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 Is sex really important?, What is your opinion??

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chachachaaa
post Dec 7 2006, 12:16 PM

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i agree with Lucifer_Light. rclxms.gif

i think in this case, the guy is so childish. just because the gf doesn't want to have sex with him, doesn't mean that he shud treating her like a total stranger. his action is really saying "No sex, no love, not even friendship". his mentality is like mayb of a 12 year old kid. i bet some kids are even more rational than him.
i know dat it hurts him dat his gf doesn't want to have sex wid him. but a sane adult will usually think "Y is she not having sex wid me?" or ask her wots the matter instead of just ignoring the gf. shakehead.gif
or maybe this is just his way to pressure his gf to give in & have sex wid him again. pls tell ur fren not to do so... being pressured into sex is just no differrent than rape sad.gif

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post Dec 7 2006, 12:17 PM

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QUOTE(sanook @ Dec 7 2006, 10:27 AM)
I am surprised there are people who voted NO. how old are you people who voted NO? if you are an adult, you really need to seek professional help because it is unhealthy. and to those people who want to argue that monks and priests don't have sex, the key word is ABSTINENCE. they didn't say it is not important and they didn't say they don't have the urge but dedicated  practicse of their religions calls for them to exercise self-control and TO ABSTAIN. some of them lose control too once in a while and that's when you see cases of children and orphans placed under their care being sexually abused. sorry for digressing but I just want to stress the fact that sex is part and parcel of BEING HUMAN.
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I agreed with u! Sex must be enjoy by both partner and I strongly encourage the Thread Starter to advise her friend to seek Doctor help. Having sex should not subject to pain unless something wrong with it. sweat.gif
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post Dec 7 2006, 12:21 PM

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QUOTE(Lucifer_Light @ Dec 7 2006, 11:50 AM)
I voted no. Sex is just one way to make a relationship bloom, but without it, my relationship with my BF doesn't just fall around my ears. I am with my BF for almost 3 years, but we never have sex also. 3 years leh... if ever getting married also need to wait 5 more years. So without sex, he will leave me? Then let him leave la... he is then not worth it. I agree that communication is the key to a good healty relationship, and add fun and love mah enuff lor.

Coming back to the threadstarter's post... I think the guy is an a$$hole (IMHO), and after reading all the posts, seemed that alot of people is supporting the guy. I would have told the girl: Leave him. If you have to accomodate his ego, and his ego is so super inflated and all he can think of is himself, he is not worth the sacrifice. Just tell him God gave him two hands, ask him to make love to those hands la.

Then I look at the guy side and wonder what could he have done when his gf told him: I don't want to have sex with you.

Hmmm... He could just apologise and say sorry, and say he'll wait till she is ready (because she will want to have sex one day and she will come to him). If he really loves her, he will wait. If he doesn't, you know where this is heading la.

Or maybe he got those words so thrown blatantly into his face that he doesn't know how to react, so still in a shock. Haha.

Are they still living together?
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Yea agreed with u..

Anyway lets not talk about "is it right or wrong for premarital sex" or the guy's egoism....

Lets talk about RESPECT....
The girl obviously WAS virgin and the guy probably wasnt...but thats not the point.

They havent get married now and the girl complaints it hurts when during intercourse....
And the guy is angry for she dont want to have anymore...and neglecting her..

Love isnt sex (but some says it is).....but love also is respect

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post Dec 7 2006, 12:40 PM

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Ya... agreed wif the men being childish~
but how could we really help??
Sum1 as immature as the guy is, how can we drill sumthing so... how'd u say tat... ermm... MATURE?? LOL tongue.gif

Its still a problem of communication.. dun think they communicate well n right

EDIT: Wacky~ Love is Respect, Sex is too Respect... I think the guy din respect the gal during intercourse.. too rough? LOL sweat.gif doh.gif

This post has been edited by Dragonflyz: Dec 7 2006, 12:42 PM
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post Dec 7 2006, 12:43 PM

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QUOTE(Dragonflyz @ Dec 7 2006, 12:40 PM)
Ya... agreed wif the men being childish~
but how could we really help??
Sum1 as immature as the guy is, how can we drill sumthing so... how'd u say tat... ermm... MATURE?? LOL tongue.gif

Its still a problem of communication.. dun think they communicate well n right

EDIT: Wacky~ Love is Respect, Sex is too Respect... I think the guy din respect the gal during intercourse.. too rough? LOL sweat.gif  doh.gif
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I see the communication very well..
The guy is in charge tongue.gif

Guy : i want sex
Girl : No...very pain
Guy : turns away
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post Dec 7 2006, 01:01 PM

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It would be a great help if that man will just push his bloody ego down, swallow his stupidity and gather his courage to at least speak to his GF. From what I interpreted from TS post, I think the girl wants to talk, but the guy doesn't. So it is about time the guy put in some effort into their relationship and not just doing the taking only.

