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post Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM, updated 10y ago

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I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.
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You mean doctorate or practitioner?
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post Jun 8 2016, 11:09 AM

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QUOTE(Freedom15 @ Jun 8 2016, 11:08 AM)
You mean doctorate or practitioner?
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What about either one? My friend is a medical doctor and accomplished and nice and pretty yet no guys are willing to date her now
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:09 AM)
What about either one? My friend is a medical doctor and accomplished and nice and pretty yet no guys are willing to date her now
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Maybe they all think about the time when she needs to work night shift and they can't meet up?
Or perhaps it's due to the mentality that docs have a different life than non hospital staff.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.
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those men have inferior complex. i dont. date me pls.
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post Jun 8 2016, 11:13 AM

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In b4 hantaran 100k, a car and at least a house
why? my dotter is a Dr.


joke aside, love known no boundaries notworthy.gif

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.
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Because guys also think for future, long term relationship. some joke but true like below

QUOTE(Sadru @ Jun 8 2016, 11:13 AM)
In b4 hantaran 100k, a car and at least a house
why? my dotter is a Dr.
joke aside, love known no boundaries  notworthy.gif
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.
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if a guy doesn't like you because of your occupation, it means he's not into you.

there's nothing wrong to be a doctor, what wrong is some people's perception in this society.

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:09 AM)
What about either one? My friend is a medical doctor and accomplished and nice and pretty yet no guys are willing to date her now
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I myself find PhD is nothing much of a concern...
You just research study more on a particular topic...
Medical doctor? Never seen or date one before...
But when they have the money and pretty I think it drills down to attitude...
Heck, I wouldn't mind a bit if my gf or wife is rich and nice...
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post Jun 8 2016, 11:19 AM

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balls starting to drop when heard doctor title...hahahha...
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:09 AM)
What about either one? My friend is a medical doctor and accomplished and nice and pretty yet no guys are willing to date her now
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perhaps you both have been meeting with the wrong type of guys?
perhaps she is not even looking and thus don't have any, perhaps she is waiting for someone like song joong ki doh.gif
who knows?

to my knowledge, my doctor friends are not so free to keep on trolling forums like you
so that is making a lot of people doubtful of you
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QUOTE(lawsh @ Jun 8 2016, 11:21 AM)
perhaps you both have been meeting with the wrong type of guys?
perhaps she is not even looking and thus don't have any, perhaps she is waiting for someone like song joong ki doh.gif
who knows?

to my knowledge, my doctor friends are not so free to keep on trolling forums like you
so that is making a lot of people doubtful of you
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Maybe she is dentist or something
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post Jun 8 2016, 11:27 AM

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QUOTE(lawsh @ Jun 8 2016, 11:21 AM)
perhaps you both have been meeting with the wrong type of guys?
perhaps she is not even looking and thus don't have any, perhaps she is waiting for someone like song joong ki doh.gif
who knows?

to my knowledge, my doctor friends are not so free to keep on trolling forums like you
so that is making a lot of people doubtful of you
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And why opening thread is trolling? Yes I HAVE a LIFE outside of hospital
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.
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Hi it's me again biggrin.gif

Ok, on a serious note now...

Sometimes, people of higher social status (financially, family background, academically and/or career-wise) can UNKNOWINGLY exude an air of arrogance (hey, I'm a doctor/lawyer...hey my dad is Dato whatever...hey I live in Bangsar... unsure.gif ), which turns people off. Perhaps it's due to their upbringing, environment, or network of affiliates.

I myself is a qualified accountant. My usual hangout? An old school kopitiam, talking c*ck with old uncles. Some of them are rich retirees, some of them are big bosses, and some of them are nobody. The conversation can range from about food, the economy, politics, hamsap stuffs, anything, you name it. Swearing is routine, we talk loudly, and some of us sit with one leg on the chair.

Can you mix with people like us? Would u find our conversations and habits offensive? Mind you, we are all decent people with kind heart, not robbers not thieves, not rapists, not corrupt politicians. wink.gif

But if you ask me to sit down and chat with my colleagues about office rumours, talk about which fancy restaurant is nice, which mall has LV bags etc, I find that uninteresting, please spare me from that.

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off.


Identified the problem, yet keep repeating it. There's a word for that.

QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine.


Disclosing your salary on the first date, do you consider such meetings as a job interview?

QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on


I dunno, doctors are on call for very long hours.

QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.


How did he become your boyfriend in the first place, unless he had a different interview process?

QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.


The woman who thinks no man is right for her ... is usually left.

If you are always interviewing guys, expect them to earn more than you, be taller than you, and have more status:
you'd better be "better than the competition" ... because HE IS ATTRACTIVE TO MANY OTHER WOMEN TOO.

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:27 AM)
And why opening thread is trolling? Yes I HAVE a LIFE outside of hospital
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normally guy will have inferior complex toward their partner but another reason is the girl attitude itself.
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Cause I don't earn as much as you.

Doctor wont attracted to me anyway. sad.gif laugh.gif
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.
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no...

not insecure.. maybe you just havent meet the right one...

your prince charming on a white horse is waiting somewhere, sometimes.. don give up..
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:09 AM)
What about either one? My friend is a medical doctor and accomplished and nice and pretty yet no guys are willing to date her now
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Ok saje.. im surrounded by doctors and medical practitioners in my social circles and i dont see any problem with that... also most of the female doc friend's i know are long taken. And most of them did not date guys from the same field either laugh.gif

you and your friend perhaps have something beyond your profession that you have to worry about for chasing away potential dates.
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post Jun 8 2016, 12:02 PM

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Huh? U dated then only ur bf know bout u r doctor?
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post Jun 8 2016, 12:07 PM

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QUOTE(Lyu @ Jun 8 2016, 12:02 PM)
Huh? U dated then only ur bf know bout u r doctor?
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No, my ex bf knew about it since the first date. The problem is when I get to the online dating and guys asked me to go out, only then I disclosed about my job. And they seem not to be interested anymore after that. Maybe I should have chosen the right guy next time :sigh:
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.
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Then they don't deserve your time too
Your social ciircle don't have any male doctors to date?
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.
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I don't, but then again I never dated any doctors... sweat.gif

And I'm still looking for a date... blush.gif
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QUOTE(sokiahlee @ Jun 8 2016, 12:12 PM)
Then they don't deserve your time too
Your social ciircle don't have any male doctors to date?
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I usually tend to go for guys outside medical field. I am more attracted to them. Maybe next time I should try my luck with medical people.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.
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doc's don't want to date us....

if you want to try, let's go out for a blind date....
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 12:07 PM)
No, my ex bf knew about it since the first date. The problem is when I get to the online dating and guys asked me to go out, only then I disclosed about my job. And they seem not to be interested anymore after that. Maybe I should have chosen the right guy next time :sigh:
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ts, if you are doctor then ur age should be around 30++, if you looking for guys around this ages. it was the age period where they have put pride as their most important factor. having a high spec partner was not a good thing for them, i think.
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We do date doctor, to me i feel very pressure for long term run.

Previously i was from poor background, she was expected me to marry her within 3 years.

Take her to go oversea and holiday, due to her work load keep working in hospital and
she get bored sometime and expect to go for holiday during her leave time.

We did argue about financial issue, due to long term argue, it turn soar, after sometime cold war, she did left me for other person.

Well, i didnt blame her, is the best for her life.
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QUOTE(keny2020j @ Jun 8 2016, 12:15 PM)
ts, if you are doctor then ur age should be around 30++, if you looking for guys around this ages. it was the age period where they have put pride as their most important factor. having a high spec partner was not a good thing for them, i think.
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No I am in my mid 20's
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 12:07 PM)
No, my ex bf knew about it since the first date. The problem is when I get to the online dating and guys asked me to go out, only then I disclosed about my job. And they seem not to be interested anymore after that. Maybe I should have chosen the right guy next time :sigh:
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Online dating? There must be reason for u to go online...

Be glad that they turned away...

coz high claz pipu like TS usually a hot target for online scammer...

GL


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maybe d guy afraid of ur family expectations?
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 12:18 PM)
No I am in my mid 20's
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ooo that is good, but to the level online dating. TS, are u so desperate for a bf? why don't you take time to enjoy your life 1st and slowly find the 1 that suitable to you.
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QUOTE(keny2020j @ Jun 8 2016, 12:22 PM)
ooo that is good, but to the level online dating. TS, are u so desperate for a bf? why don't you take time to enjoy your life 1st and slowly find the 1 that suitable to you.
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No, I am not desperate for bf. Ever since I broke up with my ex, I have been going for online dating for "healing" process. I am just thinking about the future if guys will continue to get turned off with me. For now I just want to date around and go with the flow
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.

DISCLAIMER: I started this thread looking for guys' opinions. Nothing more than that
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I dont see why anybody will be insecure and intimidated by dating a female doctor.

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not.

DISCLAIMER: I started this thread looking for guys' opinions. Nothing more than that
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I think a guy would love to date a doctor. Imagine all those free medical consultation. And she can foot half the bill with her good income. Parents will approve too

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 12:25 PM)
No, I am not desperate for bf. Ever since I broke up with my ex, I have been going for online dating for "healing" process. I am just thinking about the future if guys will continue to get turned off with me. For now I just want to date around and go with the flow
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ooo, why don't you concentrate on your job as healing process? maybe you may find a good guy among your patient or your co-worker
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

DISCLAIMER: I started this thread looking for guys' opinions. Nothing more than that
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is it really about you being a doctor? perhaps personality maybe? hmm.gif or something else turn them off? i'm just shooting blind here
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QUOTE(zeroxxangels @ Jun 8 2016, 12:31 PM)
is it really about you being a doctor? perhaps personality maybe? hmm.gif or something else turn them off? i'm just shooting blind here
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Yes, I usually go for someone "lesser" than me but has qualities that I adore. It's time for me to set a higher standard when it comes to dating :sigh:
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QUOTE(keny2020j @ Jun 8 2016, 12:29 PM)
ooo, why don't you concentrate on your job as healing process? maybe you may find a good guy among your patient or your co-worker
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I usually don't go for people from similar field as mine. Maybe its time for me to try to date them.

Patient? No way unless after they got discharged
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 12:40 PM)
I usually don't go for people from similar field as mine. Maybe its time for me to try to date them.

Patient? No way unless after they got discharged
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some how i do agree with u, never shit at place you eat.

for your patient, not asking you to have "fun" with them in hospital. get know with them during the time they in hosp and go further up when they got discharge.

be patient, don't do something you will regret.
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I personally just think it's the general perception of the medical field, about how doctors don't have time to have a social life due to work demands...

But don't worry about it as some of the replies here by other forum members have said, it's just some people's mentality. If they have those thinking then you shouldn't have wasted your time dating them.. I've come to realize that love is not just about passion, but understanding that your partner sometimes have commitments that has to be accepted. Don't worry you're still young and well, I'm sure a person of your intellect and beauty will be able to find someone perfect just for you.

And kudos to you for not caring so much about qualifications. It's love not a game of chess.
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Unwilling to date higher position woman is sign of low of self esteem. Congrats to you, man who brave enough win your heart is the one worth while.
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Alexsukri,

I don't think it is about "Doctor", mind to share more info about the date?

How it usually happens? Dinner? movie? The usual topics you talk about?
Were the conversation dynamic? Or it is just 1 way, someone talk more than the other person...?


QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 12:39 PM)
Yes, I usually go for someone "lesser" than me but has qualities that I adore. It's time for me to set a higher standard when it comes to dating :sigh:
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What you mean by "lesser" if you already classify them as lesser, I don't see that will be an interesting date in the first place...

You mentioned you are book smart....do you often incline to just show that you know a lot more?

All the best to you in your dating!


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Alexsukri,

I don't think it is about "Doctor", mind to share more info about the date?

How it usually happens? Dinner? movie? The usual topics you talk about?
Were the conversation dynamic? Or it is just 1 way, someone talk more than the other person...?
What you mean by "lesser" if you already classify them as lesser, I don't see that will be an interesting date in the first place...

