confirm a-hole, with 30k per month, invest a little on the missus also cannot issit ? also set aside privately for her until 10-20 years maturity date will be good. missus not happy, your so-called marriage is zero...yeah even with your 30k per month syiok sendiri only.

Same. I poped the question to her last week. I told her others are suffering now no job and I'm working and able to withstand this Covid but seems macam not enough for her. I told her try finding a husband that don't expect you to do house wife chores but she say why compare yourself to bad husbands when there are better ones out there.

You're capable for it. I think 1-2k a month is a reasonable amount from what you are earning.

Your woman is your life partner. For LIFE. Not just your baby machine or maid.

maybe give 3k, then ask her do something else in return? e.g start to do some easy house chores, laundry, cooking?

And what does It leave me? I cook everyday after coming from work. I do my laundry. I wash the plates. I hired a nanny for my son & is with me at my clinic everyday.

So how is it that she makes me feel like I'm not doing enough?

you RM30K
she RM5k

you pay for everthing.
she wants some allowance so that we can tell her friends she get allowance from you

so give her something.

or

you can suggest - i will buy a house for you. and pay for the installments (which is investments and rental income for you )
so she can tell her friends you bought a house for her.

Have you even asked her to help the housechores? Do the housechores together, not leaving 1 person for it.

And of course, in the first place before marrying her, you should know how she's like. The lazy trophy wife or a real life partner.

some time lady aks for manja saja..to see u care her or not.
but if she keep asking tambah more..is difference story liao

If i am giving that sort of money to my wife, i will expect better treatment

If you had to ask, that means there's no genuine desire for her to please you. If she didnt know how to behave properly as a traditional wife, then shes not for it la.

modern women expect traditionalism from mem, but themselves dont want to be traditional, talk about irony.

its like 95% of modern women

Seems that your marriage is becoming unstable, or you won't even be discussing about this. Maybe she is starting to feel insecure.

How long have you known/dated her before marriage? I'm quite surprised the financial planning topic is missed.

Secondly, is this something recent only, with her toxic friends? Are their husbands doing everything/paying for everything also?

Thirdly, does she spend without thinking of tomorrow? What is her backup plan?

Like the saying, money is the root cause of all evil.

come on bro. You should've have trained her to be stay at home mom or being submissive, now its too late.

if she treat you like a king, you should treat her like a queen. vice versa.

30k also can't give a little pocket money to wife?
If 3k I can faham..

Liddis, gib her 1-2k to start with, but ask her to share the house workload

I bring in even more than you per month, and my missus about half of mine, but still I gib some also, cause she takes care of the house better than a maid can in my opinion

This post has been edited by maxpudding: Jun 12 2021, 02:36 PM

My ex also never did house chores, and I didn't mind.

Sex after her pregnancy was zilch too. I was supposed to feel lucky if I can get it 3 times a year.

I didn't earn 30k, but I still gave what I can spare then. I was also paying for the house, deposit on her car, some shopping...

But, after years of almost zilch sex, I stopped paying. She never asked then coz she was earning big bucks then.

Fast forward few more years... out of the blue, she asked for a sit down, talked about money. She was earning bigger bucks then. I believe the amount that I said I am willing to provide her monthly was not to her satisfaction. I didn't bring up the almost zilch sex.

Few months later, she asked for a divorce.

This post has been edited by flagstaff: Jun 12 2021, 02:38 PM

what's the reason that made you decided she's the 1 you want innitially? because based on your post and replies, I do see the bad signs of these coming up and incompatible with you?

or because she's younger and good-looking that's why you fall for her? or is it some kind of flash marriage like together a few months or 1 year then get married without really understand each other?

sure you can give her $$, but i don't think that solve the real problem as in both thinkings of the current & future mindset and planning all different? so that's why i am asking why you decided to married her

This post has been edited by KcX35: Jun 12 2021, 02:39 PM

she didnt even fulfill her role as a mom, what should she entitled to the money? Lol