Depression (major depressive disorder) is a common and serious medical illness that negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act. Fortunately, it is also treatable. Depression causes feelings of sadness and/or a loss of interest in activities once enjoyed. It can lead to a variety of emotional and physical problems and can decrease a person’s ability to function at work and at home.

Depression symptoms can vary from mild to severe and can include:

Feeling sad or having a depressed mood
Loss of interest or pleasure in activities once enjoyed
Changes in appetite — weight loss or gain unrelated to dieting
Trouble sleeping or sleeping too much
Loss of energy or increased fatigue
Increase in purposeless physical activity (e.g., hand-wringing or pacing) or slowed movements and speech (actions observable by others)
Feeling worthless or guilty
Difficulty thinking, concentrating or making decisions
Thoughts of death or suicide
Symptoms must last at least two weeks for a diagnosis of depression.

Also, medical conditions (e.g., thyroid problems, a brain tumor or vitamin deficiency) can mimic symptoms of depression so it is important to rule out general medical causes.

Depression affects an estimated one in 15 adults (6.7%) in any given year. And one in six people (16.6%) will experience depression at some time in their life. Depression can strike at any time, but on average, first appears during the late teens to mid-20s. Women are more likely than men to experience depression. Some studies show that one-third of women will experience a major depressive episode in their lifetime.

https://www.psychiatry.org/patients-familie...t-is-depression

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I think we need a support group to try to help or for people who are having mental issues to talk about it. Hopefully it is a beginning to the long recovery of depression. Of course we are not professional here but we can share our stories and help support each other.

This post has been edited by abubin: Sep 19 2017, 02:01 PM

What medicine is the best for depression?

What vitamins can help reduce depression?

Can also reach out to Befrienders for support.

Try taking a look here.

This post has been edited by ZenXL: Sep 19 2017, 11:46 AM

not at the peak level, and i'd rather classify it more as anxiety.

the onset of anxiety can lead to depression (they are both different), and i have gone through (and still going through) some of the toughess time in all my life.

here's a reddit thread that has given me some tips recently https://www.reddit.com/r/Nootropics/comment...nic_depression/

the takeaway i get is, sleep !

i rarely get restful sleep. my mind is hyperactive. i always wake in the middle of the night, at least once. if i wake more than once, the next day i'll be very irritated and tired. the uncontrolled thoughts is easier to attack me when i am at the weakest.

when i get the onset of panic attack, i know my symptom quite alot now, which is very fast heart rate and the hand will turn ice cold. what i do is, i will stop everything im doing, and do deep breathing. if that isn't enough, then i'll walk away from the location and find something else that will distract me, like scenery. then i will do the breathing exercise there until symptom subside.

now, i have bought a lavender essential oil, it helps keep me calm.

This post has been edited by dtdw: Sep 19 2017, 12:12 PM

i support!

just read the news about the statistics from befrienders showing how people with suicidal thoughts are rising this year. i also was in a similar place a few years ago but i was lucky to have a supportive family.

How about anxiety support group?

I have extended this topic to all sorts of psychological disorder. If it is too large a topic then we will have to split it. Else, it helps for those having this problem to read about them and then find out exactly what kind of mental disorder they are having.

I just had some sort of anxiety attack recently and my hands almost became numb. I was driving and had to stop at the curb to relax.

I feel you, i get anxiety attack from time to time too..Not really sure how to overcome it.

Need to find out what is the cause of it. I think for some people there is a trigger.

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This post has been edited by dtdw: Sep 21 2017, 08:08 AM

May i know more about your panic attack, especially the heart rate part. does it gradually racing up & subsides instantly after the breathing exercise?

Last month i have symptoms of physical panic attacks although my mind was clear & not really anxious.
I got a sudden increase of racing beats out of nowhere without any alarming thought, no strenuous activity at all during attack.
After experiencing a few sudden racing episode & feel ashamed to measure my heart rate with mobile apps at work (usually within 130+ bpm), i finally bought myself a fitbit device.
2 days after I got a quite nasty panic attack that sends my heart rate from 100+ to 171bpm in seconds. spontaneously cough up this one & it drops suddenly to below 100 bpm. Crazy but amusing at the same time. No other symptoms, no hyperventilation & dizzyness, just the racing beats.

