the night

Then the message in the other thread is same girl or different one?

cool story brother

Bro, I’m as lost as you are on this one…. Troll or no troll? Like you said, /k is full of monkey rapists, invisible jaguar drivers, impossible IELTS results, iPhone splurgers and 40 Million RM men….

True story bro

Thanks for the clarification bro. In this case, here is my humble opinion, based on these assumptions from what you’ve mentioned;

1. You’re educated, and judging from the responses you’ve given thus far, with a much better than average command of English, which means ergo probably at least degree level and/or above.

2. You’re obviously at a certain level at work - be it management level or senior technical level, as you shared an (albeit unrelated) encounter with a different colleague in Oslo with the readers. Oslo isn’t your run of the mill tourist trap so I would therefore surmise you were there for purposes of work.

3. You’re a Muslim, but as to how pious you might be, that’s not immediately apparent

4. She’s married, and apparently married well (at the very least, into money).

From these assumptions, I dare say you have too much to lose in terms of your potential career pathway, as well as in terms of your own standing amongst your friends and colleagues, should things with this infatuation develop into something more than just a longing or desire.

And there’s also the aspect of how you can possibly reconcile this with your own religious upbringing.

Ultimately, the hierarchy for consideration is, IMHO, what will this do to your reputation (amongst mutual friends and family and colleagues), and if you don’t care too much about that, what about your career (you cannot discount what reactionary measures her well connected husband make take that can sully your professional standing), and if that still doesn’t bother you, then you’ll have to answer to God.

Easy for me to list it out as a neutral third party without any vested interest whatsoever… much harder for you to dissect and tease out the facts from the feelings, the head from the heart and the logic from the love.

I wish you all the best.

This post has been edited by hksgmy: Jun 3 2024, 12:12 PM

Thanks for the advice

I already left the company and now looking for new job

It is not healthy to have such relationship in company.

I feel violated every time she asked for hanky panky

All the very best bro.

anymore update?

TS already left the company….

sos?