As a pretext, I'm non Muslim so I will not say anything in relation to your religion, but I'll come purely from my personal moral compass / how I think a human should behave:

This looks all cute and innocent at start...
"Continue being friends"
" I aware I'm being very selfish...."

Oh wait nvm, funny she wrote "what I'm feeling isn't purely lust for you (would be much easier if it was)". This is a big red flag. So it's okay for her to fuck around as someone's wife? I cannot imagine any husband agreeing to that lol. She WANTS to cheat both emotionally and physically...

"Of course there's sexual tension but we never let that lead the conversation ."
...except, she ALREADY crossed the line with her text below.

... But this here confirms to me that she is not doing her role as a wife/committed partner and she's telling her story in a way that benefits her.

In any relationship, if there's a problem, it is often** two-way.
(**exception: domestic violence or abusive relationship)

What has she done for the husband so far? It's easy to take your partner for granted as time passes and/or when you're really preoccupied with your own life -- her having a job. I'm not saying she should quit her job, but I think she's taking the easy way out by looking for a quick romantic connection outside her committed relationship. I believe in fixing a relationship with your partner first, and that includes keeping the problems private so you create a safe bubble for the relationship without external judgement. That means, you as the third party should have never heard anything bad about her husband.

Now, she's definitely part of the problem especially for the fact she said such irresponsible lewd things to a coworker. No sane platonic friend of the opposite sex would describe his/her sex activities this vividly to the other. She's obviously luring you in to cross the line with her.

We do not know the husband enough to pass judgement that he is or isn't doing his role as a husband, but her actions so far tells me SHE is not.

My advice: no.

---Edit:
Lol are you for real?

I guess I should've heeded /k advice, mmg resident troll ni haih

This post has been edited by Takudan: Apr 10 2024, 08:53 PM

Itulah my edit later, thought one cool story may be true enough so I gave the benefit of doubt, then he gave a cooler story 🙄

But ehh we have a resident monkey torturer, I won't be surprised if he's real and some time later stops posting because some big shot wants him dead for screwing with his girl 🤷‍♀️

She initiated crossing the line and you accepted it - I've said enough about her by now, but you've been thinking with your small head so far... What does your big head think?

Whatever you guys said so far holds no weight at all, you both have been eating up your own words lol. "Whatever happened in Oslo stays in Oslo"? Bro you're sharing a saved photo on your phone to the internet of your porridge and you both continued to talk about things you shouldn't (the sex talk in your previous post).

"no strings attached" konon, she's literally STRINGING you to be her shining knight in armour to save her from her broken marriage with all those words.

If you truly feel bad then end it and throw the porridge away. Change job if you must but do not contact her anymore. If she values her face so much, she should know better: cheating is a huge embarrassment to herself and it hurts everyone around her. You as the third wheel, will be condemned by society. Everybody loses.

You'll only have your chance after she breaks off her marriage and dealt with her emotional baggage. People will raise eyebrows if she immediately jumps into a relationship with you after divorce, so you'll have no choice but to wait it out a few months.

💯 with nihility here. At this point you're just enabling this infidelity for your own and her convenience/enjoyment. I can put on a troll /ktard hat and tell you ATTABOY but you know it better than anyone else, you're a moth helplessly attracted to a strong fire and you know you're dooming yourself sooner or later.

I'm sorry you were lured in unknowing of her marital status. Here I'll agree you were the victim of her seduction and irresponsibility, but as mentioned - NOW you know, you KNOW there's the next correct step to do. Are you following through?

Reread what I said earlier. It's easy to give in to temptations and the immediate fun times, you and her together. Everything you say now is just an attempt to gain validation/sympathy for the wrongs you both already committed. I can sympathise with her difficulty in her marriage, but I will not support her continued acts of infidelity. Frankly speaking, I find your conversation below disgusting.

LMAO your small head is speaking louder right now. Wake the fuck up, I'll bet you got turned on by that idea. Don't bring in a child born of infidelity, you will ruin MANY lives including your own.

Just imagine if you're that child born of you, the third wheel, and the cheating wife. The child would find out sooner or later and this will mess him/her childhood, a pivotal part of life to form his/her personality -- you will be creating a broken child into a broken family. It'd be so much easier if she just divorces her husband first then settle with you later.

Look, I understand that some people may find their soulmate/loved one outside/past their marriage. My father had a mistress and eventually my parents got divorced and he settled with his mistress. Many years later, she stayed with him throughout his battle with cancer -- she supported him in the hospital, personally cleaned his vomit, blood and literal shit in his final days and cried the most in his funeral. I'm glad for him that she took care of him until the end, because he already lost us siblings many years ago when he chose that woman. That's what it means to cheat: you needlessly sacrifice many for the one.

Thanks for your wishes. I'm sorry but I don't think you got my point fully...

Marriage is not just union of 2 individuals; it is a union of two families. Both families will be affected by the infidelity and eventual divorce. At the very least, wife's family will be ashamed of her. Husband WILL know sooner or later, and that's when the hurt comes to all.

Least hurt is when you both agree to break it off cleanly. You both started the fire so both need to take responsibility, hurt now better than hurt more later.