Yeah, sex needs practice.. The first time is not gonna be perfect.. Dont follow the movies... Let say the girl dump the guy, she still have to learn the techniques of good sex.. Maybe she didnt have enough foreplay.. =P

My fren is a Christian so i think it will be very good. I dunno if my fren wanna tok wif them anot but i definately will try and get my fren to tok to 1 since she's now abit afraid of ppl liao.

The wife need to talk to the husband and discuss the true reason wy she doesnt enjoy sex :

Possible reason
a) The Husband makes no effort to please the wife during sex and only serves to please himself.
>> This could be an unexperienced husband and he might not know that he is not making his wife happy this way.

b) The Wife is not comfortable with sex before marriage.

c) Their relationship is already facing problems before hand and they thought that marriage/sex will solve it for them and make them closer.
The actual result falls short of expectations and so this issue crops up.

talk to a counsellor they can help you.Marriage is not a date or a relationship, marriage is serious and it is meant for people who want to spend their life together thru thick n thin.

i'm also pondering on that question myself

well it is painful coz mebe too much frictions.. try use lubricant lo next time..
if first timer then sure pain wan ma.. not get used to it yet and it is still tight. tell ur fren to endure it a few times lor and try to enjoy it. after a few times, she'll carve for it.. lol... just jk.. she should be ok afew times.. i personally feel that if a person really loves another person, even their sex life is ruin, they will still luv each other. but it'll affect their luv life a bit lar.. having sex is just a way to deepen the luv and tighter the bond between couples and of coz to have baby... so if dunwan sex then just find another way to hold this relationship. there are thousands and 1 ways to do so. i think i better tell ur fren to discuss the matter with her future husband.. and for this kind of guy, i think he might have isteri simpanan if they get married and his sex life is ruin. just my 2cents...

Well if your friend wanna see them, just PM me...

Its better if both of them attend together..

anyone know any counselor who is reliable and hav to be woman . Can give me her number?? I wish to ask my fren to call a counsellor but i just dunno where to find 1.

Tha basic is sex drives man to get a woman. Btw, always remember that forummer opinions shouldn't take as an advice.

I dont know why ppl seperate love n sex when they should be together. They already been for a year. Guys who just wanna look for sex goes to pub/disco looks for easy catch. Some just went to brothels. Its not easy being together with someone you dont have feeling for a year.

Tell your friend go n read some sex guide. If her fiancee haf no idea how to please her, she can guide him. Reject him isnt the best solution to this matter. Your friend handle it the wrong way.

I am surprised there are people who voted NO. how old are you people who voted NO? if you are an adult, you really need to seek professional help because it is unhealthy. and to those people who want to argue that monks and priests don't have sex, the key word is ABSTINENCE. they didn't say it is not important and they didn't say they don't have the urge but dedicated practicse of their religions calls for them to exercise self-control and TO ABSTAIN. some of them lose control too once in a while and that's when you see cases of children and orphans placed under their care being sexually abused. sorry for digressing but I just want to stress the fact that sex is part and parcel of BEING HUMAN.

erm.. I'm also a Christian... but maybe a very open minded one . I assume both your friend and fiance are Christians? Well... actually... from religious point of view... I guess they'll be told no premarital sex the point is.. still haven't married. but from professional's point of view... try to get more info about that counsellor first. at least.. there's a counsellor, but make sure it's a proper experience one. you can try ask our fellow LYN forumer for help all the best and wish your friend and her fiance a happy wedding in the end

Remeber one thing....
Christianity says no to pre-marital sex..

And premarital sex is wrong to me...but aint to u...
I'd say your quote "your friend handle it the wrong way" is wrong for me....
But its correct at your point of view...

quireyuyue give me your friend's number....i will ask my friend to call her.

Yaya, agreed... Why everytime blame a guy when a relationship gone wrong bcoz of the S word... Girls play a role too..

Humans need to eat inorder to sustain life.
But humans doesnt needs to eat when they're still full...
If they eat, they would get sick or get fat.

Tell me u understand my story.

wrong in what sense? there is nothing inherently wrong with sex. Sex is biologically and physically right. there is no wrong. marriage is a concept created by human society. marriage is not absolute. your sense that premarital sex is wrong stems from your religious belief and ethical values. it is ETHICALLY WRONG in your book but don't make a blanket statement that pre-marital sex is simply wrong.

well will u stay wif your gf or even marry her if she told u, u cannot have sex together??? Lots of guys just walk out of a relationship just bcoz girls say no. While lots of girls just totally ok w/o sex but guys.........

I understand your story but it is up to the individual to decide when he is full. you may think that person is getting fatter because he is already full in your book or is eating more than you but that person could still be hungry while you are not but we can all certainly agree WE ALL NEED TO EAT. I hope you understand my story too.

This post has been edited by sanook: Dec 7 2006, 10:40 AM

hey. we can now practice astinence for the rest of our lives already, thanks to in vitro fertilization. no need to have sexual intercourse to have children. more karma points added, more tickets to heaven. yay

http://www.ivf.com/ivffaq.html

This post has been edited by quintessential: Dec 7 2006, 10:42 AM

thanx, i'm also hoping for the best for her

last time i read a news, saying tat a new couple are not enjoying while they r having sex..
the wife feel pain everything her husband have sex with her..
so they both went to see doctor, finally they found out the reason, reason why she feel so much pain..
is becuz the husband went in the wrong hole