I did not only have that this morning but in rather a few days ago... I was awake pretty early although my classes was at 11am. Actually I was just wondering, if still missing someone shows that I haven't really left it and put it aside?

i do not know if i will be meeting up with him that often. i bought him a christmas present but i am still thinking how should i pass it to him? should i give it to him or should i not? i was thinking to ask him out for a dinner and give him the present but i am not too sure if it is appropriate for me to do that.

i did not just pretend to be normal or purposely act to be normal but i was just easy with it. i admit it was slightly out of my own expectation for my reaction too. anyway, i think i am just fine with most of it right now.

Do you think you really have the need to give him a christmas present?

i do not know. i know that it is something that he will want and needs to get. but i do not know if it is appropriate for me to get him. i do get a christmas present for all my close friends but i am not too sure if i want to give it to him.

You doubt that he will misunderstand your motive on him don't you?

If you have already let go of him, you don't have to worry how would he take your Christmas present as, right?

In my opinion, you should just be open and give him the present like what you did to your close friends. No biggie about it.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Dec 12 2009, 12:13 PM

i been wif my bf for 9 yrs, and should b marry last mth... bt sudden he say to call of coz he noe someone outside and feel she more suitable than me.. coz he dun like my parents, her mum is control freak.. she feel i often leave her son alone and not doing a duty as wife, we registerd d... and tat y he son outside got other person.. i stay wif him, bcoz of tis, i move out to let he cool off his mind.. his family oso agree wif tat... it's feel hurt to noe tat he leave me outside and knowing tat i hav no relatives there... do u feel i should continue wif him? i consider to divorce coz he nt appreciate me oso...

Today I saw my ex-GF's Facebook page and her relationship status has changed to "In a relationship with XXX..."

I skimmed through her BF's wall, lots of postings from him stating how much he loves her. Everyone gave a lot of positive remarks on his Facebook wall.

This time, tears were rolling down my eyes... not because I'm feeling sad... because I'm touched. I'm glad she found someone who can give her happiness, and I'll pray that both of them will be a loving couple forever.

I just don't know why this time I got such a big courage to let her go for a better.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Dec 13 2009, 07:46 PM

i think i just do not want him to think that i am wanting something more than a friend. i know he has that thought about me since we broke up because i was quite dependent on him last time as i could not let go of him. i just do not want him to feel that i am irritating and disturbing, and most important, he tries his way to avoid me.

yes, i will just give it to him and may be have a talk with him regarding about something in between me and him. or may be i will choose not to but anyhow i just do not want to think anything extra anymore.

i feel sorry for you. i think let him cool down first, answer will come to u.

you are great!!

I thought of buying him a x'mas gift too. But having the same thought as u, and all my friends said i should not. i personally think no harm to give a x'mas gift to someone special.

Same situation here. Bought a Christmas gift for my ex while on a business trip in Singapore. Now, the process of giving her the present may be a bit quirky, as she'll bring her BF along when we meet up later. I'm not worried about her. I'm just worried how her BF will think. Besides, I don't know her BF pretty well..

Any suggestions/criticisms/flames?

This post has been edited by geekster129: Dec 14 2009, 01:17 PM

Dont meet ur ex?

^
No, I'm not going be a person who is ignorant. I need to face her BF someday and not trying to stay away from the reality and fact.

If my ex already in a new relationship, I will not buy him any gift or present but a simple SMS wishes will do.

Perhaps you'd have a mere hope to patch back, perhaps you have already let go. But if you are giving the gift as a FRIEND, I don't think you need to bother so much how her BF thinks.

Most of the times, we concern about something and ask opinions from others simply because we are trying to get acknoeldgement from others to support our intentions.

good for you...being so open abt it

No, I do not intend to patch back with her. Over is over. I'll stick with my decisions.

BOLDED: You are half right, maybe it is my mistake of buying her a gift in the first place. My real intention is to just buying her a gift as a souvenier as in for a FRIEND. No other ulterior motives. About the acknowledgment thingy, I kind of agreed with you. Learnt something new today. Come to think about it, it's quite logical.

I think I know what I should do now. Thanks for the advice.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Dec 14 2009, 01:38 PM

Ya. All you have to do is just to be honest to yourselves.

If your intention has no single selfish thought in it, why hesitate to do so? If your intention has, you will gloss over the actual selfish thought in your posts and ask opinions around to get support from others, right?

Agreed. I rethink again and I came to realize that when you have no doubts about yourself and being honest, no matter what people says, there isn't a single thing you should be worried and feel doubtful about the situations that may arise.

Reading your post made me realize something: We sometimes make self-pity remarks and at the same time tries to masquerade selfish thoughts without even realizing it until someone else sees it and tell you. Strange, but true. Human thinking sure is funny.

Thanks. I have a clearer view of the situation now.

But, but, but... If I didn't made the post in this first place, you won't even tell me all these things right? WAKAKAKAKAKA!

This post has been edited by geekster129: Dec 14 2009, 07:18 PM

Good man, Now you have the luxury to find the better one. lol.

hopefully/