yes, i read some of your posts and i think our case is pretty much similar. i think in our life, we will always be silly for someone no matter that person appreciate us or not.
i think so, things that come easily will not be appreciated, i think people tends to take things for granted, this is just the nature part of a human being. i do not want to make it so hard for the new candidates but i am now learn to take things slowly step by step. i just need to learn, how to protect myself before i want to commit myself into another relationship.
dear nlgoh, you can let go if you decide to. no one can teach you what to do or help you because it is all about you yourself. you can everyday lie to everyone or even yourself that you have already let go but if you do not be firm with it, you will never be able to let go.

i actually put a note on my table, it serves a purpose to remind myself not to contact him through internet. as for my phone, i purposely remove him from my speed dial, as well from the call list. i changed his name over the contact there, whenever i tried to search, i just remind myself that no and no and no. at first it was so difficult, but i took two days, until without any notes to remind myself anymore, i just do not do that anymore. no doubt i do still think of him sometimes but whenever i go to the places we been before, i just put a smile on face and let the bygone be bygone.

i tried to patch back, thought of giving us a try within a month time but in this 1 month time things did not went well so i just call it off and forget about it. i think it is about ourselves, for me i might sound very experienced and strong but seriously, this is the first time i find it so hard to let go at all. i could not and felt suicidal, now i think back, i am actually lucky that he gave me a great time in life, and i have learnt a lot of things. now i just tell myself, loving some one does not mean to be with the person. i do not place my happiness on anyone else anymore because it is on my hands for me to find out by myself.

my dear, i believe you can get over it soon. try to be positive. if a girl like me who cut on the wrist before, took in pills but could get over it, what makes you think that you can not?

Well, I just wonder: will I be cruel to reject as well when the one that trying to patch back is not me?

Is it what that comes easily will not be appreciated?

Ha! same case as me. I stuff aside my pride, ego and whatnot. I literally begged her to come back with me, its not that i'm such a lousy bf or what but she told me she doesnt feel right when she is with me. I couldnt accept her reason and thats why its so hard to let go of her.

The more i looked and acted like a self-pity person the more she said no to me. And now i've realised that no matter what happens, i've got to move on with my life. I dont need her to live my life, i've got to love myself first.

I'm letting it go bit by bit everyday...very slowly...it still hurts till now whenever i think back...

It hurts as much as you still tend to remind yourself how much more you could have done or what you should have done and what you shouldn't have done.

I felt so bloody lifeless that time when I was thinking about that everyday all day long back in July and August.

How many years have you been with him, Winnie?
Did he tell you the reason why he wants to break up?

i did the same thing. i remove him from facebook so that i wont view his profile again and again. i can view his profile at least 3 times a day for no reason. i remove his contact from my phone too. yes, i don't think about him as often as before. but i met up with him after 2 weeks of lost contact. things couldnt work well, i lost control on that day. but feel better after the confession to him. what i need now is, time. sticking with the view that what is mine, will come back to me eventually...

Yea i sucks bad. and so how did you came out from that? socialising more? do sports? i'm actually ok already now just that some times i really just feel like staying in my room and wonder in my own world...hmmm

Well I think I did what most people do. Get out of the comfort zone, do things that I have never really tried doing before, hang out more with friends to share some thoughts and of course nothing works more than doing more sports like swimming for me.

But there are also times I prefer to stay in my room and lie on the bed all day and day dreaming. Just want to have some time on my own and no one else and nothing else.

hi DreMAx...

socialising is one way to 4get some1.

i did not remove him from fb and msn, he knows my updates too but i am not too sure if he paid any attention to it or not. we had a short conversation the other day, he asked about me and i was very surprised with that, i just remained cool to end the conversation with him happily. i think, i just want to take everything slowly. there are guys after me too now but some of them really turn me off immediately with their pushie actions.

We had a conversation last 2 weeks, he knew i removed him from my fb. He did update himself by viewing my fb. I need to get myself out from hoping & addicted in viewing his profile, so i decided to remove him. But i asked him can i add him again? He said yes only when i'd move on. But until now i haven't decided to add him again. There are guys after me now, but i know if i accept them, they are merely my rebound bf because i haven't let go my ex. It would be so unfair to them. I feel much better nowaday.. as compared to 3 months ago.. Thanks to all mates that encourages me.. 

We had a conversation last 2 weeks, he knew i removed him from my fb. He did update himself by viewing my fb. I need to get myself out from hoping & addicted in viewing his profile, so i decided to remove him. But i asked him can i add him again? He said yes only when i'd move on. But until now i haven't decided to add him again. There are guys after me now, but i know if i accept them, they are merely my rebound bf because i haven't let go my ex. It would be so unfair to them. I feel much better nowaday.. as compared to 3 months ago.. Thanks to all mates that encourages me.. 

+1..

don't get involved with some1 unless u r ready

I told myself not to get into a relationship if it's for the sake of hiding my sad feelings and it's not a true love. It will be very unfair to my new GF.

We had a conversation last 2 weeks, he knew i removed him from my fb. He did update himself by viewing my fb. I need to get myself out from hoping & addicted in viewing his profile, so i decided to remove him. But i asked him can i add him again? He said yes only when i'd move on. But until now i haven't decided to add him again. There are guys after me now, but i know if i accept them, they are merely my rebound bf because i haven't let go my ex. It would be so unfair to them. I feel much better nowaday.. as compared to 3 months ago.. Thanks to all mates that encourages me.. 

hi DreMAx...

socialising is one way to 4get some1.

i agree but a certain extend. but then when you do something with friends that reminds you of the things you have done with him/her that would bring back the memories as well. i guess ultimately, its all within you that you must tell yourself, have the determination that you will let go of him/her if that makes her a happier person. When she is happy and attains happiness, you should feel happy and bless her too if you love her that much.

If it doesnt make any sense, just ignore me. I duno what i'm typing here. argh...

we met up today, but in a group. throughout the few hours, i notice he was keeping an eye on me and he tried to talk to me too. of course i react normal towards everything. i had great fun with my friends, i notice he looked at me when i laugh and when i was talking to others. i thought i might react differently but i do not know why i enjoyed myself during the outing. i do not intend to pretend but i do not know why, i think i am feeling much better and really willing to let go.

at the moment, i will not deny that i have quite many guys after me. i am not too sure what do i want. so i just remain as friends with them, furthermore i prefer to really overcome myself for everything before i start a new relationship with any other guys. i do not want to be unfair for anyone else and at the end, i will only get extra hurts.

Actually it does help you get your mind of certain things. But then again to some extend it sure does reminds myself of those things I've done with her. *sighs* Even so, this morning I woke up missing her by my side all these while.