Although my physical symptoms are brief but it was quite painful...lol. annoying pressure feel in chest & my back hurts hours after that episode. I got intermittent palpitation for days...lol, become very sensitive with food.

I dont think my panic was triggered by emotions, it maybe something i've eaten....for the last 6 weeks before the big attack i quit carbs cold turkey & embark on a high intensity exercising but without proper sleep & rest. I accidentally dropped on the diet bandwagon & have eaten white breads & more carbs for a few days. It looks like my body really hated that shit im eating.

Thank goodness it's been 4 weeks i dont experience it anymore. Just hoping that was the last one.

This post has been edited by speedfamgirl: Sep 22 2017, 02:52 AM

it has quite alot to do with sugar levels, that much i can say. i also have other health issues. i suspect it's those cases where a sudden drop of blood sugar triggers the effect. but coupled with lack of sleep, all sorts of things can happen.

usually the heart rate for panic attack is sudden rise, so when i tested it is up at 120bpm, and after deep breathing it falls back down to around 90. My usual is 86bpm.

170+bpm is probably a little bit unusual, i think yours is mainly diet and nothing much to do with anxiety driven panic attack.

This post has been edited by dtdw: Sep 22 2017, 07:48 AM

Well i did consulted our medic at work about the sudden increase in pulse rate because i feel so sore the next morning...he hinted it may be atrial fibrillation & urged to get it checked. The mentioning of AFib makes me really anxious, i took a quick glance on my fitbit during the meet up but the rate was only 110 bpm tops...lol. so yeah it's not too high & i can sense it coming because it creeps up.

I dont think I have any weird heart/thyroid problem of course, but sometimes being on ketogenic diet may cause some arrhythmia during the induction stage.

When is the last time you have your medical check done?

In my clinical practice,
I found that most of the panic attack sufferers was triggered by certain condition.
Such as heart palpitation or dizziness when people stare on them in the public area.
Food itself also plays a role here.
For example, teh ice during late dinner and then midnight wake up with heart palpitation (This might relate to blood sugar level and stress hormone issue).

We shouldn't only work on one factor but take a more holistic approach to improving mental health issues.
Psychotherapy or clinical hypnotherapy works very well if therapist finds out the root cause and provide them with various coping techniques.

on July this year

Appreciated your response.

Just a short story about me here:
I myself too in the past, few years back i did feel a bit moody & lost with low esteem, poor communication just because of working night shift for almost a year. The resource & encouragement i had was minimal, it makes me quite anxious with people & slowly it was affecting my work performance. I always feel negative & thinking people will always talking bad about me behind my back. I snapped so easily. I was in big trouble in the verge of losing my job, hence im asking for a counselling session while doing the dreaded improvement plan.
The counselling somehow worked, it feels like a great relief to be able to talk to a professional 3rd party without prejudice about my background. Once the mind has been set clear (i just learn to be assertive in communication with people) the rest follows. Completed the improvement plan & saved my ass from being terminated.
Most of the bad people that make my life miserable (or its just me?) have moved on & the new supervisors didn't care so much about my past. I finally get all the resource & help i need to succeed.

I know the feeling of having mental stress...it may affect on the physical. when the mental are tired i have more stupid dreams, dull skin & acne due to lack of deep sleep, despondent (gundah gulana) feeling every day..but never heart palpitations.

The palpitations for me comes from physical stress. I have researched a lot on my physical symptoms for the past few weeks, yet nothing matches exactly on what i've experienced. My medical reports are good & its pretty impossible i'm suddenly getting weird heart problems at the age of 33...lol.
The only strong reason i got sudden rapid pulse out of nowhere is due to low carb crash diet.
https://www.etobb.com/question/i-have-been-...he-past-f-36353

So peeps, eat well & dont do drugs mmkay? (p/s: i dont smoke, no drug & very seldom do alcohol)

sometimes, test report can come out all clean, afterall those are one time and not constant monitoring. i still get sudden drop in blood sugar feeling and i have to keep on eating every 2 hours. i have also other health issues that needs to be fixed but yeah, diet plays a role apart from mental stress.

it goes both ways. a person needs to take care of both to be able to function well. and sleep of all things is most important. especially slow wave sleep.

i somehow suspect i always get REM sleep and fragmentation more often, and wake up multiple times cant fall back asleep. these stacks up and will make a sane person go crazy.