You mentioned you are book smart....do you often incline to just show that you know a lot more?

All the best to you in your dating!
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we usually went out for dinner and had great conversation. One of them was journalist and I really really liked him but when we talked about our lifestyle, he started to back off. I didn't go to club or pub and he went there. He was a great guy but too bad he doesn't like me because he thinks by not sharing similar lifestyle and the fact that someone better might snatch me up, he backed off.

Also, I went out with a great economist. Similar problem as well when it came to lifestyle and my job, he backed off and he doesn't believe that I will keep him for long-term relationship.

All in all, the guys I've been dating so far think that I only want them for short-term relationship and once I find someone better, I will dump them. It makes me wonder whether they are all insecure.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 01:07 PM)
we usually went out for dinner and had great conversation. One of them was journalist and I really really liked him but when we talked about our lifestyle, he started to back off. I didn't go to club or pub and he went there. He was a great guy but too bad he doesn't like me because he thinks by not sharing similar lifestyle and the fact that someone better might snatch me up, he backed off.

Also, I went out with a great economist. Similar problem as well when it came to lifestyle and my job, he backed off and he doesn't believe that I will keep him for long-term relationship.

All in all, the guys I've been dating so far think that I only want them for short-term relationship and once I find someone better, I will dump them. It makes me wonder whether they are all insecure.
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In my opinion, you just still didn't find the one who is meant for you yet..If they felt insecure, then it's their problem..Not everyone is like that and when you find one who does not act like that, he may be THE one for you.. thumbsup.gif

Anyway, as for me, I don't mind dating a lady doctor or any professionals, as long as she is a nice person and can get along with some common interest, while able to have a light conversation about anything and everything.. nod.gif
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 01:07 PM)
we usually went out for dinner and had great conversation. One of them was journalist and I really really liked him but when we talked about our lifestyle, he started to back off. I didn't go to club or pub and he went there. He was a great guy but too bad he doesn't like me because he thinks by not sharing similar lifestyle and the fact that someone better might snatch me up, he backed off.

Also, I went out with a great economist. Similar problem as well when it came to lifestyle and my job, he backed off and he doesn't believe that I will keep him for long-term relationship.

All in all, the guys I've been dating so far think that I only want them for short-term relationship and once I find someone better, I will dump them. It makes me wonder whether they are all insecure.
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To be frank, I'm more interested in doctor rather than other occupation. biggrin.gif
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You are still young,,, Plenty of choices and dont be desperate, cause once you are you will fell into prey and your life will turn into nightmare

Go slow, go stedy.

It take years to find the right one and once you got the right one you know and happy

For now JUST enjoy being single, spend your money on vacation, Backpack meet new and interesting people....


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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 12:39 PM)
Yes, I usually go for someone "lesser" than me but has qualities that I adore. It's time for me to set a higher standard when it comes to dating :sigh:
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wait.. what's your end goal? getting married or have bf only?
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one cons of dating doctor is your health always being monitored. no more fatty meal,alcohol and cigarettes tongue.gif
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Honestly don't think being a doctor is the issue here, I have date multiple girls and usually their occupation is least thing I worry about. As long as the first date went well I will ask them out again in the future, sorry to say if you think every guy thinks that dating a doctor is bad I think you have misunderstood.
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Poor males and their ego. I dont think it's even something to worry of. Intelligent conversation is as sexy as it is.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
DISCLAIMER: I started this thread looking for guys' opinions. Nothing more than that
rolleyes.gif Why are you even asking this?

Let me ask you, are you considering changing your career? If you're so sure that you being a doctor is turning guys off, are you going to change that about yourself? Switch to a less "threatening" line of work, like secretary or nurse?

If you're not going to do that - as I'm sure you're not - why would you even care about people who don't like you being a doctor?

The way I see it, there are 3 possibilities here: 1) your "multiple dates" are probably just 1 or 2 guys, which is understandably depressing but clearly an overreaction on your part, 2) it's a lot more than 1 or 2, which is really depressing but again, hardly a representative sample, or 3) you're mistaken about the fact that they don't like you being a doctor, and it's something else that's turning them off or spoiling the date.

And from all your posts and the threads you've started, you seem to be having self-esteem issues from your breakup. Which is perfectly understandable - and what's understandable also is that these issues are affecting your perception.

Because there's also possibility no. 4) these guys aren't turned off at all, you're the one who's uninterested in them, and in fact they've been messaging you for a 2nd date. Have they? biggrin.gif



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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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sorry about my earlier posts on your other tered, i really thought you were a guy (your ID kan alexsukri lol).

short answer, yes very.
many self-confidence hancur when they feel (perceived) they aren't compatible with you in terms of emotion, intelligence and lastly your career choice.

further point. my observation. enggang sama enggang pipit sama pipit really applies for your case (i know it's ridiculous) but that's what traditional families (whatever race) believe in such situation. family preference plays a role too, and hence maybe the reason why these "ego" guys opt out on top of their own frail confidence. but there are those who don't mind la, kena ejek ma kena ejek lo hahaha. like my buddy whose fiance is a doc. muka selamba when teased hahahaha. but he does get pissed off sometimes.

it will bother you again. but maybe try a different approach.

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Are you a boring person in real life ?  unsure.gif
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I don't know. I guess I'm like a normal girl. Yes, I am a bookworm but I also update myself with current world's issue. And I also like fashion like most girls like. dry.gif
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I don't know. I guess I'm like a normal girl. Yes, I am a bookworm but I also update myself with current world's issue. And I also like fashion like most girls like. dry.gif
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are you the type that will control ur partner action like dun like him do unhealthy thing like drinking or smoking?
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sorry about my earlier posts on your other tered, i really thought you were a guy (your ID kan alexsukri lol).

short answer, yes very.
many self-confidence hancur when they feel (perceived) they aren't compatible with you in terms of emotion, intelligence and lastly your career choice.

further point. my observation. enggang sama enggang pipit sama pipit really applies for your case (i know it's ridiculous) but that's what traditional families (whatever race) believe in such situation. family preference plays a role too, and hence maybe the reason why these "ego" guys opt out on top of their own frail confidence. but there are those who don't mind la, kena ejek ma kena ejek lo hahaha. like my buddy whose fiance is a doc. muka selamba when teased hahahaha. but he does get pissed off sometimes.

it will bother you again. but maybe try a different approach.
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sad.gif It's very hard to be someone too liberal like me :sigh:

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are you the type that will control ur partner action like dun like him do unhealthy thing like drinking or smoking?
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Nope and Yes. I wish I could have them quit sometime in the future but I won't force them as long as they don't do it when I'm around. Yes, I think the only problem I've encountered so far is the guys I went out with did drink and smoke a lot. So maybe that's why...
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PM me your latest pic. Let me see why....
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Yes, I usually go for someone "lesser" than me but has qualities that I adore. It's time for me to set a higher standard when it comes to dating :sigh:
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this... categorizing people. you should maybe change your perspective a little. Ive met people with way higher achievement than what you have and they dont go around putting people as being "lesser" than them.

as long as you have that mindset, people can tell.... especially through the way you behave and they way you piece your sentences.
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QUOTE(Bonchi @ Jun 8 2016, 02:52 PM)
this... categorizing people. you should maybe change your perspective a little. Ive met people with way higher achievement than what you have and they dont go around putting people as being "lesser" than them.

as long as you have that mindset, people can tell.... especially through the way you behave and they way you piece your sentences.
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*high five*

From TS's posts, her choice of words and her tone of replies, I already felt that long ago. Hence my post earlier. wink.gif
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Not all guys think this way.
Even if you have to be away and spend alot of time in the hospital it's for a good reason that's to help ppl.
Your partner need to understand this and things should be alright.
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I personally just think it's the general perception of the medical field, about how doctors don't have time to have a social life due to work demands...

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Nope and Yes. I wish I could have them quit sometime in the future but I won't force them as long as they don't do it when I'm around. Yes, I think the only problem I've encountered so far is the guys I went out with did drink and smoke a lot. So maybe that's why...
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some guy might dun like it becoz they maybe think that a doctor will control their behavior
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sad.gif It's very hard to be someone too liberal like me :sigh:

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mind telling? i wanna understand what kind of doctor you are, so i can hook you up with another doctor laugh.gif
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dated Doc's but i think they are cool ppl to hangout. although sometimes their work schedule can be demanding.
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One of the cons of being friends with medical people is that when u meet ppl in same field, u just talk all sorts of jargon and the rest of us need wiki constantly to keep up. Most of the time I give up and facebook

Same applied to accounting/audit field.

I'm from engineering field and I don't like to talk about engineering term outside of work
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 02:45 PM)
I don't know. I guess I'm like a normal girl. Yes, I am a bookworm but I also update myself with current world's issue. And I also like fashion like most girls like. dry.gif
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From my own view, whether you are doctor or nurse got nothing to do with dating partners.

But most of the time if the guy cannot sense the spark from you eventually they will also give up. For example, maybe you can recall the time that you going out with them, is there anyone from them you can chat non stop or really have fun talking to ?
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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First, guy's pride is superior than anything on earth. So when you meet a guy that having a so so type of achievement in his career, it would be hard for him to swallow it down even if you don't mind that he earning lesser or not capable than you. Eventually inferior will become the issue and normally it won't end well.

It doesn't mean that you must/should find a guy that smarter/capable than you
Instead, you need someone that having high EQ. Its quite subjective actually but guys with high EQ can really manage their life and career well even though they are not professional and earning normal income.

People thinks that having relationship with doctor isn't that good because its hard to have common interest because due to long hours at the hospital, what else can a doctor be interested at other than hospital thingy?

Wish you good luck and be humble. You will meet the right person when it the times come
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 01:07 PM)
we usually went out for dinner and had great conversation. One of them was journalist and I really really liked him but when we talked about our lifestyle, he started to back off. I didn't go to club or pub and he went there. He was a great guy but too bad he doesn't like me because he thinks by not sharing similar lifestyle and the fact that someone better might snatch me up, he backed off.

Also, I went out with a great economist. Similar problem as well when it came to lifestyle and my job, he backed off and he doesn't believe that I will keep him for long-term relationship.

All in all, the guys I've been dating so far think that I only want them for short-term relationship and once I find someone better, I will dump them. It makes me wonder whether they are all insecure.
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The 2 examples, they think so and told you so? If they said so to you, I am rather surprised guy will say what they think to you given such circumstances...

Or actually all these are you presumptions...?

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nah, doctor is great. i love em doctor.
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I would have no problem dating a female doctor. She can help me with my goal to becoming less human - I want to have the cool augs. like the Bionic Commando.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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i don't feel insecure if my gf is doctor (i just saying , i don't have experience). but no personal time could be the main issue that i can think of. are you that kind of doctor who needs to always be on call?
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QUOTE(jh_0108 @ Jun 8 2016, 04:14 PM)
i don't feel insecure if my gf is doctor (i just saying , i don't have experience). but no personal time could be the main issue that i can think of. are you that kind of doctor who needs to always be on call?
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Nope, I had my fair share of on-call but not so much anymore.
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QUOTE(fir3man @ Jun 8 2016, 03:43 PM)
The 2 examples, they think so and told you so? If they said so to you, I am rather surprised guy will say what they think to you given such circumstances...

Or actually all these are you presumptions...?
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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You have just yet to meet the right man. It is never easy to find a suitable partner and doesn't mean to be your fault if you can't find yet. If all guys are with high self-esteem, there will be no low self-esteem guys.

Keep looking and you will be there.

Personally speaking, Doctor is always attractive with many rooms for imagination. Lol smile.gif
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there is only one way for guys to be insecure over this, they treat you as a doctor but not as a girl.

for me, every girl should be treated like a princess, no matter what.

sekian.
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maybe its just you.

life is about change.
sometime you cannot change people. you have to change yourself

try different approach of lifestyle maybe?
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Walau.. those guys been missing out those " legal ' drugs doctors can acquire.

