Money vs Marriage, Money ruin everything...
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 May 11 2009, 10:51 PM
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the car i think u can borrow from frens + the wedding studio will wrap up the car for you...so that is not a problem..and its freaking cheap for dowry..
her dowry 8k.. wedding photos my cousin was 6k+ (but they shared together..then the rest all the guy kau tim + the mother.. |
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May 11 2009, 10:56 PM
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QUOTE(cracksys @ May 11 2009, 10:06 PM) that's an example of a good wife? if not good wife then why TS wan it?damn. i bet she'll be running away if TS have financial difficulties in the future  |
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May 11 2009, 10:56 PM
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264 posts Joined: May 2005 From: Winland
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QUOTE(ravager877 @ May 11 2009, 07:52 PM) Sigh. What? Seriously, WHAT? Isn't marriage a union of two people? Isn't marriage something that both parties, like a relationship, is something that both work on together?Some of you know my story and about how I'm going to get married sometime mid next year. I had planned to keep things simple but it seems that suddenly things are going out of control... As usual, all the problems of getting married have to do with MONEY. It seems interesting that there are already topics like this opened before I even posted this up. Here's the issue. My fiancee is feeling very sad because she feels that as the bride, she should not have to pay for anything and that asking her to chip in on her own wedding is sad and degrading. I argued with her about this already and no solution in sight... Damn sad... Even if I have enough money to cover all the expenses, I personally would think long and hard about whether its worth marrying someone with such an attitude. A spouse with a "what's yours is mine, what's mine is mine" attitude will only lead to more problems down the road. |
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May 11 2009, 11:05 PM
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inconsiderate future wife
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May 11 2009, 11:09 PM
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3,668 posts Joined: Jun 2006 From: Bikini Abyss
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QUOTE(walle @ May 11 2009, 10:56 PM) if not good wife then why TS wan it? why do people abuse drugs even after knowing the bad effect of it? stupidity. anyway, TS doesn't say she's a good wife. you did. as if you magically telepath into TS mind and construct an assumption of his fiancee based on his memory QUOTE(by someone) good wife once lost cannot find back |
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May 11 2009, 11:11 PM
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QUOTE(cracksys @ May 11 2009, 11:09 PM) why do people abuse drugs even after knowing the bad effect of it? stupidity. good or not only TS knw lar...no need argue here.... anyway, TS doesn't say she's a good wife. you did. as if you magically telepath into TS mind and construct an assumption of his fiancee based on his memory QUOTE(by someone) good wife once lost cannot find back  |
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May 11 2009, 11:13 PM
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QUOTE(walle @ May 11 2009, 11:11 PM) good or not only TS knw lar...no need argue here.... i'm deeply sorry my previous post was because of my inability to ignore people's idiocy. nothing personal |
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May 11 2009, 11:19 PM
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1,874 posts Joined: Apr 2007 From: "On a need-to-know basis"
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QUOTE(Gr3yL3gion @ May 11 2009, 09:35 PM) Wedding ceremony is such a waste of money. Just register and inform both of your family and friends that you're married by texting them, problem solved. Obviously someone very insensitive to girls dreamQUOTE(zacharyyeo @ May 11 2009, 09:45 PM) hope next time when married she wont think that as a wife , to chip in into the house or furniture is sad or degrading . Obviously someone without a gfif she wants a honeymoon so much , she should chip you too . Irresponsible . You people say all these is cheap , i would personally like to see you ppl earn that money . QUOTE(~LynX~ @ May 11 2009, 10:56 PM) What? Seriously, WHAT? Isn't marriage a union of two people? Isn't marriage something that both parties, like a relationship, is something that both work on together? thank you, after reading your post you made me really really appreciate my husbandEven if I have enough money to cover all the expenses, I personally would think long and hard about whether its worth marrying someone with such an attitude. A spouse with a "what's yours is mine, what's mine is mine" attitude will only lead to more problems down the road. |
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May 11 2009, 11:29 PM
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QUOTE(moorish @ May 11 2009, 11:19 PM) Obviously someone very insensitive to girls dream den i pity ur husbandObviously someone without a gf thank you, after reading your post you made me really really appreciate my husband |
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May 11 2009, 11:46 PM
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QUOTE(moorish @ May 11 2009, 11:19 PM) Obviously someone very insensitive to girls dream I believe that those days, female aint working and the guy who works pay for wedding cost.Nowadays, majority of female are working. In fact, some might earn equally or more. Marriage is about MUTUAL. So that answers, who should fork out money. I guess a considerate person would volunteer for the expanses paid, and not drain his future husband's pocket. Girls's dream, yes...but guys do have dream also...to buy car, house and etc. If those need not money, then i believe men would be more sensitive to girl's dream. Cheers...thats just my 2cents |
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May 11 2009, 11:49 PM
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309 posts Joined: Jan 2008 From: Penang
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 ....ur consider ok edi la~~~mine is photo event all 4k+-, dinner (35 tablets x 400(estimate liqour), dowry (give 10 dinner tablet+ 888 ang pao i guess).... wedding gift 600 sumore we are buying houses....all come in one shoot....  be gratefull....if u wan simply then go skip the dinner part n go honeymoon staight |
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May 11 2009, 11:57 PM
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» Click to show Spoiler - click again to hide... « Since you mention ang pow, I presume you're chinese or married to a chinese gal. Btw, welcome to the reality of chinese wedding $$$ pressure If you fiancee don't want to chip in, then when both of you have a child. Then you're bounded to pay everything for the child... You either save to RM 10+k or get loan to settle your wedding expenses... or get the money from your parent Honestly, the amount you stated is considered the minimum amount in chinese wedding culture already... |
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May 12 2009, 12:45 AM
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283 posts Joined: Sep 2008 From: KL
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if money is really a prob, give another year or two.