CAN SOMEONE KINDLY GIVE ME SUGGESTION FOR A GOOD HYPNOTHERAPY PERSON, WHO CAN HELP ME WITH MY ANXIETY . I BEEN READING ONLINE,HYPNOSIS CAN HELP DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY. BUT ALL ORANG PUTIH PLACE.
CAN SOMEONE GUIDE ME FOR THIS.

You may try Turning Point
http://www.turningpoint.org.my/

How much do they charge, is it expensive?

Not sure, i went to them during my self esteem crisis...it was part of Employee Assistance Program i make full use of to survive my ordeal.

Please update here if you have the pricing so that I could put it up in the first page for other to reference. Thanks.

I'm hoping someone can share actually

you can contact Clinical Hypnotherapist Hiro Koo from newmindcentre.com for clinical hypnotherapy service. I heard the initial consultation charge is around RM200 if not mistaken. He is local and can speak mandarin too. Now he is practicing in the Life Care Medical Centre, Bangsar South

I need someone to talk to.

I'm very depressed lately and feel like there's no meaning to my life. I'm constantly questioning my purpose in life. I felt demotivated and hopeless...

Thanks for all the above suggestions. i took my husband to a private hospital recently . a dr who provides hypnosis service. i took him for a problem,worked.
and still in followup. im considering for me too now. the dr shared with me some hypnosis information,which i found interesting,and started reading more.worth to have a look i think.

http://hypnotherapyservicesmalaysia.weebly...ty-hypnotherapy

Same here. I have a degree but seem to not remeber anything. Cant find a suitable job. Have lots of student loans to pay. Feel like an alien in the human crowd. Cant seem to function like a normal person would.

How about we create a group and listen to each other

Have both of you tried exercising? It releases a feel-good feeling once you have exercised.

It's good idea, maybe can start with a discord group.

This post has been edited by Kilohertz: Oct 16 2017, 04:12 PM

You could both try calling the Befrienders for a start.

http://www.befrienders.org.my/


Or see them in person.

Not exactly ideal, but at least something.

Bear in mind that they are staffed mostly by volunteers,
some of whom are just school leavers/part timers with poor
general knowledge, let alone psychology.

I also don't really like the way they are instructed or trained
to handle callers.

They will tend to reply when you ask them a question or their
opinion on some issue - "It's not what I think - it's how you feel".

They are taught to being impartial so as not to implicate
any liability on themselves, but that is a very silly way, and
defeats the purpose of setting up such a sensitive helpline in
the first place.

Staying positive & having a happy-go-lucky character is the first steps into not falling into the trap of depression .. but sometimes it's hard ..

I actually have series of anxiety problems since I'm young. It's mainly tied to performance (sleeplessness before exam) etc, and at a point I need to be prescribed with sleeping pills.

It's a long way since, but I am still facing the problem. I guess at some level anxiety disorder does limit my ability to live my life. Like for example, changing job to Singapore had me so worked out up to the point I gave up an opportunity. Fear of failure limits myself so much that I don't even dare to try something new, or find a new job.

Anxiety is really tied to depression, so anxiety is anxious over future, depression is sadness over the past (e.g. I gave up the opportunity to go to SG). My depression had been mostly background noise... It's always there but most the time I'm okay.

I don't have too much budget for professional help. I'm trying to do more workout and it does help. Any suggestions?

My girlfriend have hipertation need some alprazolam and I scare doctor not approve so how can I do now.....

you can try this as posted earlier https://www.befrienders.org/

they're very nice to talk to. I've experienced with them. They're excellent listener and provide good advise.


For self improvement,
1. you can actually make use of Youtube platform, always put your home page/ decorate your home page things with positive vibes such as positive songs, positive artist/ video [which you should do so to your Social Media's newsfeed such as Facebook]

search for the songs/ video "motivation song" + "motivation video" these actually helps

2. as in for facebook, try to minimised your browsing, because it can actually creates depression where you start to envy what others have, you dont have.

3. read books "self improve/ self-help" books are always best friend, it is just that Malaysia's biggest problem is LACK OF READING. When you stop reading, you stop self improvement, also at the same time, your motivation is gone, where you lost in your mission & goal! It is very important to start reading

4. join social club such as "Toastmaster" or "Leo" club, avoid their politics, look for positive group that can help you.

5. exercise or sports! stay active

6. get a pet, pet can be your best friend! and provide you positive energy too!

last but not least, feel free to pm me, it's been a while since "internet born", i used to help people that have depression.

