So quickly??? For me I am not ready to get into another one...

And for the past few nights, I have been thinking of the unnecessary things... and that's driving me nuts... I didn't sleep much because of that...

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Dec 17 2009, 11:58 PM

I met him again, one to one. I gave him the present and we had a heart to heart talk. After all, I'm quite happy because I do not feel the heartache like I used to have when I met him earlier after we broke up. This time around, he too noticed that I am much happier, most important, I am doing quite well for my career.

I am surprised with myself too, that I can stand upright again so fast. I gave him a diary planner which he said it is quite nice. I purposely wrote down all the important dates that he needs to remember such as birthday and those mother's day and etc for him to copy it into the diary, because I think it is not so appropriate for me to write in the diary planner. I just hope it is useful for him.

Anyway, we kissed but I do not have the heartbeat feeling anymore... so I think I am pretty good in my recovery from the broken heart. At this moment, I will not want to get into any relationship until I think I am really ready for it.

One word: Congrats.

UPDATE: I just met my ex with her new BF, and thank Goodness, everything turns out pretty well like your situation. She likes the gift and her BF didn't say much. She noticed that I changed a lot too and said that I looked at Life differently 2 years after we broke up.

Something strange happened today. The weather was sunny and the moment when I met them, it rained. But what I knew for sure, the very difference that happened this time, is after it rained, I see sunshine. I think and I BELIEVE it could mean to me this time that a new and happy beginning of the next chapter in my life is about to happen.

All I can say, I'm feeling happy and good today, and looking forward to move on with Life and enjoy it to the fullest as the year 2010 comes.

This post has been edited by geekster129: Dec 18 2009, 04:24 PM

great to hear that

Time is the best medicine for the broken heart.

Thanks mate. It's just that 2 days I was kinda down... I am alright today.
Laughter is the best medicine too

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Dec 19 2009, 04:47 PM

AGREED

Yes. Laugh like there's no tomorrow, and you will feel much better.



This post has been edited by geekster129: Dec 19 2009, 06:35 PM

People would think I am nuts.

Christmas is coming next week anyone got any plans here especially during the eve?

Lonely and depressed hearts won't be that lonely after all

This post has been edited by DreMAx: Dec 19 2009, 11:36 PM

thank you geekster.

I actually do wonder too if I am bad for showing him that I can live better without him. I could remember the way he looked at me on that night was different, he was really surprise and kept looking into my eyes. When I've received a message, he wanted to know who and what was it about, and he teased on me about new relationship. But I made it very clear that we are nothing more than a best friend.

We are going for movie again, somewhat I am now feeling nothing about it if he is there or not. Sometimes I do wonder how he thinks and feels but overall I can't be bothered much anymore.


Christmas? I do have plans for myself!

I seem to have nothing on for Christmas day itself except travelling back to Kuantan.

Damn... I am not feeling well since last night and it's kinda a torture not having anyone (beside my parents) to sigh to... No shoulder to cry on.

its absolutely wonderful to see this thread active (compared to last time) and seeing that people are moving on, it just puts a smile on my face

Dremax, you have us here. If you need a shoulder, I have two ready for you.

I came back from a movie with him. Today I changed a new look and he was surprised. I notice that he was paying attention for everything I said and as well I did. Anyway, I just did not bother much about that but enjoyed myself with the friends and movie. I just know that, I can not be bothered much about what he thinks and what he wants anymore. I know, I can live better without him in my life.

I know I do not need this thread for myself to cure the broken heart anymore, because I am having a better heart now. I do not give myself "time" as the excuse to mingle in the past but I know I just can do it. But I will still come here because here is the place accompany me gone through the hell and toughest time in my life.

good for you girl. am pretty sure the guy is kicking himself right now, judging the way u say he appears to be more attentive

I really admire your character now Winnie.

Thank you Baronic. Is he kicking himself or not I am not too sure, but I know he wants to go out some more since he asked to call him again for movie. He left something with me, claimed that he forgot about it so asked me to keep till we meet the next time to give him.

