Poor thing you. Like what ZeratoS said, get your buddies, hang out with them, have chats with them and you know, friends would help friends.

Besides you have us here in LYN

Smile

Well for the first few weeks I broke up with my ex, it feels totally weird, and I had a numb feeling about everything. I don't know where to go. I feel lonely, being in solitude, and is very very lost. It was also the time where I tried very hard wanted to get back into the relationship, but then as time goes by, I came to learn that even if one day, we reunited, the relationship won't be the same anymore like it used to be. We may have grown into two different individuals and we both are in different worlds already. Sad but true. What ends must end.

The only thing I can tell myself and what dremax mentioned also, appreciate your loved ones while you can. When you only appreciate your loved one when it's already over, it is already very very very late. All I must do is to move on, and shall never repeat the same mistake like I did before again.

nlgoh, Life does not have take 2, but Life does have season 2. The ending of season 1 means a new and fresh beginning for season 2.

Occupy yourself with more activities and enlarge your circle of friends so that you won't be thinking of him so much. Before you knew it, you have just realized that Life is very meaningful. Be strong and be positive.

It is something normal, because we have invested so much emotional attachment to our loved one, so it's hard to let go, and it makes you feel very numb and lost.

But as we go through the process of recovering from the relationship, that makes us a wiser and a more matured person on how to deal with a future relationship. Someone have asked me once on how to become more matured in a relationship. Unfortunately, thinking back on the amount of pain I have gone through, I couldn't say much.

Time doesn't heal until your determination to let go.

Actually that's what I did ever since my girl left me. Every week when I get home from campus I'll take it down to the pool to swim myself tired. It doesn't only feel better when you can sleep soundly thanks to being tired but also it kinda relieves what's in the head.

Probably we people should have a get-together and have a swim all together

Or the easier way is... Time doesn't heal until you found someone better.

I took a slightly different strategy. After me and my girl were no longer couples, I took the time to try out things I have never done before in Life, and boy, it's a totally fresh and a great experience.

I don't know, maybe I'll continue to follow this path, and maybe one day I'll find a new GF in the process.

I tried chatting with an open heart with my ex today, and weeded off all the negativities and jealous feelings. I don't know why. It's just feels good.

It's been a long time i don't swim to tired.

We should organised one one here. Probably a get together activity and then chit chat session. Something ala /k/ gathering la.

Good night everyone! Me going to be orang asli tomorrow for 3 days

I think the best to do for normal human is cry and cry and keep hoping him/her to come back.

Mature ppl will realise that he/she glad it happened because imagine the person leave u  on your wedding day or after u have child?

if he loves me, he knows where to find me; if he misses me, he knows how to get hold of me; if he wants to patch back, he knows what to do.

I can understand how you feel. It's like that feeling of solitude. Sometimes it happens to me too. Working late at night, and after finish work, getting dinner yourself, sitting in the restaurant alone, man! It sucks, and all the crazy thoughts emerge in your mind.

Worst thing is, at the "so-right" moment of time, so happened that none of your friends can chat with you.

my dear, if you do not learn how to love yourself, who will ever care to love you? i do not lie to myself, i told him too that i love him very much and i do not deny any of my feelings. i think, i put it in a way which i choose to face everything instead of running away from it. i missed him, i told him. i loved him, i told him. when now im typing this, i do think of him but i do not think that i have the feeling want to talk to him at the moment, because i have my other work to do. i told myself that, i want to love myself first before i love anyone again. may be in the future i will not love any other guys as how i love him anymore but i can not say it for sure in the future, no matter what, i know the most important thing is, my own happiness.

sometimes it is good to cry it all out then off to bed, but not everyday.
i have a lot of people in msn too but not many that i will chat with, in fact i can say there is none of my friends knows about my break up at all, i also could not imagine how i went through all that alone. i just chat with my friends, topics for me and my friends. sometimes we need a place to release out the sadness within us, but if we keep telling people the sad story, we are only keep reminding ourselves about it and it makes us to be sad.