Those days internet are a friendly corner where we make friends over internet.

Now , crime rate happening.



This post has been edited by eligible: Nov 25 2017, 02:30 PM

what is the main purpose for heading to Singapore?
Money?

If money, you gotta stop right there. Whenever your life is about money, sooner or later depression comes in.

My suggestion, as comment above. read books + youtube [motivation video], eventually, you'll found what you actually need/wants in your life.

Among other things is money, more to the point my gf is there. Anyway I've tried long to understand what I want in life, but that's largely... still unknown... haha...

Updates: I was depressed over the weekend, but I forced myself to go to gym (against most part of me...). Turn out I'm now alert and happy, even nothing had changed in my life. Just sharing pointers to keep yourself up...

This post has been edited by chrisderick88: Nov 26 2017, 05:09 PM

let's start small, the choice of words you're using are negative. Always choose the brighter words in your mind. Eventually yourself will be positive.


Well that would be a strong point since relationship is something can build happiness in life. Just do it! Well put so much doubt?

Anyway I've tried long to understand what I want in life, but that's largely...
Read this book, "Think Rich, Grow Rich"

This post has been edited by eligible: Nov 27 2017, 07:38 AM

HELLO !!!

Appreciate to those who had experienced on depression and wish you could share with me your life experience and ways to cope with it as it means a lot to me.

I suspect myself having mild depression as i have some depression symptoms which includes:

1. Wish to sleep as much as possible to avoid thinking, however, there are times i woke up every day at 4am just to continue with my work. Nevertheless, i had not been efficient and could not solve the problems in my work, which wasted another 3 hours of sleeping hours.

2. At times, dont feel like eating although i am starving.

3. Feeling tired all the time.

4. I feel useless MOST of the time, as i feel like i couldn't do well in my career, as compared to my colleague where they could finish their work on time, whereas me, i spend all day all night also couldn't complete.

5. Difficult in thinking, concentrating and making discussion (feel like my soul is not here).

6. Thought of suicide. (However, i have no guts and i have a family to take care of).

7. I feel stressed out all the time. I feel like i cant communicate with people around me, like an introvert, I will have severe tension whenever i face anything (no matter small or big).

Hello there my friend. What you describe does sound like depression to me. I had/have similar symptoms, especially number 1 and number 6. I do relapse from time to time but I am doing much better nowadays. In fact, I think this year was the first year I did not have any suicidal thoughts at all. Been struggling with this since 2006 as far as I can remember.

I can offer you some anecdotal advice as to how you can help yourself. Sorry in advance for the wall of text.

1. First and foremost, please seek professional help if you are able. I was fortunate enough to have a psychologist available to me when I was in college and I learned a lot on how to manage my depression from her. When I relapsed into serious depression a few times after I was out of college, I couldn't go seek professional help but my previous experience with said psychologist really helped pull me through.

2. As cliche as this might sound: Focus on you. One of the damnest things that really trigger me last time was comparison. I compared to my friend who just got married, I compared to my friend who got promoted, I compared to my friend who drives a nice car, etc. You get the idea. I was a goddamn straight A student who came from a quite well off family with a full ride scholarship to study in the states. And I still was depressed. From an outsider's point of view, I have no right to be depressed. I got everything. It can happen to anybody and it is not your fault. My point is, until I started to focus on myself, I was never truly happy. Social media exacerbates these things, because people only post the highlights of their lives, not the lows. And if you compare your own boring mundane life with other people's highlights, you can't move forward.

3. Got the focus on yourself? Good. Now get on improving yourself. Take small steps, do things to better yourself from yesterday. Do things you like to do. Baking, cooking, painting, whatever. Even video games is good I might argue. I personally fell in love with the sport of powerlifting. I can pretty much say powerlifting saved my life. That's what I focus on. I exercise, and I train, and I get better every day. This transfers to your daily life, get better than you were yesterday, in whatever it is you like to do.