Geekster, I do not know what is there in my character that you admired. I am just a simple girl learning to grow and hope to be someone better. Life is all about falling down and standing up. This is a repeatable process in life. It is depending on individual how long we want to take to complete the process. I choose not to waste time, since it was already hurt, there is nothing for me to lose anymore.

It's great thanks to you that has put those sour faces of ours back to smiles again.

Thanks. Great having someone like you here around. Although it's only at time I feel like shyet because of the break up, but more often than not, I am fine because there are a whole lot of things in my mind which includes my studies, my scouts, my plans with friends, sports etc.

I just felt very very down yesterday because I wasn't feeling well and it's the first time I fell ill without her being by my side. I think this will and shall be the last time I would feel like that. Even though I missed having her around when I am ill, I would get over it without her because I know I still have my parents around, my friends, and people here in LYN.

Moreover, Winnie, this thread actually doesn't cure ones heart. It's to make one realize how a waste of time it would be to stay in the past and not moving on when things are already done and over. Like me, only after 2 months after my break up I saw this thread and I realized how stupid I was trying to save something I could no longer save and how even more stupid was I to cry endlessly almost every night and refusing the accept facts.

Yes, it was a torture for 2 months. I didn't want to see anyone and don't want anyone to see me because I just wanted to avoid any conversations about it. But today, now, I am would consider myself bold enough to face those people (busy bodies) and talk about it.

Just remember one thing, although a break up is caused by a person, both parties will have some blame and it's rather relevant because no one is perfect and thus make mistakes. Don't try to be a hero or heroin to take all the blame because the other party is to be blamed too.

Bro DreMax, we are all here to support each other through the painful breakup(s). I think that emotional support is very crucial to help us realise that the road ahead is still very long and rough and thus we have to be strong to brace for any unexpected circumstances. They say getting into a relationship is easy but maintaining it is hard and when u fall out of a relationship, its tougher especially when you have to pick up the broken pieces of your heart all by yourself.

I guess most of us will have to go through each stage at some point of our lives. We learn, we grow up from it. Its tough. Really. But with supports from friends, family members and forumers i guess things got a little easier. We know that they are always ready to lend a hand to us if we needed one. Or rather just a place to let us voice out all of the things in our mind.

When one relationship fails, it doesnt mean that the next one will fail also. It could be a blessing in disguise for all we know.

The thread isn't any medication for anyone's heart, we are the medicine for our own sickness. Wasting time or not, I think it is all depend on individual. Yes, I stand up very fast after my break up but it doesn't mean I've wasted any time for that matter. Overall, I prefer to take it as a different experience in life for us to grow wiser and be a better person. If you really want to say waste time, well I guess that relationship which came to be a sad ending already wasted our time right? Anyhow, just think positively and we will feel the great energy in us.

I can understand how you feel but for me I told myself something that, it's all fine because before I met him, even though I fell sick I could have get myself recover and felt better. I fell sick the other day too, badly but when I think of him, I thank him for giving me a chance to learn to be more independent so I can handle myself better in the future. Dremax, everything in this world has two sides, it is depending on us which side that we pick. If you have a choice, pick the positive and good side where you will feel better and your thinking will be wiser too. Sometimes, it's not lying to yourself. I am not asking you to deny the fact of loneliness and sadness occur in you, but to ask you face it in a different point of view. As I said, I was sad too, and I do think of him from now and then but the difference I make is, I take it differently.

I used to take all the blames on myself for everything but not now anymore. That's what I told him the other day that, I do not want to say sorry to him anymore but only thank you for everything. It was not our problem in the break up but I do not want to find anyone's fault into it too. Now I've learnt, whenever you need to say a sorry, try to use the thank you to replace. It makes a big difference in life.

D-zire, yes you are right. It is so easy to fall in love but maintaining is not easy, the worst will be the falling out of love. No matter what it is, we do need the support from everyone. Sometimes a smile to the strangers makes a different too! When a relationship fails, I think I'm glad that I've gained extra knowledge and experience in life.

totally agree on that.