exactly, i feel sad every time i tell the story. it reminds me a lot. i should have stop sharing n keep within myself.

i am just here to share my experience, this time i know i fell down badly in love because i do really love him that much but sadly it just does not work out. so for me the best will be just leave it as how it is. i hope you will be able to find your happiness too, i believe that if there is one person does not know how to appreciate you, there will be more than a person know how to appreciate you in the future, because everything in this world, has two sides.

do not try, just do it. i believe it will be much better compare to just think only.
i do not know if i do really have very strong determination, but i think i just do not want to waste my time anymore. may be i already went deep down, i guess there is nothing for me to lose anymore other than my precious time in life. i am a stubborn person, i do not surrender and give up easily. i will always fight till i am completely lose but still i will find ways to get up to fight again.

yes, never make the same mistake twice. the last when i talked to him which about more than a week ago, i actually thank him for the time we spent together, and make me realize my mistakes. if he was lucky to be with me, then my future bf/husband will definitely be more lucky than him

yes, i read some of your posts and i think our case is pretty much similar. i think in our life, we will always be silly for someone no matter that person appreciate us or not.
i think so, things that come easily will not be appreciated, i think people tends to take things for granted, this is just the nature part of a human being. i do not want to make it so hard for the new candidates but i am now learn to take things slowly step by step. i just need to learn, how to protect myself before i want to commit myself into another relationship.
dear nlgoh, you can let go if you decide to. no one can teach you what to do or help you because it is all about you yourself. you can everyday lie to everyone or even yourself that you have already let go but if you do not be firm with it, you will never be able to let go.

i actually put a note on my table, it serves a purpose to remind myself not to contact him through internet. as for my phone, i purposely remove him from my speed dial, as well from the call list. i changed his name over the contact there, whenever i tried to search, i just remind myself that no and no and no. at first it was so difficult, but i took two days, until without any notes to remind myself anymore, i just do not do that anymore. no doubt i do still think of him sometimes but whenever i go to the places we been before, i just put a smile on face and let the bygone be bygone.

i tried to patch back, thought of giving us a try within a month time but in this 1 month time things did not went well so i just call it off and forget about it. i think it is about ourselves, for me i might sound very experienced and strong but seriously, this is the first time i find it so hard to let go at all. i could not and felt suicidal, now i think back, i am actually lucky that he gave me a great time in life, and i have learnt a lot of things. now i just tell myself, loving some one does not mean to be with the person. i do not place my happiness on anyone else anymore because it is on my hands for me to find out by myself.

my dear, i believe you can get over it soon. try to be positive. if a girl like me who cut on the wrist before, took in pills but could get over it, what makes you think that you can not?

i did not remove him from fb and msn, he knows my updates too but i am not too sure if he paid any attention to it or not. we had a short conversation the other day, he asked about me and i was very surprised with that, i just remained cool to end the conversation with him happily. i think, i just want to take everything slowly. there are guys after me too now but some of them really turn me off immediately with their pushie actions.

+1..

don't get involved with some1 unless u r ready

I told myself not to get into a relationship if it's for the sake of hiding my sad feelings and it's not a true love. It will be very unfair to my new GF.

we met up today, but in a group. throughout the few hours, i notice he was keeping an eye on me and he tried to talk to me too. of course i react normal towards everything. i had great fun with my friends, i notice he looked at me when i laugh and when i was talking to others. i thought i might react differently but i do not know why i enjoyed myself during the outing. i do not intend to pretend but i do not know why, i think i am feeling much better and really willing to let go.

at the moment, i will not deny that i have quite many guys after me. i am not too sure what do i want. so i just remain as friends with them, furthermore i prefer to really overcome myself for everything before i start a new relationship with any other guys. i do not want to be unfair for anyone else and at the end, i will only get extra hurts.

i been wif my bf for 9 yrs, and should b marry last mth... bt sudden he say to call of coz he noe someone outside and feel she more suitable than me.. coz he dun like my parents, her mum is control freak.. she feel i often leave her son alone and not doing a duty as wife, we registerd d... and tat y he son outside got other person..  i stay wif him, bcoz of tis, i move out to let he cool off his mind.. his family oso agree wif tat... it's feel hurt to noe tat he leave me outside and knowing tat i hav no relatives there... do u feel i should continue wif him? i consider to divorce coz he nt appreciate me oso...