If guy insecure means he think he just more stupid than you thus the feeling of superior or head of the family isnt on his side, Ego as always for men.
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never afraid since im capable to earn more than a doctor
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Any of your bf seek your medical treatment.

You look too far away , someone special maybe is your patient.

By the way I hv flu, can get free treatment ? In exchange I treat you for dinner...

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Any of your bf seek your medical treatment.

You look too far away , someone special maybe is your patient.

By the way I hv flu, can get free treatment ? In exchange I treat you for dinner...
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Hahaha that's a misconduct in terms of ethics. Doctors are not supposed to date their patients. Lel
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Hahaha that's a misconduct in terms of ethics. Doctors are not supposed to date their patients. Lel
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Like that..out of office time..
Any bf can become doctor patient.

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the inferiority of not being the alpha makes their ego deflated.. unless you dated someone in par with you...
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Absolutely no insecurities towards a phd nor a Dr.
These are all just titles. After all, it all boils down to personality.

Heck not that i'm judging, I once had a conversation with a feminist and I have nothing against feminism, but they way she talks seems like guys owe her everything.

Which in regards, its more towards misandry, modern feminism.

Total turn off for guys.
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QUOTE(Bendan520 @ Jun 8 2016, 06:57 PM)
Absolutely no insecurities towards a phd nor a Dr.
These are all just titles. After all, it all boils down to personality.

Heck not that i'm judging, I once had a conversation with a feminist and I have nothing against feminism, but they way she talks seems like guys owe her everything.

Which in regards, its more towards misandry, modern feminism.

Total turn off for guys.
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actually part of ego as well..
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then insecurity comes ... and they are afraid to face it and back off

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I believed it is all about the conversation topic, as you are a doctor and it is gave the feels like hardly to be approach especially its professional job title. Further, doctor job title seem like something serious where is similar to teacher, lawyer as we needed to be proper organised our life (no time wasting)...
Imagine, if the guy wanted to date you and he maybe thinking as follows:
1) Where is the place (proper place or something good)
2) Do we needed to have healthier food
3) Conversation topic
4) Do you be free during weekend or sometime...

Above is just what I'm thinking... smile.gif
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man and their egos. Definitely sense of insecurity there. I know cuz I'm a guy laugh.gif but when the chemistry is very good (in the sense of compatibility, personality, etc), a guy will put all this ego and insecurity away... hmm.gif
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Absolutely no insecurities towards a phd nor a Dr.
These are all just titles. After all, it all boils down to personality.

Heck not that i'm judging, I once had a conversation with a feminist and I have nothing against feminism, but they way she talks seems like guys owe her everything.

Which in regards, its more towards misandry, modern feminism.

Total turn off for guys.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

DISCLAIMER: I started this thread looking for guys' opinions. Nothing more than that
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Insecure? nah, not at all.

cant make a good judgement, since it's one side story, that men never tell what they feel.
Are you forcing type of girl? did u ever force them to do something, while u are free, they are not?
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QUOTE(TiF @ Jun 8 2016, 11:12 AM)
those men have inferior complex. i dont. date me pls.
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dating a female? lesbian since your tag is female?

On another note, i think its the irregular working hours that is turning them off.

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What about either one? My friend is a medical doctor and accomplished and nice and pretty yet no guys are willing to date her now
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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working in govt hospital or private?

previously my running friends who are doc working in govt hospital very free!

wait... why guys u dated backed off once they know you're doc? hmm.gif
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working in govt hospital or private?

previously my running friends who are doc working in govt hospital very free!

wait... why guys u dated backed off once they know you're doc?  hmm.gif
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she prolly walk to them swaying her butt and flip hair and say :"oh btw, im a doctor so bow to me and behave" "miaaaoooow"
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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this post itself stated the reasons why they all left you
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QUOTE(Bonchi @ Jun 9 2016, 03:49 PM)
she prolly walk to them swaying her butt and flip hair and say :"oh btw, im a doctor so bow to me and behave" "miaaaoooow"
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Why are you still in my thread?
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You've yet to answer my question. I'm not meant to belittle, insult or troll. It's a serious comment and question.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 9 2016, 05:38 PM)
Why are you still in my thread?
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an opinion you seek is what i am here for,
of old repeated topics i wonder why thy hath not realized.
to vinn for whom is new im summarizing therefore.
Also threads open are not always free from being penalized.

QUOTE(Pink Spider @ Jun 9 2016, 05:41 PM)
You've yet to answer my question. I'm not meant to belittle, insult or troll. It's a serious comment and question.
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If you've been reading TS's previous topics, it's always the same gist of citing social badges, appearance and intelligence.

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i dont mind Dr... maybe can have a drinks smile.gif
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The first few opinions for you might have given the answer to your issue. I hope you have read, recalled your action, attitude and words to see whether they match with the effect of the dating.

When you said, "dating someone with lesser salary level", it strucks me that you are arrogant and presenting insecure shield from men for no necessary reason, unless you do care about who's making more money in your future life.

My whole family members are doctors, except me. They have never boasted about being on the top, given such job.

Good luck.
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QUOTE(Pink Spider @ Jun 8 2016, 11:46 AM)
Hi it's me again biggrin.gif

Ok, on a serious note now...

Sometimes, people of higher social status (financially, family background, academically and/or career-wise) can UNKNOWINGLY exude an air of arrogance (hey, I'm a doctor/lawyer...hey my dad is Dato whatever...hey I live in Bangsar... unsure.gif ), which turns people off. Perhaps it's due to their upbringing, environment, or network of affiliates.

I myself is a qualified accountant. My usual hangout? An old school kopitiam, talking c*ck with old uncles. Some of them are rich retirees, some of them are big bosses, and some of them are nobody. The conversation can range from about food, the economy, politics, hamsap stuffs, anything, you name it. Swearing is routine, we talk loudly, and some of us sit with one leg on the chair.

Can you mix with people like us? Would u find our conversations and habits offensive? Mind you, we are all decent people with kind heart, not robbers not thieves, not rapists, not corrupt politicians. wink.gif

But if you ask me to sit down and chat with my colleagues about office rumours, talk about which fancy restaurant is nice, which mall has LV bags etc, I find that uninteresting, please spare me from that.
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Go look up on her previous topics..

All asking why guys are insecure about this insecure about that.

Ever wonder maybe its your attitude that was turning guys off?

Heck, by reading your replies and the way you phrase your sentences, even I'd not like to go on a date with you.

Pure arrogance and misandry.
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Why not ask your ex-s ?

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Dear TS I would have felt pressure. And alwayls will have a long term and reality checking... it will be feeling kind of shaky thinking d tings to cope for long term. Esp financially... hobbies and etc..

mid 20s.. still room to change.. but hor.. 25 grad practioner di ? Ard 27 kan... I mean at most housemanship.. a real practioners would have given a different effect vs doctorate... but all still boils down to feel..


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QUOTE(Bonchi @ Jun 9 2016, 03:49 PM)
she prolly walk to them swaying her butt and flip hair and say :"oh btw, im a doctor so bow to me and behave" "miaaaoooow"
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Some mens buys it.. they think they have personality / style..

often if that comes naturally.. pretended ones .. hard life... could be appearances like outfits ?

based on all d comments.. it appears.. attitude.. dont carry along your work title lor.. be humble lor.. profession do not guarantee high returns than many field unless you fight for it...
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ask your dr. fren to try me.. i wont go.. usually girl go far away from me..

face problem i think ;p
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I think TS need to calm down.. take it naturally.. if you have what it takes.. just be natural and open.. maybe your ride is not there yet..

but srs dont carry around d doctor tag in dating.. lol
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thanks all for replies. it feels so good to put some members on ignore button 😊 btw this is just internet. its not that serious haha

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thanks all for replies. it feels so good to put some members on ignore button 😊 btw this is just internet. its not that serious haha
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If i am one of those members, kudos to you. The insecurities is not on the guys. It is on You.

*i Know you can't read this... but this is for the other readers.
It is clear to me that you only want to see things going your way, comments that agreed on you but not against you.
No one can help someone who is incapable to take even an ounce of criticism.
You can go around blaming all the guys and the more preferred bimbo girls for your downfall, yet the biggest problem is yourself.
Perhaps the reason of making such topic is to make yourself sound better and to gain recognition.
and finally, it is such a shame that you've just represented the very stereotype of "pretty girls with brains"
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i think it like eating the fish....

if you like to eat fish....then you had to know how to deal with its bone.....

if dont want to deal with the bones......just go eat dolly fish fillet.......


i afraid of fish bones, and i dont like dolly fish fillet....
i eat fry pari fish

so many type of fish......also so many type of people......

no need to rip off your bone because some one that dont know how to eat fish
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as a gamer..yeah, doctor is good..more time to game...
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

DISCLAIMER: I started this thread looking for guys' opinions. Nothing more than that
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I have a doctor friend (doctor in hospital) who confessed to me, but i turned her down because no feel, nothing to do with her doctor job.

I have another dentist friend which i'm kind of interested, but when look at her lifestyle with her dentist friends, it kind of turn me down. She and her dentists friend enjoy very much "high class" lifestyle like going to high class restaurant, pub, bla bla. I know dentists do make money, but even my salary not lesser than her, i also didn't enjoy/show off my "high class" lifestyle.

Just my experience smile.gif
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QUOTE(jamestc @ Jun 9 2016, 09:30 PM)
This!!!
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And TS still refused to reply to this sleep.gif

I myself shunned members of my immediate family due to that, so I know. They may not mean harm, but their holier-than-thou behaviour can turn people off, and I'm not the kind who would bear with people unless they're my paymaster.

QUOTE(Bonchi @ Jun 10 2016, 08:57 AM)
If i am one of those members, kudos to you. The insecurities is not on the guys. It is on You.

*i Know you can't read this... but this is for the other readers.
It is clear to me that you only want to see things going your way, comments that agreed on you but not against you.
No one can help someone who is incapable to take even an ounce of criticism.
You can go around blaming all the guys and the more preferred bimbo girls for your downfall, yet the biggest problem is yourself.
Perhaps the reason of making such topic is to make yourself sound better and to gain recognition.
and finally, it is such a shame that you've just represented the very stereotype of "pretty girls with brains"
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+100

TS, hope that I'm not one of the ones u chose to click the "IGNORE" button on. Be humble, and the world would come to u.

QUOTE(RDPD @ Jun 10 2016, 09:30 AM)
I have a doctor friend (doctor in hospital) who confessed to me, but i turned her down because no feel, nothing to do with her doctor job.

I have another dentist friend which i'm kind of interested, but when look at her lifestyle with her dentist friends, it kind of turn me down. She and her dentists friend enjoy very much "high class" lifestyle like going to high class restaurant, pub, bla bla. I know dentists do make money, but even my salary not lesser than her, i also didn't enjoy/show off my "high class" lifestyle.

Just my experience  smile.gif
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I once tried to date a girl.

We used to go to cafes and restaurants with a group of friends. But one day I asked them to go eat at a kopitiam which has a famous Hokkien Mee stall. When we sat down, she asked, "we REALLY eat here ar?". I stopped seeing her ever since.

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QUOTE(Bonchi @ Jun 10 2016, 08:57 AM)
If i am one of those members, kudos to you. The insecurities is not on the guys. It is on You.

*i Know you can't read this... but this is for the other readers.
It is clear to me that you only want to see things going your way, comments that agreed on you but not against you.
No one can help someone who is incapable to take even an ounce of criticism.
You can go around blaming all the guys and the more preferred bimbo girls for your downfall, yet the biggest problem is yourself.
Perhaps the reason of making such topic is to make yourself sound better and to gain recognition.
and finally, it is such a shame that you've just represented the very stereotype of "pretty girls with brains"
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Bro you're not on her ignore list la, I am biggrin.gif
She's cherry picking advises, would only reply to those that boost her confidence and the ones suggesting that she may be the problem are ignored.

