Good to hear that.. Let's all move on and look forward in our life

I was dumped by my GF at January, I was in denial stage till YESTERDAY ( yes, 5 month living in denial). On April , when we go out for an outing , i did something foolish for getting her attention and in the end its the last straw in our relationship. Yesterday when i called her , she said pls dun call or sms her anymore due to her bf is very angered . After consulting my friends , I realized 1 thing. ITS TIME FOR ME TO MOVE ON. Living in denial stage for 5 month is seriously hell , everyday having flashbacks especially when i`m going to bed . My motto for getting over is : It's her loss for not appreciating me / Why is she having all the fun while i`m getting hurt here?

p/s: I did tried to patch back by calling her but each time my call is responded by cold shoulders . She even sounds annoyed when she speaks through the phone. Originally, i have a plan of going down her house at my birthday to ask for a second chance but since it boils down to this, i`m scrapping the plans

To those who are dumped. Please be strong, There is always people to support you


Sorry for a lengthy post

This post has been edited by Neonlight: Jun 2 2010, 04:25 PM

wah..you must be deeply hurt man ...
well, im like you keep having flashbacks from march til now.. 3 months denial stage.. i feel you
nothing much can be done now, esp when they just got their new lifestyle now, they are enjoying themselves be it single or with a new partner.
yeah we all know we have to be strong and move on after all these attempts, but its easier said than done.
right now im also trying to heal, but sometimes just keep falling and have to climb back up again..

*high 5 bro. Yes, denial stage is indeed painful . MY friends asked me to look in this perspective. They say that since she have a bf, ANY action taken by you to patch back the relationships will make you look pathetic and downgrading yourself , Do not forget that she is having a good time while you don't.

You must think in this mindset : Life is unfair . Just because you`re dumped by one girl, are you going to roll up and drop dead? My record is 7 times rejection but i`m still going strong. Memories will haunt you but keep something that will motivates you ( for me, i just wear a tight ring, the ring will put a certain pressure at my finger. Whenever the memories comes back , i just convince myself that i deserve better and she does not really appreciate me )

If these advise don`t work , Go to youtube and search for songs like leona lewis- Happy or other songs which will fit your emotion now

FYI- I did cried when i listen to those song. Yes i cry so what? You need to express yourself. I really wish to have her back but after i cried, i don`t have that feel anymore

Make yourself busy!

to everyone here....let's live ur life better than before yeah!....let's try our best... i know is hard to do...i am also in the same path as all of u here...ex has already moved on with other gal...afraid to tell family scare they would worry about me...still trying after 2 months now.. i do fall sometimes n get emo..do think of talking back to him when i get emo but i know after that situation will get worse..i will think about more things......perhaps we need companion...mayb during this time we know who our true frens are ...hmm...alittle out of topic..haha

lazytongue. don`t talk to him unless he talk to you first. Understand his signal . if he intends to patch back the relationship, sit down and talk properly with him to see will it work up or not. If he send a clear msg like my ex ( she told me she got new bf), then you should certainly step down.


P/s : lets become friends yah since we`re in the same boat?

*high 5 to all!

thx for the advice Neonlight, yea sometimes i will think like that also, be strong and convince myself that i deserve better.
but the hardest thing to get rid is - 'the feeling of love', because we still love our ex, we are not ready to separate yet - that's the feeling that make us suffering now.
no matter what i think and do, this feeling is there to make me down. i will keep miss her and wanted her to come back. but i know thats impossible already..
she already said it straight to my face ' i dont love you like i did anymore ' ARG#$%3353@3ggHHHHHHHH !!! PAIN aaaaa!

maybe like what lazytongue said.. perhaps we need companion.. not used to getting single..

painzz, you just need to let go. You want her back, but she don`t want you. What can you do? force her? If you really love her, you would like to see her be happy.

She said it straight that she din`t love you. How about me? when we go out, she was smsing her ex ( Give me wear green hat) and she don`t even give me a second chance to rekindle our relationship

I know its hard to let go. Even as i type this, i still remember my ex but be strong

unbearable sadness is filling me..

If you really love her, you would like to see her be happy.
i know its good to see her happy.. actually to be frank, the more she happy now, the more i feel sad, it's like telling me that i'm a failure to make her that happy when we're together.

how come you still go out with her?
i didnt even know how to face my ex anymore (eventho she said we can still be friends and meet up)... i scare i cant take it when i met her.
by just chatting with her only just now. my heart sank.. seems like i still havent recover yet.

lol, i din`t go out with her anymore. last time when i go out was due to gathering , i distance myself from her and did something childish which made her more angry.

The green hat ( she sms her ex ) was WHEN i am her bf lol

that's lame! she let you wear the green hat so you mean the guy she's with now is her ex ?!
how long have you guys been together? how come she still like her ex?

i dont know who's her bf now. The reason she broke up with her ex last time is due to family reason, not their own will. She even confess to me that she love her ex more than me. i know her for 3 years but couple only 8 month

used to be good in relationship, but now.
she busy,
so i waited her,
then turning back and say don't wait for me, you may find someone better than me

mental breakdown on the spot.

OUCH . That gotta hurts. Well bro, almost all of us who posted in this thread HAS been in a good relationship before but things will leave you someday . Since she already made the decision to quit, why don`t you follow what she wants and give each other a time out?

If she really belongs to you. After some times, she will contact you again

Be strong bro.

Just imagine those efforts we poured into our past relationship and when it ends, it feels like everything is down to the drain.

in exchange for sweet and bitter memories

yeah. Life is like that wat. One moment its all sweet and candy, the next moment its all tears and pain.

But life will continue even though you're in tears and pain or sweet and candy. The problem is that are you going to just give up on life just because of some small obstacle?

If there is no ups and downs in our life, what is there to be called life? lol

sometimes i wonder why..why must those stupid dumpers can be so cruel..
how can they just leave like that? like nothing happen