Recently, a fren of mind encounter a problem. She and her bf decided to get married by next yr, so they have been having sex a few times d but my fren does not really enjoy it. She feel uncomfortable and she said its painful for her bcoz of it.

So, she's been giving excuses and tried to avoid from having sex coz even after she told him the problem, he still insist. Now her bf did not push my fren anymore, but he also did not tok to her. Did not touch her anymore, not even hold her hand!!! he basically just ignore my fren. Not just ignore, he totally pretend as if she's not there!!!! FYI, they're living together and both parents also know about their relationship and the suppose to be coming soon marriage(i dont really know if marriage will take place anymore anot) so their relationship is very very much a serious 1.

haiz....i did not know how i can comfort my fren but i personally disgusted at that guy. I wanna ask my fren to dump him straight out but then i just dun wan push my own opinion on her. Pls give ur opinion on this so i can tell my fren about it.

aiya... 1st voter

Pity......another girl in delemma becoz of stupid guy.

Guy: u dont give me sex, i dont give u love.
Girl : Is it sex = love?

Me : NO

I vote "Yes".

Sex should be enjoy by both partner. I think the guy did not perform very well.

Since they're going to get married, why cant he wait?
How long have they been together?

maybe he dun have techniques, having passion to learn

i think they have been together for more then 1 yrs coz the first time i heard her tok of him is when she went to Thailand for holiday wif his whole family

I think to save them, they need the help of counsellor... or somebody to help them talk and unwind and understand each other more into this sex thing. BTW, I'm serious and I'm not joking

will there be any difference even after they get married? i'm sure he will ignore her as well. so its better to happen now.

i dont think its about technique or wat so ever. i think there r still some ppl out there that dislike sex.

Last week i read from the Star about a married woman in Singapore who ask the court to restrict her husband from having any sex wif her. Coz now she got a baby coz her husband "rape" her while she's asleep . She said that she's still very much in love wif her husband but does not wish to have sex wif him coz its painful for her.

When i first read about that article i feel very funny about it. But then i'm not too sure anymore

1 year decide to marry?
Maybe its the guy just trying to "get" her....and now after few times she doesnt give him....

Yeah....should do that..
The guy wants sex more than wants to marry her

Well...i guess if they're married atleast she wont reject...

Sex is important.

I think your friend hurted her fiancee feeling liao lar. What would a guy think when his fiancee denied him sex or tell him 'having sex with you is painful'. I dont think many guys like to hear that.

How many guys or gal hit it right when they are both first timer? It takes probably 5 or more tries just to get comfortable position. It takes even longer to experience whats feel best.

There's nothing that hurt a guy feeling more than being told you aint performing on bed. The best way to settle sex problem is by having sex. If your friend feel pain, must be lack of foreplay. Just use some lubricant lar or tell your friend to warm herself up first.

erm......do u know where can i get counsellor?? coz i have no idea at all. I can get my fren to go but i dunno bout her bf on this part.

Wait till the pain is gone then you she'll how important sex is. Then maybe she wants it more than the guy.

I believe all girls dislike sex at 1st...coz they're still tight...
After that they wont reject

I have alot of candidates for cousellor post....
But they're all from church

Your friend wanna talk with them?

hhmm.......i dont think after marriage will sure no reject. My fren is the kind that very thick head. She hav a mind of her on. You cant just get her to do something else when she already decided

what happen if the couple divorce?

LOL... thick head or not doesnt matter....
Once she get good sex, she would never forget it...
Demand only gets better from there...

Neah i bet she wont reject so much...

But that back to one point..
The guy wants her or just wants SEX ?