4. Take care of yourself. This one gets neglected a lot. A healthy mind starts from a healthy body. Exercise, eat right and sleep well. Quit smoking if you smoke. I can help you quit, I was a 1-pack-a-day chain smoker for 7 long years before finally quitting 2 years ago. Take good care of your sleep hygiene. If you don't know what that means, that means you got some homework to do. Get fit, get healthy and trust me, as you get more and more fit, you will automatically become a happier person. Do not fall into the trap of saying that you do not have time. You have time. You can minus 30 mins of TV every night. You can eat a bit quicker during lunch to take a long walk around the park during lunch breaks. There are so many ways you can exercise and keep fit, it only needs to be prioritized. Time can be made. 168 hours in a week, surely you can spend 3 hours in the week to jog or do whatever exercise you can do.

5. Talk. Learn to talk. This takes trust and it takes someone special and it will take a long time to develop. I was with my girlfriend for a good 3 years before I finally learned how to talk and express myself in ways that can relieve me of the stresses that I face. If you have that someone to listen to you, then good. If not, then it's okay too. Learn and cultivate that trust with someone you can trust your secrets to. If you simply need someone to listen to your rants, man, you are welcomed to PM me.

6. Lastly, remember you are loved. No matter what people might say, no matter who you are, I am certain there is someone out there who loves you. Do not hurt that person by hurting yourself.

That's all I got for now. I hope you can employ some of these advice so that you can help yourself. I'm here to talk to you if you just need a listening ear. I wish you well and good luck.

Hei there, I'm a psychology major. Are you experiencing major changes in your life recently? For depression and anxiety, have you tried psychotherapy or talk therapy as medical intervention? Medication paired with psychotherapy is the most effective way to promote recovery. Try seek for consultation at New Health, Petaling Jaya. http://newhealth.city - I worked there as a counselor. Hope this helps.

Medication does not outright cure depression but it may help with the management of symptoms. However, medication paired with psychotherapy is the most effective way to promote recovery. Various interventions and mental health approaches to psychotherapy including but not limited to Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Humanistic & Existential Therapy, Exposure Therapy, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, Eye Movement Desensitization & Reprocessing (EMDR), Interpersonal Therapy, Psychodynamic Therapy, Gestalt Therapy, Person-Centered Therapy, Integrative Holistic Therapy.


I'm a psychology major, psychotherapist and a mental health counselor at New Health, Petaling Jaya. Hope this helps.

My problems... are mostly my family... I feel like they ruined my life. And I feel like disown them. I can’t stop thinking what is my fault that I deserve this.

Hi there. Do you need someone to talk to? I can help provide a listening ear to you if you would like, for free! Just PM me and maybe I can help? I would love to listen and talk if that is something you would like to do. I've been around depression and suicidal thought for the longest time so I can empathize what you are feeling.

We're on the same boat, well sometimes we've thought" how to change them", but come to think of it, we've to change ourselves to show them rather changing them. It is who they are. Perhaps, it's a challenge from God for us to live under the same roof with them.

I moved out. So I’m not living with them. But they won’t stop bothering me with their shit.

I've feel ya. I always distance from them.

Still no matter where you're, you'll have to come across family talks within friends or colleagues.

In my situation, I would only close my eye for the present and always share about the best and happy moment. Thats how I try to move on

Will that makes me an infilial child for doing that?
It upsets my parents that I’m ‘different’ from my siblings.
But it upsets me that they’re constantly trying to compare me with others and expect me to be like everyone lar.

Recently attended an appointment with physchology.

We have to find the root cause why you comparing yourself with siblings. Was it because you're being treated unfair since young?
If yes, most likely you're seeking for acknowledgement and love.

In my age. 20 to 35, I've a partner. Suggestion by my doctor would try to seek from your partner rather than your friends or colleagues or family. We can't change mindset from family but we can have what we have.

If you're single, love yourself by treating yourself better. When you always seek for something you doesn't have, why not look at what we have? Appreciate.

Yup.. I have a very loving partner. And he’s very supportive to me. I hasn’t been contacting my family for a while and I feel good and relieved.. wondering if this is bad.

Life you got a choice. Choose being happy.
Black and white is decision to be wise or not.

Separate black and white from happiness.

Sometimes doing the right thing doesn't makes you happy. You gotta follow your happiness. Live positively. One day, those bad things (storm) perhaps might turn into sunshine..

Control what you can,
Things that can't control, let it free on the sea.

hi. I have been suffering from mild cognitive dysfunction for more than 3 years. it has affected my study, social and now working life. It happened out of sudden when I suddenly lost my ability to critically think, my comprehensive skill etc. I couldnt grasp everything that I read or heard. I felt detached to the reality and felt like everything was surreal to me. I had other physical symptoms like constant headaches, tingling sensation etc. I went to see a neuro but results came out normal. Gradually I got into depression and tried almost all anti-depressants but nothing positive.