I kept reminding her about her ego issues, she felt it and ignored me. She just want to feel good bout herself by saying guys are insecure.

Too high class...

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Haha, I'm probably on her ignore list too.

The woman who thinks no man is right for her ... is eventually left rclxms.gif

QUOTE(Bendan520 @ Jun 10 2016, 10:57 AM)
Bro you're not on her ignore list la, I am  biggrin.gif
She's cherry picking advises, would only reply to those that boost her confidence and the ones suggesting that she may be the problem are ignored.

I kept reminding her about her ego issues, she felt it and ignored me. She just want to feel good bout herself by saying guys are insecure.

Too high class...
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And TS still refused to reply to this sleep.gif

I myself shunned members of my immediate family due to that, so I know. They may not mean harm, but their holier-than-thou behaviour can turn people off, and I'm not the kind who would bear with people unless they're my paymaster.
+100

TS, hope that I'm not one of the ones u chose to click the "IGNORE" button on. Be humble, and the world would come to u.
I once tried to date a girl.

We used to go to cafes and restaurants with a group of friends. But one day I asked them to go eat at a kopitiam which has a famous Hokkien Mee stall. When we sat down, she asked, "we REALLY eat here ar?". I stopped seeing her ever since.
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Hi TS, i am a doctor myself and i am dating a lady who is not a doctor. Same goes for most of my friend(male and femla) in my circle who are doctor themselves. I think you just met the wrong people but i can understand from their point of view. Dating a doctor requires a lot of perseverance and commitment, especially if you are working in a hospital setting. I sincerely hope that u can find someone who are willing to take the next step with u. Good Luck smile.gif
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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You should date another doctor..i have a friend like you..she seems happy with the doctor bf too..i think they understand each other work..
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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To begin i can confirm you i'm 100%male of a gender. I believe some men do have problems with the opposite sex tend to be the bread winner in the relationship, from my point of view, your ex is being selfish. His only concern was that he feel inferior to you based on your status. Sadly to say most people still stuck with the mind set that woman can't be superior within the relationship. Another reason would be he feel insecure. Yes! we men do feel insecure not status only but relationship wise. Maybe he was thinking you won't have much time for him and you would develop special relationship within your own professional but its proven many times doctor(female) get married with (mechanic) and live happily, but this is only based on my speculation.

I think there are men out there, who would look past these status of life and would love you for who you're. Trust me i know. Just try your best and keep searching for it. Just don't rush jumping into their love boat, try to get to know the person beforehand.

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r u freaking kidding me, OP(Orignal Poster, TS)

eh hello dun talk about some.rubbish lah, its freaking depends on your heart whether u wanna go this relationship or not niah, got sincere and money or whatsoever them okay lah, apa mindset TS... doh.gif

Chinese said ShaB(Dumbass) doh.gif

ShaB talks about which job cannot *ehem* , well yada yada and up to.you...

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 12:39 PM)
Yes, I usually go for someone "lesser" than me but has qualities that I adore. It's time for me to set a higher standard when it comes to dating :sigh:
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I believe your usage of the word 'lesser' would've ticked a lot of guys off. You didn't even bother explaining what that quote actually meant, so it's only natural that people took it as literally as you've put it.

Maybe it seems that this 'high horse' attitude of your's is what's keeping the guys away? You gave me the impression that you're the kind who talks about yourself so much as if the universe revolves around you.

However, that's just my first impression of you through words, online. I've met people who portray (whether consciously or unconsciously) themselves very differently when online and offline. Though, what truly matters is not who you truly think you are, but how you portray yourself and give people the first impression.. because once that first mental imprint is created in people's minds, it is very hard to get rid/change that.

Still, I'd give it a benefit of doubt; I think one needs to meet you personally to find out who you truly are.
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My ex is a doctor.

Never again.

Doctors, same like lawyers have weird ass attitude, like they are always right. Try talk to darkligt79, He will never say hes wrong. My lawyer friend, even wrong also can say hes right. They will refute what ever you said.

My current gf is super smart too (doing phd level thesis altho only in her degree) so its not about that insecure feeling. Most important is she take care of my feeling despite i dont even have a uni degree.

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i think most guys prefer a submissive gf or wife.
simple bcos we, guys, born to lead and giving orders.

from what u written, i can see you a bit arrogance. not only u, most of female doctor became anak dara tua lol. fact and means no insult.


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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 01:07 PM)
we usually went out for dinner and had great conversation. One of them was journalist and I really really liked him but when we talked about our lifestyle, he started to back off. I didn't go to club or pub and he went there. He was a great guy but too bad he doesn't like me because he thinks by not sharing similar lifestyle and the fact that someone better might snatch me up, he backed off.

Also, I went out with a great economist. Similar problem as well when it came to lifestyle and my job, he backed off and he doesn't believe that I will keep him for long-term relationship.

All in all, the guys I've been dating so far think that I only want them for short-term relationship and once I find someone better, I will dump them. It makes me wonder whether they are all insecure.
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I suspect your taste of "finer things in life" might be a problem.

Some girls have tendency to get those finer things in life material wise.
Subconsciously u are hunting for one and will upgrade when it's time.

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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are you sure that's the real reason?
there's an arrogant undertone in your post which gives the impression that you think too highly of yourself and your profession.. and such attitude could turn your date off
you're making the title doctor sounds so mighty as if it's above other professions.. i think the title has gotten to your head..

it's usually the attitude that repels the guys, not the profession

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QUOTE(ah_suknat @ Jun 14 2016, 08:42 PM)
My ex is a doctor.

Never again.

Doctors, same like lawyers have weird ass attitude, like they are always right. Try talk to darkligt79, He will never say hes wrong. My lawyer friend, even wrong also can say hes right. They will refute what ever you said.

My current gf is super smart too (doing phd level thesis altho only in her degree) so its not about that insecure feeling. Most important is she take care of my feeling despite i dont even have a uni degree.
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that's the issue with people like your gf. Lack of qualified men around; too many female graduates. Sometimes, 2 graduates marry and unemployed man and provide for him. hmm.gif
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As I read on, I discover more and more butthurt replies. Why? Your 2" worth of ego felt challenged ka? Lel
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QUOTE(cakes&cream @ Jun 15 2016, 11:33 PM)
As I read on, I discover more and more butthurt replies. Why? Your 2" worth of ego felt challenged ka? Lel
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butthurt replies and trolls it may have sounded,
but many altho harsh are just sincere wakeup calls.
however alarms are snoozed and ignores being pounded,
being delusional that posters are just protecting their balls.
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QUOTE(cakes&cream @ Jun 15 2016, 11:33 PM)
As I read on, I discover more and more butthurt replies. Why? Your 2" worth of ego felt challenged ka? Lel
Men's egos are always so fragile laugh.gif


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i dont mind dating a doctor as long as she is interesting and not high ego ..
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From the title of the thread, it is clear that she has already reached the conclusion that men are insecure when dating a female doctor.

She just wants people to agree with her and feed her ego. Doctor. Big deal.
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QUOTE(cakes&cream @ Jun 15 2016, 11:33 PM)
As I read on, I discover more and more butthurt replies. Why? Your 2" worth of ego felt challenged ka? Lel
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butthurt replies? are you referring to those who disagree with her statement?
open thread asking for opinion but don't allow different stance, criticism or negative feedback?

funny cause i think your reply is the only butthurt one here

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QUOTE(Saladz @ Jun 16 2016, 08:17 PM)
From the title of the thread, it is clear that she has already reached the conclusion that men are insecure when dating a female doctor.

She just wants people to agree with her and feed her ego. Doctor. Big deal.
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Are u insecure when u date a rich guy laugh.gif
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:09 AM)
What about either one? My friend is a medical doctor and accomplished and nice and pretty yet no guys are willing to date her now
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Mind to introduce your friend to me? I have a doctorate and my parents want me to find someone about equal to my level rclxub.gif rclxub.gif
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Whats the fuss? Unless either one's ego is scrapped like having one's dick or clit rubbed with sand paper then I don't see the fuss. It's still an interesting thing to talk about a doctor's experience and about stuff.
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QUOTE(cakes&cream @ Jun 15 2016, 11:33 PM)
As I read on, I discover more and more butthurt replies. Why? Your 2" worth of ego felt challenged ka? Lel
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no butthurt, a mere doctor dont really earn much as compare to other professions. unless she is a big shot specialist at private hospital.

come to /k, daily spammer over there earning 20k per month.
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General Practitioner that dispenses cough and cold syrup is also called "Doctor". icon_idea.gif
They deal with MC-worthy conditions daily. Syukur ... rclxms.gif

QUOTE(chickenriceboy @ Jun 16 2016, 02:01 PM)
i dont mind dating a doctor as long as she is interesting and not high ego ..
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As for me when I was in my early 20s and single then I wanted to date and marry someone wise and intelligent but also know her role as a wife or gf.

The reason being is I view a wive as a life partner and companion and if she is smart with talents it will be better for both of us when we tackle life's issues.

Not all intelligent and talented woman are bossy and a smart aleck. I have met many intelligent and in my judgement good wife material ladies to any men that knows how to lead

TS, there are men that are attracted to intelligent and accomplished woman. No worries about that

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doctors are most of the times busy. most of the times on call. you might have to work overnight. and so on. most average guys or normal working guys wont go for doctors because of this reason.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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THE ONE is not yet coming. keep up the good work until then smile.gif
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No. 1 reason is probably social barriers & self. The man feels he might be looked down upon when his wife is a doctor and he isn't. Dowry expected to be higher and probably he feels his intelligence could not match with a doctor. Lack confidence, insecure.

No. 2, doctor have no time for family stereotype, especially female doctor who might not be able to fulfill gender role of housekeeping, cooking, prioritize husband's demands & give birth/nurture children.

No. 3, younger malay girls are plenty, age 21/22 that have a easier job & guys could spend time with. Marry early at 24. Thread starter, you are late by a few years.

No. 4, some folks here pointed out that your attitude is not pleasant. You might be treating potential partners like a patient & it's an instant turn-off. Not many people like doctors & dentists when pain is associated with medical jobs. Worse with a doctor with cold & dull demeanor.

Very difficult to find a young man that understands and match up with you. Maybe a duda will be your suitor.
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intelligence is the ultimate aphrodisiac,
i find doctors attractive to me.
but havent got the chance to know one.
i didnt mind having my partners more intelligent than me,
abit refreshing i might say,
then we can talk all day long about something and anything and have a good output out of it
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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kind of wondering how old you are and how old the men you dated were. Maybe demographic plays a role here. Chances are you are dating men too young and insecure for yourself. When you find the right one, he'll appreciate you for who you are without feeling threatened. Don't compromise your self-worth for the sake of others.
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I thought TS said she is still doing her PhD?

Why now suddenly the PhD becomes an MD (Medical Doctor)?
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QUOTE(Blofeld @ Jun 20 2016, 12:06 PM)
I thought TS said she is still doing her PhD?

Why now suddenly the PhD becomes an MD (Medical Doctor)?
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Are you lost somewhere , she did say she is a doctor ...and no life outside of hospital?

did u fell down on the wrong side of bed. read first the page before commenting.?