And he'll need advices on how to please a girl *grin*

OMG, I'm actually giving love advices! (go hide)
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post Dec 7 2006, 01:08 PM

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rclxms.gif i agree lo... Sex is a part of our live.... Both make Love to show how much they Love each another... wub.gif


But Both Party must Hapy wit that relationship lo...
well, i dun know whether Ur fren, doesnt like Sex or, she is ignoring bcoz itz pain ??

ha.. If after marriage Pain then how ?? Divorce a ??
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post Dec 7 2006, 01:21 PM

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hhhmm....... they did talk about it b4. Her bf did try to do it better. According to my fren, they did try foreplay and eveyrthing but still nothing work out. So........
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post Dec 7 2006, 01:26 PM

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QUOTE(kathyasir @ Dec 7 2006, 01:08 PM)
rclxms.gif  i agree lo... Sex is a part of our live.... Both make Love to show how much they Love each another...  wub.gif 
But Both Party must Hapy wit that relationship lo...
well, i dun know whether Ur fren, doesnt like Sex or, she is ignoring bcoz itz pain ??

ha.. If after marriage Pain then how ?? Divorce a ??
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Ah.....then those hookers much have got alot of "love" from thier customer....
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post Dec 7 2006, 01:39 PM

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QUOTE(WaCKy-Angel @ Dec 7 2006, 01:26 PM)
Ah.....then those hookers much have got alot of "love" from thier customer....
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I'm talking bout People that R couplez...
I mean Loving..

Not Hookerz or wat.. ok....
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post Dec 7 2006, 01:42 PM

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QUOTE(kathyasir @ Dec 7 2006, 01:39 PM)
I'm talking bout People that R couplez...
I mean Loving..

Not Hookerz or wat.. ok....
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Hahaha...your so wrong.....
Love isnt judge by how much they make love to each other...

Ok then, i will just find a gf and just have sex with her and thats all only...
Everyday sex atleast 2 times...

Does that means i "love" her so much?
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post Dec 7 2006, 01:46 PM

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ok..ok...

I'm not here to argue ok...

My mistake..

But my meaning is not that ok...
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post Dec 7 2006, 02:22 PM

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QUOTE(Lucifer_Light @ Dec 7 2006, 11:50 AM)
I voted no. Sex is just one way to make a relationship bloom, but without it, my relationship with my BF doesn't just fall around my ears. I am with my BF for almost 3 years, but we never have sex also. 3 years leh... if ever getting married also need to wait 5 more years. So without sex, he will leave me? Then let him leave la... he is then not worth it. I agree that communication is the key to a good healty relationship, and add fun and love mah enuff lor.

Coming back to the threadstarter's post... I think the guy is an a$$hole (IMHO), and after reading all the posts, seemed that alot of people is supporting the guy. I would have told the girl: Leave him. If you have to accomodate his ego, and his ego is so super inflated and all he can think of is himself, he is not worth the sacrifice. Just tell him God gave him two hands, ask him to make love to those hands la.

Then I look at the guy side and wonder what could he have done when his gf told him: I don't want to have sex with you.

Hmmm... He could just apologise and say sorry, and say he'll wait till she is ready (because she will want to have sex one day and she will come to him). If he really loves her, he will wait. If he doesn't, you know where this is heading la.

Or maybe he got those words so thrown blatantly into his face that he doesn't know how to react, so still in a shock. Haha.

Are they still living together?
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three years together with no sex? most men would have dumped you already. there must be something wrong with your man. I am not being derisive. there is really something wrong with your man. either that, or he really love you a lot and can't bear to leave you despite not being able to enjoy sexual intimacy and pleasure with you. the biggest likelihood is he is getting it somewhere else. it is a very serious possibility. no healthy, normal adult man who have already experienced sex and interested in having a relationship with woman can go without sex for three years. you are just giving him ground for cheating on you. it is very likely he is already doing it and nobody would blame him. you are just being silly to think men can go without sex for three years. mark my words!

