Take these westerners opinion with grain of salt. Ang moh punya woman all mental one.

Reminds me of when I was about 18, I had a chat with this uncle. He was a friend punya bapak punya kawan. So he was thinking of retiring now that he has his little pot of gold and his kids all post college already. So I was like wah nice lah uncle.....you have your kids to look after you. His response was fuck no lah boy......I work this fucking hard to have enough money to hire a full time nurse to look after me if I am weak. You want a grumbling angry kid who is pissed he or she has to wipe your ass or some young sweet chick with soft hands being paid well to do so?

Parents are naturally slaves to their babies for decades the moment they rolled out - don't think it was selfish if parents wished to be cared for around a decade once their bodies are as weak as the once the infants they brought up. Nothing selfish about that, and that is what ALL always parents hope for.

Regretting having kids be it young or old are the consequence of prior actions.... but regretting being born is the stupidest and much more mentally degrading - the one only seek to blame and not improve.

Actually , got any parents here felt regret having their kids and still hating it??

Hardly came across anyone who hated their kids/new born…

No need to regret, everything is arranged by karma.

They come to this life to pay you back.

Because you did something good or evil for them in previous life.

If the kid bring luck or wealth to you, or bring bad lucks to you, or make you spend a lot of money on them, it is all previous life karma.


If you have no kids, that means u neither did good nor did bad to anyone in previous life.

If you expect a favour/act to be returned, that is selfish

If you do not expect a favour/act to be returned, that is selfless

kids so cute

What I did to cope was I had a schedule with my wife. When he was a baby and used to wake up every 2 hours we used to have shifts at night to take care of him.

Now that he is a toddler, we take turns as well for chores, who to entertain him, etc. This way we have more time for us. I am also blessed to have a job that only requires me to work 10-12 days a month. Thus for the days that I do not have work I will take care of him fully and allow my wife to rest. Then I will catch up on sleep in the morning/evenings.

Pls tell me you never pass down your genetic code, you can't even read the article or headline lmao

Wished =/= expect.

In reality, those that keep saying parents should be fully unconditional is totally selfish... Want everything handed in a silver platter but abandon your provider after they are weak and frail? Oh wait, we are politically ingrained that way as well.

Unless you advocate parents leaving their babies alone in the house and go for a 10 day vacation when stressed - sure... go ahead advocating parents as selfish.

Know how to read?

https://www.reddit.com/r/regretfulparents/

of course no
specifically due to question no.2


no they're not...not from what i saw these days
i'm not saying all...there are parents out there that sayang their kids like no tomorrow
but there are also parents out there that treat their children as slaves....yell at their child all the time and it's not because they did something wrong
it's just a normal conversation but they just use a yelling tone to talk to their children....and you wonder why certain "rempit" grew up acting like gangster/samseng
it actually originated from their father....monkey see monkey do, turun menurun

and another point is if you bring the child to this world, care for them and you expect return...that's also wrong
you have to think that they barely even keep afloat, where do they still have the resources to take care of you
and it's not even the future, it's already happening now as we speak....it's just going to be much worse in the future

at the end of the day, they can care for u....physically but not mentally and financially....u have to tampung them instead when the real estate price gets out of control

This post has been edited by MR_alien: Apr 24 2024, 05:21 PM

We’re talking from the parents viewpoint here

I’m a parent myself, I dont expect/wish my kids to take care of me when I’m old

To expect/wish that is selfish

Why blame children when they are your seed. Basically they represent u.

I feel like this is irrelevant in the modern era as more and more millennials are choosing not to have kids and the same will go for Gen Z too.

Janji pancut dlm dulu, regret later~~

Really foolish to tread kids as ‘investment’ and seeking ‘return’…

In bolehland, Shitty gaji , monthly new taxes intro, every month harga naik, housing price outta reach for newer gen..and u expect them to financial support u? Lolx .

Of course if they make it then treat it as bonus..

Thanks for the tag mate.

I'll say it again: if you have them, never regret them. If you don't, never miss them.

Finding out you're going to be a parent is scary. Some people are so scared of it they do mental gymnastics to convince the whole world they are the smart ones avoiding it to compensate.

Any decent respectable person cannot help but to acknowledge having a child brings purpose to your existence. Life is not just about consuming and having fun.

Wait till your kids gets older and is able to discuss with you his ideas on morality and common sense... its 100x more satisfying than doing that with the try-hards in /k

This post has been edited by killdavid: Apr 24 2024, 05:51 PM

Those people ultimately are just selfish and never matured. Hence the regret and resentment.