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QUOTE(RobBHood @ Jun 8 2016, 06:24 PM)
Like that..out of office time..
Any bf can become doctor patient.
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found tis in a book by Linda Goodman:

The GEMINI-CANCER
Relationship
"Mind you, I am not sure that we have a drawing-room, but
we pretend we have, and it's all the same. Hoop la!"
He went off dancing and they all cried "Hoop la!"
and danced after him, searching for the drawing-room; and
I forget whether they found it, but at any rate they found
corners, and they all fitted in.
There's a party in progress. Over near the canape table, loaded with sliced
cheese, stuffed munchrooms (the best kind), and other goodies, a voice is heard,
rich and warm, punctuated with cackles, attracting a crowd of people (a
female voice).
" and the first day I was there, I decided to go horseback riding, up in
the mountains. Since there was no one to see me, I removed my shirt, because I
wanted to get a tan all over, you know? There I was, perched on this palomino,
as naked as Lady Godiva from the waist up, and you know how modest I am. It
was a riot. Well, after a couple of hours, I was as red as a lobster, and I figured it
was time to ride my horse back to the stables, where I'd rented it. But when I
reached for my shirt to put it on, it wasn't there. It had slipped off the saddle
horn somewhere in the woods. Can you imagine me riding back, and facing all
those men at the stables, in that seminude condition? Naturally, I burst into
tears from embarrassment. I knew I just couldn't do it. So, I said to the horse,
half hysterically "
At the same time, from over near another table, loaded with Perrier water,
fruit juices, and several bottles of red and white wine, comes another voice, clear
and sparkling, with perfect emphasis and timing, as a second crowd gathers

" so this guy in Indiana comes home drunk every night for years, until
finally his wife threatens to leave him. Because he's really in love with her, he
straightens out for a few months. Then this one night he falls off the wagon,
gets soused on stingers, and forgets where he lives for three days and nights.
Now he's afraid to go home, because she may not forgive him this time. So he
has a brainstorm. He goes to a pay phone, drops in a dime, dials his home num-
ber, and when his wife answers, he screams into the receiver, 'Oh, Helen, it's so good to hear your voice! I thought I'd never hear it again. Now listen carefully. I'm in Arizona, and I'll be home tomorrow, but get the police to tap the phone as soon as I hang up - and if they call before I get there, DON'T PAY THE RANSOM MONEY - I JUST ESCAPED!'"
They're both good talkers, Gemini and Cancer. The Crab's ability to re-
member details and to tell a story with sensitive perception, laced with the Lu-
nar imagination and humor, can hold a crowd spellbound. If there's also a
Gemini in the room, weaving tall tales with wit and charm, and maybe doing a
few card tricks on the side, the bystanders won't know which of the three rings
to watch at the circus. (One ring for Cancer, two for Gemini, the Twins. Two of
everything for Gemini.)
Before the party's over, either Cancer or Gemini (or both) may whip out a
camera and start snapping. Gemini and Cancer share a love for photography
with Leo and Pisces, the four Sun Signs most likely to be professional or ama-
teur photographers, each for a different reason. The majority of top photogra-
phers were born under one of these four signs, or have the Moon or Ascendent
there - and between them, they have the camera market pretty well cornered.
Another similarity between the Crab and the Twins is that their auras are
colored with many shades, because they're both so moody. Cancer dips from the
deep blues of depression to the rose of sentiment, sloshes around in the brown of
crankiness or the muddy lime greens of fear and hypochondria, then crawls back
up to lavender-hued nostalgia and soft pink laughter.
Gemini flits from bright yellow cheer to the indigo of despair, experiments
with the shimmering silver of dreams and the gold of hope, then plunges down
into the grey of despondency, from which he-she quickly leaps into glistening
white childlike faith.
When their auras mix, every color of the spectrum is represented, from
transparent etheric to ultraviolet... and a few more tones and shades that have
not yet been perceived, let alone named.
They're both dreamers, and both expert in the art of getting publicity (al-
though the Crabs pretend not to be interested, he and she fool no one - they
adore attention). They also both have vivid imaginations, and they're both in-
clined to laugh in public and cry in private. So you may think it's difficult to
tell them apart. It is not. It's as easy as telling a bird in the air from a crab on
the beach. One flies with the wind or an errant breeze, flapping its wings, its
bright eyes darting to and fro quickly. The other crawls carefully along the
shore, near the water, in the moonlight... backwards, sideways, slowly and de-
liberately. Both are frequently amusing. Both change their dispositions with-
out warning.
Regardless of their matching behavior at times, in their basic natures, as
with all other 2-12 Sun Sign Patterns, Gemini and Cancer are as different as
night and day, as positive and negative as the north and south poles - and, in
this case, as different as Air and Water (which are very different, you must ad-
mit).
The Twins are Mutable; consequently, they prefer to dash around, here and
there, communicating ideas and dreams, to being the Big Boss and running the
show. The Crabs are Cardinal, they definitely do not enjoy communicating (es-
pecially their own secrets) and prefer to run things - not necessarily out front,
with a brass band, but still very much in charge.
Being influenced by the 2-12 vibration, Gemini senses (because Cancer is
the sign ahead of Gemini on the karmic wheel) that he or she has much to learn
from the care and caution and secrecy of the Crabs - the ability to sit and wait
patiently, and the tenacity to stay with an idea long enough for it to develop
from a misty into a solid form. Because Gemini is the sign behind Cancer, the
Crab is wistfully conscious of a faint soul memory of how it was to be driven by
the multiple yearnings of Mercury, searching the world over for a place to settle,
yet reluctant to linger too long in one spot, for fear of missing something more
exciting. The Crabs remember, ah! they remember ... and so, ruled in this
present existence by the fluctuating Moon, they are periodically consumed by
wanderlust, and at the same time held back by fear (springing from the same
karmic soul memory) of losing, in Gemini fashion, what they already possess.
That's why Cancerians usually remain by the hearth, flying (normally) only
through the imagination, under a Full or New Moon, safely secure during such
imaginary flights near the home nest. But because they do understand, the
Crabs often tolerate the restlessness of the Twins better than most other Sun
Signs are apt to do.
In friendship, business, love relationships, Gemini is not inclined to cling.
If anything, they hold too lightly and casually, let go too quickly and sometimes
discard too soon. Cancer hangs on for dear life (barring those Twins and Crabs
with Moon Signs or Ascendents that strongly conflict with their natal Suns, and
even then, the conflict is merely periodic and temporary). The typical Crabs
fear that if they should loosen their grip, they'll be left without an anchor, in
strange, new waters, bereft of the comforting and the familiar.
Of course, some Crabs will deny this trait with vehemence - the ones whose
birth charts contain an Aries, Gemini or Sag Moon or Ascendent. Even so, don't
be overly impressed with their denials - especially their claims that they don't
save things or hang on to things. The tenacious quality is always there. It just
takes some subtle forms in each individual Moon Child. If you search long
enough, you'll find it.
A Gemini psychiatrist, whose office is on the ground floor of a building
where I used to live, told me about a Cancerian patient he once treated for a
mild neurosis. The Crab is completely cured now, happy and well adjusted, no
longer weepy. On the first visit to the psychiatrist, there was so much emphasis
on nostalgia and financial security, the secretive patient's Sun Sign peeked out.
After a couple of hours of listening, the Gemini "shrink," although fascinated,
began to fidget from sitting in one place so long, so he switched on one of his fast
Mercury subject changes and remarked, "I'll bet you were born under the sign of
Cancer."
"Yes, I was," replied the surprised patient. "It's very clever of you to have
guessed that, since I have absolutely none of the typical Lunar characteristics.
Astrology claims that Cancer is clinging and tenacious. Not me. I'm not like
that at all. And I'm not in the least possessive. I don't save things, and I never
hang on."
"Well," mused the Twins, glibly, "maybe it's your Moon Sign. Now, let's make
an appointment for next week."
CRAB: YOU
want me to go, is that it? You want to get rid of me, because I
bore you as a patient, and you think I'm too far gone for even you to
help. That's what you're trying to tell me.
THE TWINS: NO,
no - of course not. Not at all. It's just that I'm due in Chicago
tonight for a speech, and if I don't leave for the airport within fif-
teen minutes, I'll miss my plane.
CRAB:
I see. And you want me to leave. You're hinting for me to leave.
Isn't that right?
THE TWINS: NO.
I mean, yes. Well, it isn't that I
want
you to leave. But I'm
afraid I'll miss my plane, that's all.
CRAB:
Could I maybe ride along with you in the taxi to the airport? And
if you'll be back tomorrow, you could come over to my place for din-
ner. I make a really tasty meatless spaghetti.
THE TWINS:
I'd love to, but... I've already made another engagement for din-
ner tomorrow night, after I return.
CRAB:
(weeping) You hate me. I can take a hint. I'll go.
THE TWINS:
Please don't cry. You're wrong. I'm not trying to get rid of you. I
wish I could take you to Chicago with me. I enjoy your company.
Honest.
CRAB:
(brightening considerably) You do? Okay, then can I make an ap-
pointment for the day after tomorrow instead of next week?
The funniest part of the story is that the Cancerian patient was a female
Crab, a Moon Maid, who is now happily married to the Gemini psychiatrist.
I
trust this little story will illustrate to Geminis of any sex, age or profession, who
are involved with a Cancerian in any way, that the quick can be tripped up by
the quiescent - whether in romance, across the table in a card game or in a
business deal, not to mention running around the family circle.
Crabs are impressionable, sensitive men, women and children. They tend to
be periodically contrary and sullen, brooding over slights, real or imagined.
But the Twins can usually sweet-talk or double-talk them into crawling back out
of their shells. Gemini is the mental (or actual) wanderer, a lonely drifter, cut
loose from ties, emotionally (and sometimes literally) homeless, lost and seek-
ing ... the eternal child. A Cancerian is the eternal Mother (or Father), protec-
tive, warm, tender and coaxing. It's little wonder these two are drawn to each
other ... part... then return ... then part again.
The element of Water, when it saturates Air with enough moisture, causes a
shower that clears the atmosphere of fog, smog - and misunderstanding. Con-
sequently, Cancer can make Gemini pour out those Twin desires, shed some
truthful tears, and pause a moment, now and then, to remember the things that
really matter.
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TS, if u want relationship advice, would u mind revealing wat's ur date of birth 1st??
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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QUOTE(chickenriceboy @ Jun 20 2016, 01:09 PM)
Are you lost somewhere , she did say she is a doctor ...and no life outside of hospital?

did u fell down on the wrong side of bed. read first the page before commenting.?
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u didn't read her other threads, u don't talk so much la...

there is inconsistency in her stories

A few weeks earlier, she claimed to be a PhD (Doctor of Philosophy) student.

Now, she claimed to be a medical doctor working in a hospital.

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QUOTE(Blofeld @ Jun 20 2016, 02:13 PM)
u didn't read her other threads, u don't talk so much la...

there is inconsistency in her stories

A few weeks earlier, she claimed to be a PhD (Doctor of Philosophy) student.

Now, she claimed to be a medical doctor working in a hospital.
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QUOTE(Blofeld @ Jun 20 2016, 12:06 PM)
I thought TS said she is still doing her PhD?

Why now suddenly the PhD becomes an MD (Medical Doctor)?
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Ever heard of medical doctor doing PhD in Preclinical course? *sigh*
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Ever heard of medical doctor doing PhD in Preclinical course? *sigh*
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At least now you explain it.
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If she is not stupid. I date her.

Because I believe if she is relatively smarter, 80% ~ 90% of disagreement can be quickly avoided. Remaining 10%~20% inevitable one's would be quickly resolved. Only stupid people joust her upper upper balls against the lower balls and engage in stupid arguments. Wait, TS are the "smarter" one. You are not doing that. Aren't you?

The rest of the time, would be nothing but quality. If she is smarter, all our interaction and conversation would be stimulating. The rest, I don't care much. I have enough. And if she is really that smart, she has enough too. Only part that we need more is good time together. What's the issue here?

P.S.: Plus, a smarter one would be able to handle a more childish me. Which is awesome. Where's the downside? laugh.gif
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Haven't dated one before, but I doubt I'd be insecure. Most people think my wife's career is much more intimidating.😂
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 20 2016, 02:26 PM)
Ever heard of medical doctor doing PhD in Preclinical course? *sigh*
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sometimes it is the dr ego. ever deal with HO? u still might think some are ridiculously stupid even they are drs. no doubt u r smart but not many are up to ur smartness, take it like less than 10% of the population. I know how it feels when talking to someone who is not on the equal level of smartness as u. God bless u sis. it is never the matter of salary, it is how u treat ppl, attitude, sincerity and tolerance.
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If she is not stupid. I date her.