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post Dec 7 2006, 02:34 PM

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QUOTE(sanook @ Dec 7 2006, 02:22 PM)
three years together with no sex? most men would have dumped you already. there must be something wrong with your man. I am not being derisive. there is really something wrong with your man.  either that, or he really love you a lot and can't bear to leave you despite not being able to enjoy sexual intimacy and pleasure with you. the biggest likelihood is he is getting it somewhere else. it is a very serious possibility. no healthy, normal adult man who have already experienced sex and interested in having a relationship with woman can go without sex for three years. you are just giving him ground for cheating on you. it is very likely he is already doing it and nobody would blame him. you are just being silly to think men can go without sex for three years. mark my words!
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i think what is said r very rude. I personally think if a guy truly in love wif their girl, they will respect the girls decision. i dont think all guys r really sex maniac like you who cannot go on w/o sex. Guys tat cheat on girls just becoz of the sex issues is just someone who is not worth it mad.gif

Lucifer, i totally agree on ur opinion and they r still living together sweat.gif

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post Dec 7 2006, 03:40 PM

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@quireyuyue,
are you living in a fantasy world? Did you watch one Korean romance dramas too many? come back to the real world. ordinary people need sexual pleasure, even if it is masturbation. rude? I am just being honest. I didn't say the girl must have sex with the guy everytime the guy demand it. but go WITHOUT SEX FOR THREE YEARS in a relationship is ABNORMAL. rude or not rude is just a matter of how frank and honest I am. what kind of normal people in a relationship go without sex for three years? what exactly is so scary about sex? sex is as important as food, so say the old Chinese proverb... EAT AND SEX IS PRIORITY.. if you don't know, go ask your parents. you can claimed that you are tired or you are not in the mood but how can someone not feel the urge to have sex FOR THREE YEARS? I stand by what I have said. sex and love is two different things. yes, you can expect a guy to love a girl and bear with her desire not to have sex. but to expect the same guy to totally forgo sex just because the girl he love don't like sex is just silly, immature and ridiculous. there is always an exception but miss lucifer light seem to think that sex is not important in a relationship and that is totally wrong. REFUSAL OF SEX has even been accepted by court as a legitimate ground for filing for divorce. come back to the real world, please!

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post Dec 7 2006, 04:06 PM

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Sanook...
Read the earlier post~
There was sum1 mentioned Abstinence
If u dunno wat's the meaning... google is ur fren.
BTW... i'm replying cause its not helping by posting this crap~
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post Dec 7 2006, 04:09 PM

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QUOTE(sanook @ Dec 7 2006, 02:22 PM)
three years together with no sex? most men would have dumped you already. there must be something wrong with your man. I am not being derisive. there is really something wrong with your man.  either that, or he really love you a lot and can't bear to leave you despite not being able to enjoy sexual intimacy and pleasure with you. the biggest likelihood is he is getting it somewhere else. it is a very serious possibility. no healthy, normal adult man who have already experienced sex and interested in having a relationship with woman can go without sex for three years. you are just giving him ground for cheating on you. it is very likely he is already doing it and nobody would blame him. you are just being silly to think men can go without sex for three years. mark my words!
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QUOTE(sanook @ Dec 7 2006, 03:40 PM)
@quireyuyue,
are you living in a fantasy world? Did you watch one Korean romance dramas too many? come back to the real world. ordinary people need sexual pleasure, even if it is masturbation. rude? I am just being honest. I didn't say the girl must have sex with the guy everytime the guy demand it. but go WITHOUT SEX FOR THREE YEARS in a  relationship is ABNORMAL. rude or not rude is just a matter of how frank and honest I am. what kind of normal people in a relationship go without sex for three years? what exactly is so scary about sex? sex is as important as food, so say the old Chinese proverb... EAT AND SEX IS PRIORITY.. if you don't know, go ask your parents. you can claimed that you are tired or you are not in the mood but how can someone not feel the urge to have sex FOR THREE YEARS? I stand by what I have said. sex and love is two different things. yes, you can expect a guy to love a girl and bear with her desire not to have sex. but to expect the same guy to totally forgo sex just because the girl he love don't like sex is just silly, immature and ridiculous. there is always an exception but miss lucifer light seem to think that sex is not important in a relationship and that is totally wrong. REFUSAL OF SEX has even been accepted by court as a legitimate ground for filing for divorce. come back to the real world, please!
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U guys are crazy....up to extend of stupid...

DO NOT , i say again DO NOT remark ppl ABNORMAL becoz u think that is normal for u.


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post Dec 7 2006, 04:18 PM

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post Dec 7 2006, 04:22 PM

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Ah.....we dont need marriage anymore...
We need Free Love

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