She doesn't do my laundry or cook FYI. I do those things at home

Both of you are on the same team.
I'm not sure if you're trolling or not, if it's copy paste from another place, all of the message log should have the same format [12/06, xx:xx] : , however some have ":" and some don't. But lets give you the benefit of the doubt.

Financials goals, same life goals are important in a marriage.
I wonder how come this was not talked / surveyed before marriage.

I suggest you can give some money to cover daily meals / spendings that can be in a joint account.
If can teach her to do budgeting will be better.

In the end if fight and both unable to see eye to eye and later divorced? You have to pay alimony also same.

LMAO wait this came from her?? Wow I'm surprised she's willing to equate herself to hooker to get free money from you.
Did I misunderstand something? Why does she want to degrade your relationship into a business transaction? If she mean by discussing it, turns it into a business, then I have to question how you guys have been carrying on with your marriage for so many years without a single financial discussion.......

[12/06, 11:56] : I'm open to discussion
[12/06, 11:56] : I'm opening up now
[12/06, 11:56] : And I don't mind discussing
[12/06, 11:57] : You shut me down now then you suppress it
[12/06, 11:57] : Next time we fight you bring it up again
[12/06, 11:57] is that fair to me?
[12/06, 11:59] Other ppl don't even need to hv this kinda discussion
[12/06, 11:59]  The husband just give
[12/06, 12:00]  Cos it just be a biz transaction
[12/06, 12:00] No different from a hooker and her client

If you don't mind me asking which part of this convo is hers? This plus the cc part and justification for spending is indicative of something serious and deep rooted.

This hit me like a lorry when she said I didn't give her allowance like other husbands.

no your wife is an asshole.

you pay all the maintenance, yet she still want you to give her money.

she cares for your money obviously.

Thanks for the reply. I asked her how much you think I should give you to be comfortable. She asked for 5k which I think is lunacy. The work I do is very skill intensive and I come home feeling very exhausted everyday so in my mind why do I have to do this when an office 9 to 5 worker doesn't do much gets double?

Sorry I'm just ranting now cuz I'm pretty upset.

How much do you think is reasonable?

I'm the last person you think will troll on kopitiam serious section. I removed our names from the texts. When I copied paste our full names appear.
Because we married thinking the husband pays for everything which I accepted. This hit me like a lorry when she said I didn't give her allowance like other husbands.

Ah sorry. What you said make sense now you mentioned.
So in the end make her understand that her money is hers. She can do what she want with it.

Your money is your family's money. She have to understand that as well.
- Savings for future.
- Savings for rainy day.
- For kids in future. (if in plan / pipeline)

If budget RM40 per day for meals and roof all covered by you.
About RM1'500-2'000 for her to cover any house improvements / meals together sounds fair?

Hope you can resolve this happily among both parties in the end.
Wish you luck.

[12/06, 11:59] Other ppl don't even need to hv this kinda discussion
[12/06, 11:59]  The husband just give
[12/06, 12:00]  Cos it just be a biz transaction
[12/06, 12:00] No different from a hooker and her client

Hers

[12/06, 11:59] Other ppl don't even need to hv this kinda discussion
[12/06, 11:59]  The husband just give
[12/06, 12:00]  Cos it just be a biz transaction
[12/06, 12:00] No different from a hooker and her client

Hers

this is the problem of modern men
they forgot to put their women in their place.

wtf ?!

What is the notion of marriage to her ? Is it just partnership ?

These seems to be a bit odd, what's the context here ?

[12/06, 12:00]  Cos it just be a biz transaction
[12/06, 12:00] No different from a hooker and her client

Sigh

You got to have a heart to hear talk. What you make is beside the point, and from what you say you're more than pulling your weight in the family. I fear you give in its never gonna be enough. Elephant in the room is frankly her attitude . Shes not acting like an adult and a wife and mother

Good luck 🤞