Because I believe if she is relatively smarter, 80% ~ 90% of disagreement can be quickly avoided. Remaining 10%~20% inevitable one's would be quickly resolved. Only stupid people joust her upper upper balls against the lower balls and engage in stupid arguments. Wait, TS are the "smarter" one. You are not doing that. Aren't you?

The rest of the time, would be nothing but quality. If she is smarter, all our interaction and conversation would be stimulating. The rest, I don't care much. I have enough. And if she is really that smart, she has enough too. Only part that we need more is good time together. What's the issue here?

P.S.: Plus, a smarter one would be able to handle a more childish me. Which is awesome. Where's the downside? laugh.gif
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you need to be quite smart in order to survive a medical course..
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I dun see there is any issue. I doubt is because of you are a doctor and guys don't date you.

Do you spend enough time with your boyfriend in the first place? Do you have a fixed day in a week that you both went out for a proper date?

It takes 2 to Tango....

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QUOTE(hades4eve @ Jun 21 2016, 10:51 AM)
It takes 2 to Tango....
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or 125 gold for 4 charges of consumable tangos laugh.gif
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QUOTE(chickenriceboy @ Jun 21 2016, 10:41 AM)
you need to be quite smart in order to survive a medical course..
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since memorization has become a pillar of our education, education does not equal intelligence hence in most cases, memorizing and repeating well-defined steps corresponds to studying hard, not smart.
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QUOTE(Rongxi @ Jun 21 2016, 01:35 PM)
since memorization has become a pillar of our education, education does not equal intelligence hence in most cases, memorizing and repeating well-defined steps corresponds to studying hard, not smart.
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try getting in if you're non muslim, see if you can even get in ..?
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try getting in if you're non muslim, see if you can even get in ..?
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do you understand my point?
great results correspond to studying hard, not smart since results are usually based on memorization and repetition of techniques

bringing up race and entry is irrelevant

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QUOTE(chickenriceboy @ Jun 21 2016, 01:56 PM)
try getting in if you're non muslim, see if you can even get in ..?
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with RM200K-300K ish yes you can ... perhaps through PTPTN and memorize the shit out with your brains during uni to get first class so you dont have to pay it back or suffer the next agonizing 40 years with the loan enough to buy a house laugh.gif

alternatively put effort during SPM and get straight As ... just choose something unorthodox but medical related, like being an expert in scrotum or something and that would have high chances of you getting that scholarship as well laugh.gif

And if you question me why didnt i do that? well i took an even more unorthodox path by choosing aviation (before the profession became commercialized like now no thanks to airasia for introducing batches of crappy pilots today) which... i quit halfway anyways doh.gif


ALSO PLOT TWIST: TS is bumi status JENG JENG!!

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QUOTE(Bonchi @ Jun 21 2016, 02:46 PM)
with RM200K-300K ish yes you can ... perhaps through PTPTN and memorize the shit out with your brains during uni to get first class so you dont have to pay it back or suffer the next agonizing 40 years with the loan enough to buy a house laugh.gif

alternatively put effort during SPM and get straight As ... just choose something unorthodox but medical related, like being an expert in scrotum or something and that would have high chances of you getting that scholarship as well laugh.gif

And if you question me why didnt i do that? well i took an even more unorthodox path by choosing aviation (before the profession became commercialized like now no thanks to airasia for introducing batches of crappy pilots today) which... i quit halfway anyways doh.gif
ALSO PLOT TWIST: TS is bumi status JENG JENG!!
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well quitters can't have any credibility on someone who have managed to be come a doctor ? at least she is accredited by her peers..not like u who can't stand up to competition .

so what ever BS u just took the time to explain remains bull shit lar.
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QUOTE(chickenriceboy @ Jun 21 2016, 02:51 PM)
well quitters can't have any credibility on someone who have managed to be come a doctor ? at least she is accredited by her peers..not like u who can't stand up to competition .

so what ever BS u just took the time to explain remains bull shit lar.
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well i quit for something better than an over paid bus driver icon_rolleyes.gif ... of course in a corporate point of view, and of course the things that truly matters... MONEY. Pity isnt it... sacrificing dream for MONEY hahaha... i'm pretty sure im not the only one.

buuuuuuut well, definitely not as noble as being a doctor or maybe i am wrong as this profession is no longer as noble as it was before rolleyes.gif especially to materialistic kids who thinks that it will be a rewarding career.

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QUOTE(chickenriceboy @ Jun 21 2016, 02:51 PM)
well quitters can't have any credibility on someone who have managed to be come a doctor ? at least she is accredited by her peers..not like u who can't stand up to competition .

so what ever BS u just took the time to explain remains bull shit lar.
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you're derailing but oh well
it's unfair to compare doctor title to other professions since others choose to pursue different path and acquire different set of skills (due to maybe different interest or any other reasons not necessarily because they are incapable)
it's like comparing a cyclist to a swimmer. a cyclist can cycle faster than the swimmer. but if you put the cyclist in the water, he's nothing special

so you should compare her with people of the same profession in terms of intelligence. Is she the best in her field? or just average?

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whatever race or ethnicity has anything to do with my thread. I am a mixed of two large races in malaysia if that answered your question
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QUOTE(Rongxi @ Jun 21 2016, 02:36 PM)
do you understand my point?
great results correspond to studying hard, not smart since results are usually based on memorization and repetition of techniques

bringing up race and entry is irrelevant TO MY POINT
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shouldn't be any problem for guy to date a doctor... doctor is hot...
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never experienced date a Dr before, so cant comment much

but if really have a dr gf, i think i need to fetch her back home when she OT until midnight. i dont mind to do that laugh.gif
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QUOTE(chickenriceboy @ Jun 21 2016, 10:41 AM)
you need to be quite smart in order to survive a medical course..
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That depends on how u define smart.
Can remember alot of data.
And connect the data into useful information are two very different ability I would say.

P.S. I'm not insinuating anything here. tongue.gif
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QUOTE(RUI @ Jun 21 2016, 03:24 PM)
That depends on how u define smart.
Can remember alot of data.
And connect the data into useful information are two very different ability I would say.

P.S. I'm not insinuating anything here.  tongue.gif
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Rongximedical field itself is very broad as well.

but...well why are we comparing an entity called intelligence that you couldn't really gauge or measure... unless you are talking about IQ then i got a schoolmate whose parents sell wantan mee is a mensa society member (school sent him there due to his math achievement) but he is currently making dough at home... *mensa gauges both memory and logic.
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QUOTE(Bonchi @ Jun 21 2016, 03:31 PM)
Rongximedical field itself is very broad as well.

but...well why are we comparing an entity called intelligence that you couldn't really gauge or measure... unless you are talking about IQ then i got a schoolmate whose parents sell wantan mee is a mensa society member (school sent him there due to his math achievement) but he is currently making dough at home... *mensa gauges both memory and logic.
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agreed
just giving chickenriceboy a point to ponder upon since he thinks that education equal smartness

QUOTE(chickenriceboy @ Jun 21 2016, 10:41 AM)
you need to be quite smart in order to survive a medical course..
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QUOTE(Rongxi @ Jun 21 2016, 03:05 PM)
you're derailing but oh well
it's unfair to compare doctor title to other professions since others choose to pursue different path and acquire different set of skills (due to maybe different interest or any other reasons not necessarily because they are incapable)
it's like comparing a cyclist to a swimmer. a cyclist can cycle faster than the swimmer. but if you put the cyclist in the water, he's nothing special

so you should compare her with people of the same profession in terms of intelligence. Is she the best in her field? or just average?
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QUOTE(Rongxi @ Jun 21 2016, 03:45 PM)
agreed
just giving chickenriceboy a point to ponder upon since he thinks that education equal smartness
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rclxms.gif well the fact that the smartest friend i ever had is a wantan mee maker kinda broke the idiosyncratic assumption flex.gif
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QUOTE(Bonchi @ Jun 21 2016, 03:31 PM)
Rongximedical field itself is very broad as well.

but...well why are we comparing an entity called intelligence that you couldn't really gauge or measure... unless you are talking about IQ then i got a schoolmate whose parents sell wantan mee is a mensa society member (school sent him there due to his math achievement) but he is currently making dough at home... *mensa gauges both memory and logic.
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There are alot of "mensa" lives off social benefits and arguing that's has the highest return/effort ratio.
For some reason, their ultimate goal is to do nothing and got money.


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QUOTE(RUI @ Jun 21 2016, 03:59 PM)
There are alot of "mensa" lives off social benefits and arguing that's has the highest return/effort ratio.
For some reason, their ultimate goal is to do nothing and got money.
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well.. isnt everyone's ultimate goal is to do nothing and get money.. so they can pursue their dreams.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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it still depend on their feeling toward you. Guys nowsday still facing issue as you mention. But you just keep looking for bf, 1 day you might find 1 that suite you. Well, smtimes some girls are too good to be true, guys might think since a lot guys will after her; they will just give up before try.
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i'm confuse now. TS is guy or gay?

the other day like gay. now female doctor pulak

machiam cool story je
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QUOTE(maraippo @ Jun 21 2016, 04:53 PM)
i'm confuse now. TS is guy or gay?

the other day like gay. now female doctor pulak

machiam cool story je
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I am a liberal girl who used to date a sexually fluid guy laugh.gif I thought after Orlanda attack, people are becoming more accepted towards LGBT community.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 21 2016, 06:12 PM)
I am a liberal girl who used to date a sexually fluid guy  laugh.gif I thought after Orlanda attack, people are becoming more accepted towards LGBT community.
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The Orlando attack is due to people not accepting LGBT community.
And it caused people who originally accepted LGBT to voice out and create the illusion of acceptance.
But actually nothing has changed, there are people who accept, people who does not accept but did not dare to do anything, and the attacker. tongue.gif
Kinda out of topic, I know. biggrin.gif
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QUOTE(SMB002 @ Jun 21 2016, 06:24 PM)
The Orlando attack is due to people not accepting LGBT community.
And it caused people who originally accepted LGBT to voice out and create the illusion of acceptance.
But actually nothing has changed, there are people who accept, people who does not accept but did not dare to do anything, and the attacker.  tongue.gif
Kinda out of topic, I know.  biggrin.gif
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it's a product of brainwashing by radicals linked to terrorists ler.
the attacker thought that it was the right thing to do to purge them as the punisher based on what he was taught and would later suicide to be a martyr.
I'm really amused on how people can be so easily influenced by religious teachings sweat.gif
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QUOTE(Bonchi @ Jun 22 2016, 08:49 AM)
it's a product of brainwashing by radicals linked to terrorists ler.
the attacker thought that it was the right thing to do to purge them as the punisher based on what he was taught and would later suicide to be a martyr. 
I'm really amused on how people can be so easily influenced by religious teachings sweat.gif
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Because they lacked the ability to think?
Since it is easy to just follow without questioning aka faith.
And it also make them feel good about themselves, like taking drugs. Ain't that convenient.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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Dont mind those guys
you shuld be very thankful they decided to ditch you,
if you are being a doctor bothers them they dont deserve to date you
Guys love smart women who arent shallow
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confirm got nice guy for you out there

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Maybe cos certain mindset yg doctors are boring ppl? Lel

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QUOTE(pandazoro22 @ Jun 22 2016, 03:28 PM)
Dont mind those guys
you shuld be very thankful they decided to ditch you,
if you are being a doctor bothers them they dont deserve to date you
Guys love smart women who arent shallow
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confirm got nice guy for you out there
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sounds very sarcastic laugh.gif

QUOTE(riezzien @ Jun 22 2016, 04:58 PM)
Maybe cos certain mindset yg doctors are boring ppl? Lel
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hmm.gif imagine dating a chiropractor and she does "adjustments" to you every night... good stuff manggg

or maybe a chinese physician with the mastery of yin and yang, triggering your horny pressure points every night. brows.gif
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QUOTE(Bonchi @ Jun 22 2016, 05:10 PM)
sounds very sarcastic laugh.gif
hmm.gif imagine dating a chiropractor and she does "adjustments" to you every night... good stuff manggg

or maybe a chinese physician with the mastery of yin and yang, triggering your horny pressure points every night. brows.gif
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Was giving genuine answer
but aso bashing the shallow dudes
so yeah was being sarcastic in some places
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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Depends on people, some guy cant comprehend if their gf smarter or successful than them but to some like myself i prefer my gf to be as smart or smarter than me because that give us a shorter learning curve in conversation, lifestyle, future, goals and commitments.

