QUOTE(ravager877 @ May 11 2009, 07:52 PM)
Sigh.
Some of you know my story and about how I'm going to get married sometime mid next year. I had planned to keep things simple but it seems that suddenly things are going out of control...
As usual, all the problems of getting married have to do with MONEY. It seems interesting that there are already topics like this opened before I even posted this up. Here's the issue.
My fiancee is feeling very sad because she feels that as the bride, she should not have to pay for anything and that asking her to chip in on her own wedding is sad and degrading. Me on the other hand, cannot afford to pay for the entire ceremony for the following reasons.
1. Her mum requests a dowry of 3k+ which is cheap by most standards so I'm not complaining there.
2. Also requests 3 different Ang Pow. Its for tradition but the amount she didn't state yet.
3. Fiancee request Photo shoot worth about 2k++ (Damn expensive for photos you wont look at 6 months after your wedding)
4. The big whooper (Wedding dinner costing about 5k)
Haven't cover the the alcohol, gown rental and much much more...
All this I have to cover because my fiancee feels it is my responsibility...
So within the span of a year, I need to put away slightly over 10k (12 to be safe) only to watch it disappear...
And my fiancee wanna go honeymoon later as well....
Sigh...
I argued with her about this already and no solution in sight...
Damn sad...
I won't go into that whole "money shouldn't matter when it comes to love" speech because in reality, it does. Like I said, we do live in the city and sadly, you need to make a decent living to live comfortably here. I could live a secluded life at the top of a mountain if I wanted to avoid the issue of money, but I choose not to. I assume you've made the same choice I have.
This is one of those situations where a little planning needs to come into play. Most people only realise they don't have enough money when they are faced with the situation. Why not have planned for this a year ago or so? Fact is that most of us will get married one day and have children so why not start saving now? When you do get married, you had best start saving in preparation for a child because I'm assuming it's one of the reasons for you getting hitched. I hear people complaining all the time about not being able to save and most of the time, it's rubbish. It's all about prioritising. If something is so important, then eat less, shop less, drink less or whatever.
How about you start saving up now since you have over a year to go? If she is that important to you, make some sacrifices. Do something on the side if you have to. Sell insurance or something. Where there's a will, there's a way.
This post has been edited by Duke Red: May 12 2009, 02:12 PM 
May 12 2009, 12:00 PM
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