From some of the threads here, I have seen some comments saying they themselves, their friends, colleagues and relatives regretted marrying.

Is the concept of marriage slowly losing its meaning in modern times?

What are some examples of marriage regrets that you guys can share here?


Edit: To put in context, I am currently looking to date for a long term relationship with view to marriage. But reading some of the comments here which discourages marriage as notion overall somewhat put a doubt in my mind. Is marriage needed after all if we disregard the legal impact on the children?

This post has been edited by Imaginebreaker: Feb 2 2024, 02:56 PM

marriage IS NEVER for SELF-Entitled Person.

not to mention , both SELF-Entitled.

Kids shouldnt have Kids.
Teen shouldnt be married.


Starting FAMILY ONLY FOR ADULT

Maybe you can elaborate more on what is your objective asking is question. So ppl here can give you the appropriate answer you looking for.

If you dont compare or have prejudices, it's better for every ody, not just a marriage.

when you know someone who's down to earth you know he or she relatable cause he doesnt have much ego floating around

find a woman who's curious but not invading your personal finance or boundaries but also content with whatever she has at that particular period of the relationship

pretty women have an inflated sense of ego thanks to bunch of simps in this world, they lack critical thinking and be a slave to consumerism. If you do not have an internal sense of self worth you will easily be a victim to anything exterior.

To put in context, I am currently looking to date for a long term relationship with view to marriage. But reading some of the comments here which discourages marriage as notion overall somewhat put a doubt in my mind. Is marriage needed after all if we disregard the legal impact on the children?

I have included the above in the edited opening post.

if you want it, you will put in the work and make it work.

just be sure its what you really want.

My colleagues told me they regret marrying, they are not really happy for marriage life, some ppl just married for sake of marriage not because of love. if this is the case better to stay single.

its a commitment to each other. if commitment is not both of you are looking for then marriage has no meaning. dive deep and think.

Worth it if you can find a partner to begin a family.

But make sure you are ready in the first place.

And be sure to screen for your partner throughly. Ask critical questions about their finances, morality, life goals etc while getting to know each other.

You listened to the other side of the spectrum or exposed to the other side of the spectrum too much. Continue mixing & get exposed yourself to one sided spectrum will only demotivate you further & further.

Those who went through the relationship / marriage tribulations, only a couple of them successfully got through it to be able to give pointer to the younger generation.

A perfect partner will make your life heaven on earth. A not so perfect partner can make your life a living hell.

TS, do you

1) intend to have children

2) have meaningful emotional connections with your partner, ie can talk about many things, and this goes both ways

3) share common values, outlook in life, etc

if you can answer yes to at least 2 out of 3, then you can consider marriage

else you may want to reconsider marriage.

i'm muslim. I'm married. To me marriage is such a gamble.
You dont know your partner until you stay together under the same roof with her/him.
Besides, during the marriage many life test as an adult that happen, no money, getting fired, in law conflict issue, sickness and etc. It is difference how a married couple and love couple handle the difficult situation. During couple phase all is happy and lovey dovey stuff. After marriage your partner tend to show their true colour.

I dont understand what is the purpose of non-muslim to get married. you can stay together and can test drive some more. if you want to get married be ready all mentally, physically and emotionally. it is long term commitment and not all success until the end.

you still have 3 chances there

there are still few happily ever after marriages out there. it requires huge effort from both to maintain a happy marriage and most importantly, gotta keep the spark burning.

What kind of demotivation?
It only takes a year or two for (self sufficient) adults to reconsider having a child in their late 30s or 40s, life is unpredictable

I saw you written you early 40s already
whats your relationship experiences so far?

It only takes one or two excuse to start considering cheating sexually outside. The world is full of temptations, marriage itself is only useful to give the child have a "proper" upbringing

Nil. I have been single all this while.