You just need to keep looking until you find someone like that because no matter how smart are you in 1 field that does not mean you are good in every other field you just need grasp to someone that understand that difference.

Does not mean a guy earn same as you means he is smart. Sometimes it could be some obstacle challenges him and when this people break free of this obstacles even no money they can make millions.


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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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Depends on the guys actually. For me, I'm looking for a long term relationship. More like, be a couple for one year and after that, kahwin terus. I'm not intrested in short term relationships. Yes it's fun and nice knowing there's someone to love you, but I don't want to spend my time and commitment for someone who does not want the same thing as me, a long term relationship.

If I found myself with "The One' or "The Jodoh", I'll accept everything about her, because I'll know she will do the same with me. Her interest, weakness, family, and past, I will accept them.

For your case here, I think those guys aren't serious enough about you. Maybe they're not the "The One" or "The Jodoh". Chill and just wait for the right time, don't force yourself, I'm sure you'll find him. Maybe there will be a patient for you, who knows right.

P/s, doctors are cool you know. If a cute doctor have an interest for me, I'll usya her for sure.

Good luck smile.gif smile.gif smile.gif smile.gif
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I read abit that you said that you are in the mist of "healing" that's why u venture into dating.

you might not be actually dating but you are looking out to fill in the void that your ex has left you with sub-consciously.

you might have given them the vibe that you are looking for rebound to the guys, hence they put in it short term. if not I can't think of any other reasons why they have a feeling things will be short term.

I don't think guys (in general) will be put off due to your profession, It might be something else.

If they can't see you past your profession, you shouldn't be dating them in the first place.
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I'm currently pursuing my PhD, late 20s. Gotta say it's hard. I've talked to a few of my guy friends about this. They prefer girls who have more time on their hands.."for the kids" as they put it. A teacher is one of their favourite. My guy friends are PhD students too and oh boy they're such rarity. Most of my medical practicing friends date those from the same field. Be it another MD or a nurse. But who knows, may luck be on our side biggrin.gif
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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Been dating an MO for 14 months now, she doesn't scare me laugh.gif
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whatever race or ethnicity has anything to do with my thread. I am a mixed of two large races in malaysia if that answered your question
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I'm sure you'll be an interesting date I don't mind meeting up just for coffee.
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Dont tell you are doctor...just tell keje biase2 je...
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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if me, i will date.... sometimes, mindset is playing important role.. some still thinking if the wife earn better, the husband might feel inferior or people might say something behind..
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Honestly, it's extra attractive for me.
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Aha, i just realized i've dated one malay girl (emergency practitioner) & another indian girl who is studying biomedical (future scientist) i guess.

Not really insecure, sometimes there is lack of chemistry. hmm.gif

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i think most ppl will think like below:
-a doctor, okay, what if i wan to marry her next time? what will i have to get her to say yes? landed house? condo? apartment? car? lux car? how much of saving?
-what her parents will think of me? she is too good for me? i m not matching with her in term of society status?
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 12:06 PM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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My gf is a doctor, the PhD type. She complains the same thing - a lot of kampung-minded guys are scared to date a girl who has better academic qualifications. Well good..!t Their loss is my gain.

If medical doctor... the impression is that doctors by definition are married to their jobs, so for a lot of men it's kind of pointless. For gals on the other hand, male doctors are super eligible because of the status & perceived earning power.

I dated a med student once. She was making such a big deal about becoming a doctor, it was clear she wanted to marry her career, not a guy... so I decided not to waste our time and walked away and found a PhD doctor who wasn't so full of herself.

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:09 AM)
What about either one? My friend is a medical doctor and accomplished and nice and pretty yet no guys are willing to date her now
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I don't have this problem. Send them my way, please..
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i wish i can date a doctor or be my wife
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if me, i will date.... sometimes, mindset is playing important role.. some still thinking if the wife earn better, the husband might feel inferior or people might say something behind..
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I think this is the likely reason. Maybe they look on the long-term. different pay grade something like that.
I would love to date a doctor. smile.gif
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I think this is the likely reason. Maybe they look on the long-term. different pay grade something like that.
I would love to date a doctor.  smile.gif
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well, who cares what people think.. she happy with her choice, you happy with your choice. should be good enuf. else, if love based on income, then better married richfag straightaway right laugh.gif
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TS you just need to meet more guys... I don't see anything wrong dating a doctor.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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Lets date, frankly i don't have any doctor friends so i can comment much.. but i do look forward to know some as well.


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lol , doctors are great, more intelligence partner can resolve daily issue efficiency. doctor tend to take care health for both side cautiously, to prevent future of any diseases and reduce life burden.
sadly for TS get hatred replies due to your honest question and sentences.
i am software engineer, my pc is my life, there is nothing wrong as doctor life will always in the clinic/hospital as long as they take care themselves well independently

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Dear TS, where is the que?

I am all in...

hehe.. love has no boundaries yes... but in reality... due to difference in financial gradient/work confidence often cuts.. the reasonable explanation to this is due to social grooming... even I cant escape it.. it is just does not sound logic to come from a more comfort zone down to a lesser comfort zone...

especially when parties are young... like below 30's.. however, happiness and love is really abstract.. cant be explain... in ppl i know, the women earns more than the men.. Now i dont know how the system works... but i can assure u tolerance among them are good.. they going strong with 4 children, 5 children, 3 children.. all these consideration, rational thinking, comparing and etc ends when both parties touches 35...

coz that is when u be honest with what you want in life.. a real companion for life, a responsible guy, irregardless of the earnings.. coz we aware by then we get old... and not a time to choose.. somethings are just meant to start since tender age

so where is the Q? again biggrin.gif
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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Honestly, it never really occurred to me so I've never thought about it.

Personally though, I'm ok with it. Especially considering the things I do, having a doctor wife or something would be convenient as hell if I screwed up and she have to fix me up haha

(yes, this is coming from a guy who cheated death numerous times and had a broken spine now supported by titanium implants)
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IMO, yes I do feel insecure. As a female doctor you always have high expectations for your partner such as title/salary/big house/big car. This type of situation always lead to if the man unable to fulfill your social status, it will lead to argument and the relationship is over. U probably have to date someone who has the same or greater social status than u.
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QUOTE(AbamMobil @ Nov 20 2016, 12:57 PM)
IMO, yes I do feel insecure. As a female doctor you always have high expectations for your partner such as title/salary/big house/big car. This type of situation always lead to if the man unable to fulfill your social status, it will lead to argument and the relationship is over. U probably have to date someone who has the same or greater social status than u.
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Guys nowaday feel insure. Thats why alot of single bachelor. They will prefer to hang out with same catagory (barchelor also). They will scare or feel worry to meet girls with higher education or higher salary than them (judge in base on occupation). Just like my relative (still single). No matter how many o girls i introduce to him he also feel insecure. He just try to work more to avoid dating. He has excuse of alot of workload so can not dating. He is now in 40++. Girls nowadays have more expectation. At least a stable job or business, car & house etc. Even not looking for marriage purpose, but at least can show off. Some of my friends (girl) even want to look for ang mo (white man) better than local. They will try for migration marriage. Some did it but some not. They wil have a thinking like, i already so high post with so high salary my bf should be earn more than me otherwise how am i secure myself. Some of my friends(girls) even every changing cars like changing cloth. Or maybe both (boy & girls) also have their own requirement. Guys look for pretty, young & rich. Who knows? Thats only my 2 sens
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 21 2016, 06:12 PM)
I am a liberal girl who used to date a sexually fluid guy  laugh.gif I thought after Orlanda attack, people are becoming more accepted towards LGBT community.
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I am a liberal girl who used to date a sexually fluid guy  laugh.gif I thought after Orlanda attack, people are becoming more accepted towards LGBT community.
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what you are doing is great. You are openminded enough to try out modern dating methods and don't mind giving guys a chance. That is great from someone like you with high intelligence. It is those guys who are having problems. Maybe they just have different agenda in their mind. I am not sure about guys out there. But personally I like smart girls. They can hold a smart conversation about books or sometimes different perspective in life and philosophies. As long as you don't mind the guy have lesser knowledge than you are you don't do things that will make him feel intimidated then it should be fine. Keep up the good work and I am sure one day a man will love you for who you are.
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Think there are two issues at play worth commenting on

1.) Do Malaysian men feel emasculated by professional woman? Some obviously do. But you can't control that. Unless you quit your job and act like a bimbo. But this leads to my next point

2.) Are you just dating the wrong men? Why would you date someone who would never see you as an equal? I would just go on a bunch of first dates. Tell them your occupation before it gets any further to reduce search costs. Why dont you just date another doctor? Surely that would just makes things easier. Then you can disqualify the doctor excuse when you are dating an equal.

Also, reading between the lines, it comes across that the doctor explanation feels like an easy and convenient excuse. I could be totally wrong because I hear your tone or see your face. But phrases like "Guys, are you that insecure?" and "that's why I dumped him." makes it sound like you are just a very strong woman in general, perhaps too strong. Relationships are give and take. Unfortunately, for woman, you have to "give" more than you take. And when I mean give, it is emotionally.

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too bad i cant sleep. is this a troll?

wut? youre gonna cure cancer? a dr is just another job for some lame ass pay. just as other "professional" jobs. trust me, no man is intimidated by what a woman does for a living. as for your problem getting hooked up, you already know whats your problem and should have the brains to be honest to yourself about it. yawn.gif


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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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Sadly ts I know exactly how u feel. Almost everyone see us as no life outside our hospitals/clinics sad.gif
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Sadly ts I know exactly how u feel. Almost everyone see us as no life outside our hospitals/clinics sad.gif
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Well I do think some guys can be like that, but not all guys. I know a few including myself who's gfs are real career/business ppl earning way more but the relationship is great.

Could it be that you are putting too much thought into your doctor status? Nowadays there are thousands of doctors in malaysia..and many are out of work. So the doc status is not as high as it was before. At least for those who know the stats la and keep abreast with what's going on.

Sometimes guys use lame excuses to break up with someone they don't like or get bored with. So using such an excuse could be just that; and excuse to get out of the relationship.

Find someone who doesn't give a shit how much you make or cares two shits about doctors. But then again would you want that?
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QUOTE(BubuTheStar @ Jan 21 2017, 03:09 PM)
Well I do think some guys can be like that, but not all guys. I know a few including myself who's gfs are real career/business ppl earning way more but the relationship is great.

Could it be that you are putting too much thought into your doctor status? Nowadays there are thousands of doctors in malaysia..and many are out of work. So the doc status is not as high as it was before. At least for those who know the stats la and keep abreast with what's going on.

Sometimes guys use lame excuses to break up with someone they don't like or get bored with. So using such an excuse could be just that; and excuse to get out of the relationship.