I'm still having this problem now. I've been working out for almost a year just in case it would make a change but nope. Even now, I'm having difficulties in understanding, reading and my memory skill has dropped drastically. I really feel committing suicide and want to give up my life.

I just want to know if anyone has any other way for me to seek help..thanks

Hey first of all, i think you seems perfectly fine and articulated in writing. I think what you feeling is an intense fear of failure and thus you putting pressure yourself what i believe its called performance anxiety. The first step to help you feel better is to just let it go,and ive been in your situation before, what i did was, i adopted this approach of thinking "if i fail, then be it", somehow it helps to lessen my anxiety and i can function again.

I've seek professional therapist and etc it didnt work much for me until i start have " whatever happens, then be it" . i feel less anxiety and have more faith.

I hope this reply help you!

Hi. Thanks for the reply. But that doesn't explain my lack of ability in comprehending and remembering whatever that have been told to me. Like my boss told me to do something, when I came back to my room I totally forgot until I was reminded by my boss. To be honest, I'm having difficulty in completing/doing my work as I have 'brain fog' all the time.

Now, I have come to the point that I will just go with the flow. I have stopped expecting anything and I accept my weaknesses and 'sickness'.

Probably because you having anxiety when you with your boss , thus you can't comprehend or remember your boss instruction, it happens to me too.

Yes just keep with the flow.. let it be. it will helps a lot. just dont think too much

Well it happens to everyone even with my friends..

Btw, appreciate your reply..thanks

How do i get help for a family member who I suspect is depressed? He is not sleeping, smoking and drinking coffee e nonstop, always have bleak outlook and negative thoughts about life. Talked about hurting his children.

He doesn't want to go to a doctor for a medical check up, last time he went was a decade ago, he stopped taking his meds after 1 week saying the meds is making him crazy. Now he refused to even leave the house.

The local physiatrist hospital told us to get an MO to issue a letter before they can have a look at him. How can we do so when he gets angry when we suggests to take him for medical check up at general clinics?

Hi there

From what I know, psychologists and psychatrists cannot do much if that person is not willing to undergo treatment, unless said person is admitted involuntarily if they are in danger of harming themselves or others, with assistance from the police of course.

You also need to understand that not all people with mental issues are actually aware or admit that they have mental issues. You cannot force those who are not to seek treatment because you will only end up angering them.

Got any idea why he refuse treatment? Eg. Shame, fear of having to be put away, having delusions of being persecuted by authorities etc?

Btw, the talk about hurting his kids is really worrying.

He keeps insisitng he is not crazy and that he doesn't need help and yes.. delusions that someone is out to get him. His actions are worrying - he can stare into space for hours then go to the extreme- angry muttering, hitting his head and talking nonsense. Just recently he keeps saying he wonders how it feel if he sliced his wrist.

My question is if we force him to get treatment - involve the police to take him to physiatrist hospital. Will they accept him? So far the hospital keeps insisting we must get reference from MO which we already told them it's impossible as he refuses to leave the house or go anywhere.

They will ward him for observation for a month. But you need to first have proof that he threatened people.

I am a diagnose Bipolar Disorder patient. My case was simple - diagnose once after gave birth of my first son. My sibling can easily and correctly guess that i got "DEPRESSION" right after i gave birth. I was depressed, stressed, worried, cried, punching to the wall, lay down and sit up straight (every few mins, i was trying to calm myself down), shaking, shivering...etc etc when the so called "panic attack" attacked me.

I can't focus myself, my brain was stuck, i can't make simple decision at all, i need to ask around for answer even my small niece know how to answer.... i got a bad 2 months of confinement. my days were doomed, dark.... when i looked at the TV, my brain is empty, i can't even tell the synopsis of the drama to my husband. my appetite was so bad...cant take much food... what say sleeping. I can't sleep....at all. My brain can't stop reminding myself "hey, don't fall sleep, you will miss the milk pumping time. Your baby is going to run out of milk. Wake up mommy. A good mommy sacrifice their sleep...you are a bad mommy".

my heart pumping as fast as my husband cant believe it. he holds my hand...im shaking...lips were shivering when talked to him. he hold my hand and said "Mommy, if you want to stop breastfeeding, i can just go down to the speedmart to buy milk powder..where is my cool chill wife?"

