everything in life is a risk. Nothing is perfect. If you want to be in a relationship and share your life, there are risks. You may ended up with wrong partner. Or the partner you believe is the one for you but she doesn't feel the same way and leave you.

when i was single, I remembered one forumer in K told me here, that he enjoys his single life by driving somewhere far away, and take his camera and take pictures.

I also did the same thing, I drove my car, to some where, then went to a chinese restaurant to try the food, then unhook my bicycle from my parked car and cycled around the place.

I remembered when I visited London by myself, I took a morning walk, and walk and walk as far as I could. I saw some interesting boats with people living inside berthed by the london river, I also saw some port equipment back in the 1900s that the London municipal council painted and preserved them like a museum, I walked past a very interesting condo design, I wondered how that bulding could stand on its on based on the design. Then it dawned on me, I wished I had someone to talk to about what I was thinking. I just walked around and snapped the photo with my phone. I wish I could take the photo with someone next to me.

Well those were my single days.

About having regrets on my marriage life? No. Because I lived a very long time being single before settling down. I already enjoyed my single life and have enough of it.

Some bachelors aimed to travel to all countries (possible)
having a spouse who wants steady lifestyle wiill not allow that

I am reminded of this single guy who loves to travel by himself.

He recently went to India, he took 500 pictures of himself and uploaded it into his facebook.

His previous travel was to East Europe, he also took 500 pictures of himself n uploaded into his facebook

they get to see different species of people
the culture and the taste of different girls
marriage has its benefit but its for the process of raising one that opens up your soul

as long as each individual knows what they desire

that is not my taste

that is why I asked TS the questions

He does not strike me as a guy who loves to do things by himself.

So whatever you stand for is up to you, I am just facilitating what TS wants.

you can only speculate based on your subjective experiences, because you dont know someone stories unless if you knew them for years

Fallacy statement. I'm married but I never regret. It has and always will be the decision that I'll make. Sometime in life, with too many options, you will experience not fulfilling life because everyday you are dealing with " what if". If the life really works with "what if", there will not be any beggar on the street.

Going for holiday travelling with gf/wife/child are probably the best of ones memory in life.

But if you are taking your gf/wife/child for holiday, better be ready to be their protector and provider. Its a higher duty than travelling alone.

So I would suggest that, while you are single, you do try to experience travel alone. You will be better company in the future.

Life is too short to live in regret. If you make mistakes in life, just learn what you can from it, improve yourself and move on. Better things could be waiting.

This post has been edited by Cubalagi: Feb 6 2024, 02:25 PM

I think your questions really hit home with me. Probably subconsciously, I have been feeling that I am not doing anything interesting by myself and the circle of friends remain stagnant.

This is the reply I got from TS.

what r u trying to talk kok here?

I am not speculating.

what fallacy?
there's no truth in this world
only facts that are created via imagination and personal experiences
If there was truth, everybody would have an ideal sense of output in this world hence there's zero sufferings happen

Suffering is part of life. Without suffering, with everything is perfect, ppl will not know what is ideal. Do ppl want to live in such condition when you can't even differentiate what is the beauty as the is no benchmark/measurement for the ugly ? Just do some calculus thinking, imagine what if everything is at the steady state, a straight line, a monotone, no cry no laughter, everything is perfect - then what is the meaning of life under such condition ?

It is the rotation of the emotions faced in the life, the process of going through it, recognize that you will not be able to avoid it but has to embrace it. Since you cannot avoid it, then make the best out of it in the life instead of complaining & whining about suffering and failure.

Facts are not created by imagination but you work on it to achieve. Regardless how the individual lead our life (if you lead a meaningful & fulfilling life, you will become the example & role model for other, when you lead moderate or unfulfilling life, you will become the lesson to the other) , Heaven don't give a damn to it because the suffering or happiness you experience is part and parcel of the self correcting/balancing society.