Find someone who doesn't give a shit how much you make or cares two shits about doctors. But then again would you want that?
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Am definitely not putting any thoughts into my status. If they ask I say kerja biasa only. But once they find out somehow they back out? And we don't even make much for a living. Yeah maybe they just give lame excuses to get out. I do admit we don't really have much free time for dates and such but doesn't mean we don't have a life outside sad.gif
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QUOTE(friedmihun @ Jan 21 2017, 04:27 PM)
Am definitely not putting any thoughts into my status. If they ask I say kerja biasa only. But once they find out somehow they back out? And we don't even make much for a living. Yeah maybe they just give lame excuses to get out. I do admit we don't really have much free time for dates and such but doesn't mean we don't have a life outside sad.gif
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i think its similar for guys as well, not so much on status but not having time outside the hospital (and passing exams).
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QUOTE(friedmihun @ Jan 21 2017, 04:27 PM)
Am definitely not putting any thoughts into my status. If they ask I say kerja biasa only. But once they find out somehow they back out? And we don't even make much for a living. Yeah maybe they just give lame excuses to get out. I do admit we don't really have much free time for dates and such but doesn't mean we don't have a life outside sad.gif
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Try post your profile in Love classified. I'm sure many will queue to get to know you.
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QUOTE(BlackB @ Jan 21 2017, 07:09 PM)
I think that sometimes it all comes down to u. Will u date someone who is not a lawyer/doctor/engineer? Maybe some normal office worker, will u wan that? Will u feel embarrassed in front of your doctor's friend when they all brag about their bf/husband is with a big career or some profession?
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Honestly, a Dr is also just a normal job. I don't see myself as high n mighty. I'm just the same as others. So I don't mind of course. Most importantly he's loyal. That's another issue that I don't really wanna get into. Love is more important than some strangers judgement/opinions
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QUOTE(Jckc @ Jan 21 2017, 07:45 PM)
i think its similar for guys as well, not so much on status but not having time outside the hospital (and passing exams).
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Ya I know right. Kesian you're tied down with exams too ah. That makes 2 of us lol 😅
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Hmm no la. Not really looking anymore. If it comes, it comes lo. If not, oh well 😅
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Your definition for love is true, its rare to find someone like u (wink)
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Even though gender equality is constantly being preached nowadays, there are still many men and women who are stuck in the mentality that guys should earn more or be more successful if not equal to their female partners. Look around this forum, you will find lots of examples of this. This applies to girls too. Many girls I met would only date guys with the same or higher social status.

What I am trying to say is, it is difficult to find a guy who doesn't feel inferior when their female partner has a more successful career or have higher social status. If you found one, do all you can to hold on to him. They are rare, so be proactive when you see one.
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
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QUOTE(friedmihun @ Jan 21 2017, 11:56 PM)
Ya I know right. Kesian you're tied down with exams too ah. That makes 2 of us lol 😅
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Prolly not connected to TS's case but dated a few girls in the medical field. Doctors are prolly one of the harder ones to handle not because they are superior to me but them feeling the need to be right all the time. I am not sure if this is common to all docs but reason why things went to the drain was her attitude towards everything. She thinks she's right all the time, she thinks her problems are bigger than anyone's cause she's saving lives....for this, prolly more on a personal note, she can't accept failing in any of her fellowship exams which will driver her into depression for 1-2 months and also keep bitching about how someone can pass when she is a much better doc at work........There are more but ultimately, it's all about them......lol.....

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 12:09 PM)
What about either one? My friend is a medical doctor and accomplished and nice and pretty yet no guys are willing to date her now
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Am definitely not putting any thoughts into my status. If they ask I say kerja biasa only. But once they find out somehow they back out? And we don't even make much for a living. Yeah maybe they just give lame excuses to get out. I do admit we don't really have much free time for dates and such but doesn't mean we don't have a life outside sad.gif
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QUOTE(friedmihun @ Jan 21 2017, 04:27 PM)
Am definitely not putting any thoughts into my status. If they ask I say kerja biasa only. But once they find out somehow they back out? And we don't even make much for a living. Yeah maybe they just give lame excuses to get out. I do admit we don't really have much free time for dates and such but doesn't mean we don't have a life outside sad.gif
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Like I've posted before in this thread, not that bad what.

Any chance you in orthopaedic /pain or anesthetic department? Haha
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QUOTE(BlackB @ Jan 21 2017, 07:09 PM)
I think that sometimes it all comes down to u. Will u date someone who is not a lawyer/doctor/engineer? Maybe some normal office worker, will u wan that? Will u feel embarrassed in front of your doctor's friend when they all brag about their bf/husband is with a big career or some profession?
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I do agreed with BlackB.

Let me tell you a true story.
I have a friend who is a doctor.
He is single and after working hours he is free. He would ask us to go watch movies with him even until mid night.
I ask him if he want to go visiting with my during festive season.
He say he would go anywhere.
The last house, I say is a poor single lady living in a wooden house.
He say no lah, he is busy


Each of us is born different.

I think that sometimes it all comes down to u.
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Well having an intelligent partner , u will only miss it when u loss it. U do need someone to talk to when u need it the most. U need a supportive voice when the time comes
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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Not insecure, just my tough. if I am going to date a doctor, 1st thing i will think of is , Doctor need to leave anytime from home when there is emergency call in the hospital. like when you have a date. suddenly you have to cancel it. Second, when i eat some junk food or alcohol or something. you are not allowed to . so just concern. maybe you can provide some opinion on this Doctor
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Dr also got alot of types bro... not all like most of u guys n gals mentioned. If u work under ER, then yes..... but other than that, most dr live like a normal person like we do.

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so what ending of TS??
thread alrdy a year..
i'm also like to be friend with different field like TS...
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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nothing wrong for being a doctor..
just something wrong with their ego... well if their profession is not as good as yours.
doctors not bored... they just busy... hospital shifts are crazy!!!

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So many misconception in one thread. I pity female doctors. Only the females, the males got it easy.

BTW, many girls in all kinds of profession also think they are right all the time. It's ego. Girls have it too.
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i think doctor is much more better ? as alway keep me healthy , maybe they back off cause u r " doctor" they don't think they can meet ur expectation or requirement since "doctor" earn more

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No. She is just using you as a specimen
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post Nov 23 2017, 02:33 PM

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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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i think because doctors work very hard, so its kind of a HUGE con...

i mean back in the 70's husbands would go out for war, and come back many years later to their wives.
but nowdays, different already lor.

but to my preference la, i think its awesome that a girl is smart and all, brings balance to the relationship.
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First date when they ask you about your profession... say... "I fix people"... that sounds more inviting. Crack jokes more often.
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post Nov 23 2017, 04:18 PM

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post Nov 23 2017, 04:30 PM

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i think its more intimidating if you're a lawyer than a doctor HAHAHA
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must be scare u operate them...like those in horror movie. hehehe
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post Nov 24 2017, 12:07 AM

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TS dumped her BF and now she dumped all of you here just like her ex. Why? confused.gif

The thread starter started the thread last year June and never ever replied since......just that everyone here kecoh talking to each other when the thread was last year story.....

1 year 5 1/2 months...... doh.gif

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post Nov 24 2017, 11:20 AM

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i think they dont have confident to have a high qualification gf


as they are just cheap labour now
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QUOTE(Kuniang @ Nov 24 2017, 08:43 AM)
Can't get a bf, immediately assume it's because you're a doctor. Why it can't be about your face or attitude or maybe you have small boobs, yet you're so certain it's because you disclosed your medical occupation. Did the guys go "Wow wow wow hold up you're a doctor???" And he just up and leaves? I doubt it.

I don't judge, but you're exhibiting classical signs of narcissism.

Your ex bf is smart. The guys that ran are even smarter.
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this.

seems liek TS sendiri got over inflated ego
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Hey ts, i know how u feel. Ive been experiencing the same issue too. Some guys that i liked unfortunately have inferiority complex and said they dont deserve me. Im like come on, i dont mind anything.. love is blind

And doctors have life too. When we r busy we r busy but still able to spend time for leisure, paktor all that. Many ppl also got this misconception
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QUOTE(charmhy18 @ Nov 24 2017, 07:20 PM)
Hey ts, i know how u feel. Ive been experiencing the same issue too. Some guys that i liked unfortunately have inferiority complex and said they dont deserve me. Im like come on, i dont mind anything.. love is blind

And doctors have life too. When we r busy we r busy but still able to spend time for leisure, paktor all that. Many ppl also got this misconception
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My classmates in HO/MO says life sucks and they have no time to even tinder..

Luckily their families are $$, so when they do go out.. they spend and enjoy
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QUOTE(wargreymon12 @ Nov 25 2017, 12:17 AM)
My classmates in HO/MO says life sucks and they have no time to even tinder..

Luckily their families are $$, so when they do go out.. they spend and enjoy
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Hah depensa how the person balanced her life lur..i can still have 30mins to go jogginf after work wor..and go for movie on my offday or study for exam.haha
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QUOTE(charmhy18 @ Nov 25 2017, 01:30 AM)
Hah depensa how the person balanced her life lur..i can still have 30mins to go jogginf after work wor..and go for movie on my offday or study for exam.haha
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Hmm.. i lost contact with most of my classmates after med school.. but I am always curious as to what happened to the ones who decided to go onto HO/MO

I would rather marry a nurse, lab or radiology tech, RT, etc..

Better lifestyle balance..

How to jog in Msia.. the sun is the enemy of women everywhere
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QUOTE(wargreymon12 @ Nov 25 2017, 05:48 AM)
Hmm.. i lost contact with most of my classmates after med school.. but I am always curious as to what happened to the ones who decided to go onto HO/MO

I would rather marry a nurse, lab or radiology tech, RT, etc..

Better lifestyle balance..

How to jog in Msia.. the sun is the enemy of women everywhere
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Haha...wait till u find someone suitable for u..u wouldnt mind what they do for living

Haiyo, afternoon mah..samo u can always go gym..no excuses one lur
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Haha...wait till u find someone suitable for u..u wouldnt mind what they do for living

Haiyo, afternoon mah..samo u can always go gym..no excuses one lur
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People work in the afternoon.. you only get 1 day off a week during ho
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People work in the afternoon.. you only get 1 day off a week during ho
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Yeah ho life sucks..but once become mo life is abit easier..juz order houseman to do work..haha..and go bck at 5pm sharp
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QUOTE(alexsukri @ Jun 8 2016, 11:06 AM)
I have gone to multiple dates for the past month since I broke up with my boyfriend. But everytime I disclosed to them that I am a doctor, they all backed off. Guys, are you that insecure? I can be book smart but I live my life as you guys too. And most of them think I am too good for them although they make similar salary as mine. And most of them think I have no life outside the hospital. Like, come on

And my ex boyfriend seems to think so too that's why I dumped him.

Enlighten me please. This has been boggling me for quite some time. Yes, I am ready to date again and if the guy is suitable for me then why not. But I am not desperate for bf either. I am just wondering whether this kind of problem will bother me again when I am ready for another serious relationship

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Yes.
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Sexy part is the intellect, the turn off part is the ego. laugh.gif

You MO/HO here, i'm sure you guys have plenty of experience with egocentric not so "smart" superior and not to make your own life miserable, you suck up. Able to read, does not equate ability to understand. And being a doctor does not equate cognitive superiority. The super turn off part is the ego + "intellect".

Don't confuse that with being insecure.

P.S. You guys should give them a shot. Talking to them are often interesting if they are not too much of themselves. Have fun!

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QUOTE(dantheone @ Nov 28 2017, 11:35 AM)
Well, one of my friend is dating a female doctor for more than 3yrs now. And he shared to me that they have happy life together in terms of mutual respect. And his gf did help him a lot on his health as well. So this is why i mention this as a benefit by having a doctor gf.
And his gf has modern thinking, can accept most of the things request by my friends - more to sexual , cosplay stuff.
So i believe this is depends on the person personality but not by the career.
It is so unfair to not dating a female doctor unless she has weird personality that other not able to accept.
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I'm just highlighting those redflags that goes "bing bing bing".

1) Someone that establish his/her self-importance with his/her career instead of pride from the quality of his/her work.
2) Statistically, infidelity medical field is comparable to those in aviation industry. The conclusion from my last conversation with AAA class surgeon AKA neurosurgeon was "Lack integrity has nothing to do with work related stress. Don't you find it makes more sense to go home, bang your wife and sleep after a long day instead of banging some nurse and later worry about the wife finding out. That's not very AAA thing to do isn't it?"
3) I pity those doctor that are so committed in their that they end up sleeping on the wheel. The partner will have to be caring and understanding.

P.S. Your "friend" also share quite alot of stuff with you ar. So, you are the...? Happy for him.

 

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