My ex also never did house chores, and I didn't mind.

Sex after her pregnancy was zilch too. I was supposed to feel lucky if I can get it 3 times a year.

I didn't earn 30k, but I still gave what I can spare then. I was also paying for the house, deposit on her car, some shopping...

But, after years of almost zilch sex, I stopped paying. She never asked then coz she was earning big bucks then.

Fast forward few more years... out of the blue, she asked for a sit down, talked about money. She was earning bigger bucks then. I believe the amount that I said I am willing to provide her monthly was not to her satisfaction. I didn't bring up the almost zilch sex.

Few months later, she asked for a divorce.

This post has been edited by flagstaff: Jun 12 2021, 02:38 PM

Not sure about fidelity. I really didn't mind the housechores and cooking. She was bad at both anyway.

Yea...my bad. She was damn hot!

That said, i am not without fault myself. Maybe i could have been a better husband. Wooo her off her feet to get her in the mood. But, tbh, it would be kind of hard to make the effort when the other side was always full of excuses; too tired, headaches, sleepy... Plus, I didn't have 30k/m.

She did make an effort a year prior to asking for divorce. She initiated the sex. But, by then, I was somewhat surprisingly disgusted by it. I knew she wanted to repair the broken marriage then. She was sending a signal that after more than a decade of excuses, she was ready and willing for sex without me asking for it. But, i was damn sure that there was an unmentioned catch too. Plus, the best years had passed. It was like...all the best parts have been eaten, and I was served the leftovers, and for that, I still have to appreciate the effort of the chef, and pay the bill.

Anyway, back on topic...

For TS, I would still say that with you earning 30k, she really shouldn't have to ask. TS should have been giving her some monthly allowance. It should have been from the start of the marriage, but, not to the amount of 5k.

I feel that you have failed that part way early on.

But, IF the zilch sex part came and only then you witheld giving her allowance...then, truly, sincerely...get a divorce fast.

Nobody is addressing the elephant in the room.

NO SEX!

Regardless of after pregnancy or whatever excuses. How is that even normal? Is that normal and that's why you all overlook it?






*Refer to post #97

This post has been edited by flagstaff: Jun 12 2021, 07:55 PM

How's the sex life?

Would you still give her money if sex is almost non-existent?

You didn't read the part where she said, no parking! Parking not allowed still dare to ask for parking fee?

I am actually interested to know which came first:

A. no pay, then parking not allowed or;
B. parking not allowed, so not paying

post #97 stated that pussy closed shop. still need to pay pussy fees?