I hope you are doing ok now, TS….

Bro, I’m as lost as you are on this one…. Troll or no troll? Like you said, /k is full of monkey rapists, invisible jaguar drivers, impossible IELTS results, iPhone splurgers and 40 Million RM men….

Thanks for the clarification bro. In this case, here is my humble opinion, based on these assumptions from what you’ve mentioned;

1. You’re educated, and judging from the responses you’ve given thus far, with a much better than average command of English, which means ergo probably at least degree level and/or above.

2. You’re obviously at a certain level at work - be it management level or senior technical level, as you shared an (albeit unrelated) encounter with a different colleague in Oslo with the readers. Oslo isn’t your run of the mill tourist trap so I would therefore surmise you were there for purposes of work.

3. You’re a Muslim, but as to how pious you might be, that’s not immediately apparent

4. She’s married, and apparently married well (at the very least, into money).

From these assumptions, I dare say you have too much to lose in terms of your potential career pathway, as well as in terms of your own standing amongst your friends and colleagues, should things with this infatuation develop into something more than just a longing or desire.

And there’s also the aspect of how you can possibly reconcile this with your own religious upbringing.

Ultimately, the hierarchy for consideration is, IMHO, what will this do to your reputation (amongst mutual friends and family and colleagues), and if you don’t care too much about that, what about your career (you cannot discount what reactionary measures her well connected husband make take that can sully your professional standing), and if that still doesn’t bother you, then you’ll have to answer to God.

Easy for me to list it out as a neutral third party without any vested interest whatsoever… much harder for you to dissect and tease out the facts from the feelings, the head from the heart and the logic from the love.

I wish you all the best.

This post has been edited by hksgmy: Jun 3 2024, 12:12 PM

All the very best bro.

TS already left the company….

From the horse's mouth:

Respect sir. You did the right thing

Not many would have done what TS did…. Many would have thrown caution to the wind and eat first, think later.

A bit hard for TS to answer… he’s currently on holiday…. Hopefully the holiday isn’t forever.

Bro, cepat cepat pay her back ... so she can't use that as leverage