I broke down to tears. i know, i got this fucking depression from the 3rd day right after gave birth of my son.

30days after gave birth to my son, on the full moon day, i passed by son to my Work-From-Home sister. i told her "i either go to die now, or you help me to take care of this baby...i cant handle him...i cant listen to his cry/laugh... (until today, i was so so so sorry to my lovely son. I please the God to forgive me)". Then, i left my son behind...together with my husband, we called up my sister's (my sis used to diagnose of depression as well..but she is 95% recover) psychiatrist. Make an urgent appointment, from klang to cheras.. (I'm originally from klang but staying at KL for more than 10years. but due to the lack of ability to take k my son, my sis volunteer to help me to take care of him at Klang).

After 2hours of consultation, my reason of getting depression:-

1) of course, hormone change;
2) anxiety;
3) personality i.e. can't adapt to change, everything must follow the plan;
4) genetic (2-3 cases of depression in my family history);
5) worried and felt guilty

Psychiatrist prescribed 2-3 drugs for me.....after a month, only one drug works for me i.e. Lexapro. I do remember when the first time i seek for the psychiatrist, he was almost late for his lecture class at UTAR, but patiently listen to me, patiently explain to me and patiently tell me word by word and note down the medication that prescribe to me. At that time, my brain just "BLANK" i can't understand when or how or how many dosage to take. My husband actually help me to memorise and set alarm for every medication prescribed time.

During 2nd month after gave birth, while taking the medication, i continue pumping the milk, but only for bath purpose, this make me feel anger to myself... thing turn serious...GUILTY brought me down ! suggested by psychiatrist, i stop pumping at the month of 3. also, during the 2nd month, i choose to stay back at klang. stay with my family...taking care of baby (day time, under sister monitor. i still remember vividly, every time i bathe with him, my hand was shaking..until quite sometime). 3rd month, working life 'ON'. Surprisingly, im dealing good with work. but insomnia visit me everyday. then im alcohol addicted, because only alcohol can make me sleep. i finished a 1L Chivas in less than 1 week. My husband out of control but together stay awake with me and slowly, i need not the assist of Chivas, i think this took me 2 months?

After 7 months, my baby back to me (during the 7 months, i back to Klang every weekend and take care him by myself, he was so lovely. Im so sorry to him, even now when i type this reply, broke into tears. i know how unfair to my baby).

After 9 months, i stop medication. I told myself "i can do it. If im bad luck enough, the fucking depression come back, then just take medication. nothing is more big deal than my son and husband. i can make it". Okay, i know this is wrong, please dont take my step. Just follow what is your psychiatrist prescription.

Now, on and off i will have so called "panic attack" when my son fall sick...i just too worry. My psychiatrist do give me Xanax for in case purpose..but i never took...so far..finger cross.

Family and Husband played a very important role. they need not to tell you "dont think so much; be positive; be strong"...cuz seriously, this won't help. I told every one, the KICK will jsut come whenever your "QI" or "Inner Energy" is weak or low. be self control... i always tell myself "See, there are tonnes of tonnes of tonnes of people are in tragic than me. what is your problem? u got a good husband, cute baby, amazing family, financially stable, you got a house, got a car, got a job...PLEASE, WAKE UP"

No matter how, you must seek for your psychiatrist. Call him whenever you feel you are not ok. talk to them.

I hope you will be fine soon.

Always be thankful what you have now... the world is so GOOOOOD for you to explore more. Don't stop here;now. Now make the move.

This post has been edited by IamFineSan: Jul 2 2018, 05:42 PM

I am very grateful to find this thread,

I have anxiety attack early last year, then it had become anxiety disorder and mild depression, I cannot watch sad movies, sad news, action movies at all nowadays, I am having claustrophobic as well, and I always feel no strength at my right leg and a bit of vertigo, still try to stay happy, I am practising Qi Gong, jogging, swimming nowadays and attending some inner self course aka Seth learning.

Hi guys, can anyone help me on this post?

https://forum.lowyat.net/topic/4628617

please help..my sis with mental problem getting serious and refuse to go hospital for treatment. any way that I can do?