Today I saw my ex-GF's Facebook page and her relationship status has changed to "In a relationship with XXX..."

I skimmed through her BF's wall, lots of postings from him stating how much he loves her. Everyone gave a lot of positive remarks on his Facebook wall.

This time, tears were rolling down my eyes... not because I'm feeling sad... because I'm touched. I'm glad she found someone who can give her happiness, and I'll pray that both of them will be a loving couple forever.

I just don't know why this time I got such a big courage to let her go for a better.

i think i just do not want him to think that i am wanting something more than a friend. i know he has that thought about me since we broke up because i was quite dependent on him last time as i could not let go of him. i just do not want him to feel that i am irritating and disturbing, and most important, he tries his way to avoid me.
yes, i will just give it to him and may be have a talk with him regarding about something in between me and him. or may be i will choose not to but anyhow i just do not want to think anything extra anymore.

Dremax, it is good to see you feel better. Sometimes, do not hope but just do it. I wasted a month time to hope that the relation in between me and him could get better; I wasted a month time to hope for a miracle to happen but whatever it is, I know it is all depends on myself what I actually want to do, and what I can do.

A change must come from one before the other, but it is you yourself to decide if you want to change. I did nothing but to pour out all my thoughts here to share with people. There are people think it is nonsense but it might be useful for certain people. It is depending on you, when you feel like taking it to place it at the useful side.

You've already fallen down, perhaps deep down. You've already suffer from the pain, perhaps deep pain. Is this the time for you to stand up, it is all depends on you. Standing up might be painful too but since you are already in  deep pain after a fall, so why is there to bother if it's painful to stand up? After all, apply the right medicine for your wound, you will be able to run like no body's business again.

I can see how silly you are in relationship. No money no talk? Then why you are here to talk? See, relationship is relationship; money is money. No doubt we need money in everything but it does not mean money can buy a relationship. There are silly people out there to go for monetary but are they really serious and commit into relationship? You can get the answer by yourself.

Anyone who is serious to carry on a relationship with you, will not look into money first but your personality and as well the chemical reaction. If you've got cheated by a girl before, that's your sad story and I feel sorry for that, but it does not mean all girls after you are for money.

For me, money is nothing compare to a true love.

nlgoh, so how was the meet up? I think I am quite happy and also enjoy my life for now. Honestly if now ask me again if I will want to be with him again or not, I will answer straight off the face, NO! He called and we had a talk, he was surprised with my current progress at work and career but I did not bother much. He seems to pretend to forget the things he left with me on the other day, and now I just want to get rid of it because I do not want extra thigns in my room but not having the intention to meet him more often anymore!

My dear, it happened the same like mine too but the only difference is, he is not after any other girl and I have not accept any of the guys tackling me. I can understand how you feel. The kisses and hugs feeling so lovely and warm right?

Anyway, I have not come over here to check out in this after my last post. I was busy but I think I could make it to the extend of not to think about him at all for at least a week. I am sure you can do it too if you want to. I am not too sure about you and him, but for me it was something that I felt it will not work it out that well anymore. We had already broke up, within the two to three months time again we patch back. It shows to me that it might not be a good decision. So I just want a long break and who knows I might be able to get someone that I really wanted or may be after a rest, we can work things out better.

I will not deny after the broke up, I was hoping for a patch back and I was so silly that I still willingly to sacrifice for him. Sadly, I've awaken from the dream that is not realistic at all.

It is not appropriate for me to tell you what to do, perhaps you will be the better person? I will suggest you to leave everything off here, and take a break to a place you want to go the most. To the beach or anywhere else then enjoy yourself there. Off the handphone and turn off internet or whatever communication tool, may be you will be able to get your answer. I did that, and it works on me