I feel deeply sorry for her.

You want to help relief her deepest sorrow as a lady. It shows that you are a kind soul.

However the way you are carrying out with her, isn't effective and beneficial for her in the long runs, and instead is going to invite more troubles for her and for your kind self.

There are much better ways you can help her.

If you truly like her but unable together due to her married status, then, upgrade your love to her to something that bring her towards a stronger and better person.

Try to convince and invite her read
"Surah Al-Waqiah", "sebagai Doa Harian ", consistently.
It's a very sacred and helpful for Malay ladies.

Then you take a smart exit.

She is married into a big elite and probably powerful family. You never know what their family members would do onto you at your back, or ask some groups of ppl do onto you, once things got found out.

The best way to avoid "Dendam" being instilled in the husband and the family's heart, is to steer clear of a married lady.

By this, you accumulate great merits.
For your own protection in the sense of your valuable live and your careers. In the times to come.

And the highest form of love a man to a lady he believes he loves at heart, is to help the lady achieving to be a lady of mentally and emotionally strong, and to be better and greater in various aspects of life.

Pls forgive me if any above words felt like offensive.