Dont try to persuade a collectivist, conservative people
he or she will say casual sex is bad,
you're not doing good for the society etc
usually this kind of people have heavy, judgmental vibe towards sex
they think sex is only win lose situation for the girl

no other possibilities

Well, please don't be offended. My stand is agree to disagree with our sex theory differences.
Actually I am not a sage to think of girl's disadvantages in this area.
But for my own health, I prefer not to f**k around.
for me, sex is created to firmly bond husband and wife together physically, mentally and emotionally.
If we do it with multiple person, this function of our body will somehow lose its effectiveness, like a glue losing its adhesive nature gradually.
That's why when we broke up with a person, we would feel more hurtful if there is sexual relationship.
Without sexual relationship, the broke up will be less hurtful and we could recover faster.
For me and many conservative people I know, it works this way.
But for you, sex might be just a game to enjoy without other effects.

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 16 2024, 09:23 PM

Agreed. For me I can accept girls who slept with max 2-3 guys not more. Sorry la if they can sleep around, they don't value themselves.

We as conservative guy have to beware of woman players also. Yeah, of course we want a partner who can really accept our appearance and vice versa. And it is not that we want a virgin girl or healthy body to have sex with. That's really superficial. There are girls inside dating apps who played around during their 20s and wanted to settle down during 30s. At this stage of their life, they started to consider to "date" those less attractive and conservative guy (like myself). As a loser to them during 20s, I don't understand why I suddenly became dateable at 30s.

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 17 2024, 11:44 AM

I don't date 30+ woman. My limit 26-29. Haha...

Competitor spotted...

So fast to be prejudice about people life?
Have you even heard about their side of stories?

If you have no interest to deeply understand why he or she chooses to be promiscuous you're very superficial.

Its like claiming a disabled person is (destined) cannot make any fortune

I have deal with girls who have over 20-100 (lost count) body counts. If you think a woman dont know how to hide their body counts to suit your *ideal* imagination that she's not the type of girl who sleeps around

sorry bro, you haven't even been in the game deep enough
very naive

If you're very stable guy in 30s, but you don't know how to elicit her genuine desire she's absolutely have ways to cheat with other guys behind you. Similarly, most guys do not want a submissive wife who looks chubby even though she's taking care of the family well but she doesnt want to give him deep throat and anal sex, the guy who has made some establishments will always have choices to cheat.

equal playing opportunities

It's a western thing. Hook up and fwb are all YOLO lifestyle. I don't endorse and certainly don't support. Promiscuous bring harm to both the man and woman in the long run.

Very simple. I date to marry. Ask yourself and be honest if your future wife have been around with lots of guys, are you ok? No need to answer me. Just answer to yourself. Also from a girl perspective, ok for husband to sleep around? Sorry if I am the girl, nope. I will feel worried when married. Worry and anxiety leads to uncertainty and no trust in the marriage.

You do you. I do mine way.

This post has been edited by Ramjade: Jan 18 2024, 07:36 AM

So drinking and smoking is not YOLO?
Its funny to even do a comparison
if you have anxiety about your wife sleeping with other guys, maybe yourself have massive insecurity who doesn't even have capacity to exercise your dominance instinct

where is the open communication? Lol

This post has been edited by -mystery-: Jan 18 2024, 10:26 AM

I totally understand your opinion here. Just that not every guy wants deep throat and anal sex. I myself just want a girl who is not against sex. This is my minimum requirement in this area. That's all. And I don't want to marry a sex enthusiast with model look. And they won't give a f**k to me also.

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 18 2024, 12:24 PM

Not trying to persuade..just showing alternative approach. Maybe later when they get frustrated, they remember that.

Should be easy for u to find a partner right?

erm....the answer is yes or no....
Appearance wise, I reckon I am average....
Some female friends told me I am above average. Some said I am average....


However, I have financial (or poor) and religion (must be same religion as me, non-negotiable) constraint....

This post has been edited by justapawn: Jan 20 2024, 10:16 PM

You are Christian right? Chinese?

Based on your posts here, you seem to hv been active in meeting up girls.

Whats the biggest challenge in finding that good Christian girl (im assuming u havent found the right one, correct me if im mistaken)?

R u particular abt race also?

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Jan 19 2024, 07:40 AM

Would you mind sharing some of your non-negotiables? Mine was pretty standard; no beef, no vegan, no 'has children', no smoking, no tattoo. My friend told me I was being unreasonable lol

Non smoker
No pubs and those happy hour. I am ok with social drinking.
Must want kids
Frugal

Very simple. Cannot fulfill these, sorry la. These are my main ones.

For completeness

Below 30
Bodycount less than 3
Not married before/no kids
Non-muslim

Correct?

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Jan 19 2024, 04:37 PM

Got more. But something like that.