Hi....i have a group on mental health support. Can reach me on watsapp 0123172056 - Dev. I would add you in. Currently we have 80 plus members on it. We discuss everything under the sun. Please do join if you need support

Hi friends,

There is a solution. Its is in the form of vitamin B3 (niacin). Check out the book by Dr. Abraham Hoffer.

By the way always go back to your physician for advise.

Thank you and have a great day.

most memorable(-ish) encounter:
there's once i snapped, about 4pm i was driving to kelana jaya from jalan ipoh for a meeting, project is kinda falling apart, dateline cant meet and my partner was being pushy, gf acting up because im busy cant really help her. suddenly i just snap and it felt like im just a passenger, someway somehow, i knew i was losing it and quickly share my live location to my other partner without knowing why. i ended up at sg besi-salak selatan, there's some emergency stop there, idk how i manage to stop there. i was banging my head against steering from one of the witness. got some bruises and cut idk how it got there, but i think i been banging quite hard in autopilot mode. after that i ended up in npe for some reason.

thanks to all my friends who came over and bought me drinks.

some smaller encounter:
1) this was when i was a teenager, idk for what reason i was arguing with my dad. autopilot mode for awhile, i woke up my brother told me i threw knives at him.

2) random small skirmishes with a lot of shouting, banging etc. usually happens when things are not according to plan and being stressed.

im pretty sure there's something inside, but i dont really dare to face it, i try to calm myself down and let things slide as much as i can nowadays.

This post has been edited by LimauKering: Jun 29 2019, 12:30 PM

Hello, anyone can help with depression and provide talk to support or closed group support? I thought i'm slowly coming out but seems my mind is still stuck at it. I posted in the other main thread but just saw this. Prefer to be 1 to 1 and from opposite gender if that makes sense? It's about relationship. Don't have that close someone that I could really share the whole thing with. I need to make peace and assurance what i decide is right. Mind keep going back as I remember details and hard to flush out

thanks

Can't believe this happened to me and I visited my doctor since last year 2019 Feb..I did not know I had depression/anxiety disorder until I have voices in my head (sounds illusion) and I broke my phone and IPad because of the sounds. Cry and cry...And luckily my second sister suggest to bring me to see doctor.

When I visit the doctor..The first thing I did was cried without reason. After so many months, finally the medicine worked on me....

This post has been edited by nicole_4ever: Apr 17 2020, 01:29 AM

Dear my dear brother,

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Hi Guys, looking for a support group or perhaps a community to help me pull through a rough and confusing phase of my life. I don't feel that it's necessary for me to contact the befrienders yet, or maybe I haven't found the initiative to do so. your response is deeply appreciated.

Hi @speedfamgirl,

I know it's an old post, but may I know where you get your counselling session from? I feel you and have the same situation like yours (feeling lost with low self esteem, poor communication, heart palpitation), self-blaming, self doubt, often distracted and procrastinating in my 3rd year of my PhD study and my performance dropped.

I decided to drop out my PhD course 2 months ago, give myself some time before venture to work. However, situation seems linger around me. Recently it deeply affects my sleeping pattern. I couldn't sleep at night until 6 am (until my body grows so fatigue then I sleep), however I still manage to get 7 hours sleep. Previously (2 months ago), I had a sleeping medication prescription from my psychiatrist but I do not dare to simply take the medication.

I believe we sometimes need to learn some tools and technique to strengthen our mindset, that's why I wish to seek counselling to help my situation.

Hopefully, you or everyone here can do me a favor, suggest a good counseling place for those who needed, including me. Thank you very much.

Hi I had bipolar disorders and I blog about my experience here:

https://kakyn.com/surviving-bipolar-disorders/

I became manic for many years without me knowing it, I thought I have the potential and power to become famous person.....

The high-dosage of meds treating SzA sometimes can cause mania.

one might not know but have been suffering from adult ADHD for many decades of their life
affecting their work, studies and relationships
adult ADHD differs from childhood ADHD
adult ADHD has more internal restlessness, anxiety, difficulty to tune in focus to something and difficulty to tune out irrelevant stimuli
about 4 in 10 people suffer from this under-recognized disorder

There is this program where Malaysians can get 5 sponsored online Mental Health Therapy sessions by certified counsellors and clinical psychologists. It's completely FREE. You can contact their WhatsApp (TeleHope Health) at +6018-2112 837 to register or know more.

They also provide services to see psychiatrists online.