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May 12 2009, 01:07 AM
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QUOTE(ravager877 @ May 11 2009, 07:52 PM) Sigh. All in all, the cost of your wedding is damn cheap man. As others have mentioned, you will probably get back the money you spent for the dinner, and if you plan things right, you might even make money from it! I know my cousins did when they got married, pocketed an extra RM5k from the dinner itself. 15k within a year, that I think is well within your means, you could even take a personal loan to be safe if you want to. Otherwise, could you postpone the wedding date so you have a longer time to collect the necessary funds?Some of you know my story and about how I'm going to get married sometime mid next year. I had planned to keep things simple but it seems that suddenly things are going out of control... As usual, all the problems of getting married have to do with MONEY. It seems interesting that there are already topics like this opened before I even posted this up. Here's the issue. My fiancee is feeling very sad because she feels that as the bride, she should not have to pay for anything and that asking her to chip in on her own wedding is sad and degrading. Me on the other hand, cannot afford to pay for the entire ceremony for the following reasons. 1. Her mum requests a dowry of 3k+ which is cheap by most standards so I'm not complaining there. 2. Also requests 3 different Ang Pow. Its for tradition but the amount she didn't state yet. 3. Fiancee request Photo shoot worth about 2k++ (Damn expensive for photos you wont look at 6 months after your wedding) 4. The big whooper (Wedding dinner costing about 5k) Haven't cover the the alcohol, gown rental and much much more... All this I have to cover because my fiancee feels it is my responsibility... So within the span of a year, I need to put away slightly over 10k (12 to be safe) only to watch it disappear... And my fiancee wanna go honeymoon later as well.... Sigh... I argued with her about this already and no solution in sight... Damn sad... |
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May 12 2009, 01:35 AM
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446 posts Joined: Oct 2006 From: No specification- around the world
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I think u must have planned and if money not.norenough u can delay ur wedding what..
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May 12 2009, 04:32 AM
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1,391 posts Joined: Jan 2003 From: KL, Malaysia
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i'm not married yet...
but i got a few things to say. taking loan for paying the wedding dinner? that's crazy. well, why not both of you register first and follow by honeymoon. wedding photo and dinner can do it later on. when friends/ relatives asked, just say that both of you are busy now, no time to prepare... in laws asking for money? that is outrages. i would give the amount that i can afford to. they are not selling their daughter, why are they setting up a price? ang paus is for the good luck and chinese customs. the amount is entirely not important. but not to that extent of giving just RM10... if my future wife wants a GRAND wedding, she has to be prepared to help me... i'm not a millionaire.. i think my gf understand me well about this  i don't mind spending for my future wedding, but it has to be within my affordability. taking loan for my wedding is a big NO. |
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May 12 2009, 04:41 AM
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740 posts Joined: May 2007 From: Land of Smiles.
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Ur wedding thingy is cheap.
Heck, I watched my sister got married last year, and we spent around 10k-15k, and guess wut, few days later, I saw a brand new 42" lcd tv in my living room, as the wedding guests were kind enough to.....well....sponsor us. And to those who says that wedding expenses should be covered by both the bride and groom.......geez. Where's ur manhood? |
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May 12 2009, 09:05 AM
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128 posts Joined: Dec 2005
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dowry 3k if i assume u r chinese is consider super duber cheap!!! lolx. wedding photos also super duber cheap. i can say ur wedding ceremony sure super duber cheap ady!!!
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May 12 2009, 09:08 AM
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3,668 posts Joined: Jun 2006 From: Bikini Abyss
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i see a lot of idiots actully talks about how cheap it is.
you can't compare cheap or expensive based on you POV. you might be thinking that's cheap because you're in different income bracket compared to TS its his fiancee mindset that need a major overhaul. |
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May 12 2009, 09:15 AM
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1,874 posts Joined: Apr 2007 From: "On a need-to-know basis"
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QUOTE(F1meteor @ May 12 2009, 04:32 AM) in laws asking for money? that is outrages. i would give the amount that i can afford to. they are not selling their daughter, why are they setting up a price? Dont say like that la, you try to look at things on the parents side, they're handing their daughter to you, means she will be the boys family side, the grandson all follow the boys surname. And its only respectful that you at least compensate back something and this for 2000 years ago has been practice the boy pays the in laws money/gold.ang paus is for the good luck and chinese customs. the amount is entirely not important. but not to that extent of giving just RM10... if my future wife wants a GRAND wedding, she has to be prepared to help me... i'm not a millionaire.. i think my gf understand me well about this i don't mind spending for my future wedding, but it has to be within my affordability. taking loan for my wedding is a big NO. A respectful boy is the boy that I admired. Added on May 12, 2009, 9:17 am QUOTE(cracksys @ May 12 2009, 09:08 AM) i see a lot of idiots actully talks about how cheap it is. ask around it is cheap ESPECIALLY IN TOWN....it is still cheap if you compared to Mentakab wedding you can't compare cheap or expensive based on you POV. you might be thinking that's cheap because you're in different income bracket compared to TS its his fiancee mindset that need a major overhaul. This post has been edited by moorish: May 12 2009, 09:17 AM |
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