This unstoppable progress, we would only be able to witness a fraction of it in our biological lifespan. We would not be able to witness the beginning until the ending of the creation as it is purposely placed in such a way to left us ponder and question.

Marriage requires acceptance, patience, empathy, compromise and ability to forgive.

If human beings did not have imagination, how would it differ from animals and beasts that we're able to achieve things faster and more efficient. There must be real practices and along with tons of imagination. Even religion and equality are human constructs by imagination.

Again, out of the original topic.

I don't mean to generalise for all. The statement is perhaps incomplete. If a person does not know what they really want, then there will be regrets whether they are married or single. Your and @hoonanoo story are examples that can inspire people to see marriage in a more positive light.

Are you a male or female? Your age?

If you have been single all this while…never been in a relationship as a male….it looks bleak for ya…

You gotta be prepared to looksmaxxing hard. Most men are not born with the quality of a chad. A chad is a totally different quality.

You just be there, didnt open your mouth. And women in your class, in your workplace, random women in the streets will look for way to chat with you, asking random question. Exchange contacts. Look further from you.

If you are not naturally born like this. You gotta workhard with looksmaxxing, as what new gen call it this days. Your probably at best 5/10 and below. Hit the gym, look up tiktok eboys that women thirst iver and what fashion style they are wearing.

Start practising mewing long term to get your face more masculine angular look…current online dating and even physical dating is mostly all about the looks.

Even for man. If you are born short…anything like below 170cm…you are living your life in hard mode when it comes to dating life as a man…theres some young dude i know in this forum. Good looking guy. Rich family.

Even own a brand new 3 series, but they never been in a relationship nvr have a gf all his life. Not fat, not skinny. He was just short. Below 165cm…

This post has been edited by max_cavalera: Feb 26 2024, 07:54 PM

Male, late-30s. Not sure what changing your looks gotta do with marriage regrets. Are you married/not married with regrets?

My point is simple. Late 30s u shudnt even be asking this questions. Its either the girl choose you or they dont.

The first time, we got married for the wrong reasons. While I did regret how it turned out, it did produce 2 wonderful children who gave me a sense of purpose in life and spurred me to achieve greater things I would not have otherwise bothered with. Now that they're in uni, I grew the balls to do my postgraduate just for the fun of being a uni student alongside them.

The second time, it was like playing Sonic the Hedgehog and restarting the level all over again, fully knowing where the obstacles and hazards are. Best decision ever, despite being with her for over a decade. I now have a wonderful and loyal companion to enjoy life with, not having to worry about constantly rolling the dice trying to get laid with a million girls as an achievement. With her around, all other problems in life aren't so big anymore.

This post has been edited by ZZR-Pilot: Feb 27 2024, 02:00 PM

most men still have to initiate the dance with women
how many 5% of guys is visible within an average guy life
probably, will never be able to mix around with those guys

for both sexes, as they achieving their capabilities
they get to screen harder.

That is your biggest problem right there. Your question is like you asking, "how does this fruit taste like? I've never tried it before"
Some say sour
Some say sweet
Some regret tasting it.
...Actually, your case is more like, you haven't even seen the fruit. You don't even know what it means to be together with someone. It's a commitment to a partnership with an imperfect person. At any point of time, you both will experience shits or have to deal with each others' shits, so it's important to remember the good times together, and how she behaves in the bad times. It also means that you'll lose freedom to make certain decisions because you need to consider your partner/families.

Without any experience, there's no way you can tell what you truly want. With every encounter, you'll learn more of that. It doesn't need to progress into an official relationship. If you struggle to meet new people then consider dating apps but read more in the pinned thread to understand how to protect yourself and present yourself better for the type of person you want to attract.

Only then you can answer your own question, whether you want marriage or just stay single. Note: it's totally normal that you change as you be together with a person because you reconcile your preferences and values. Even if you regret today, you might not in 10 years, and that's fine too.

Easy, Ramjade already has a template answer for this
Short answer: don't flaunt, eat cheap, observe her