i came across similar case from my friends

boy relocate ipoh due to continue family biz
girl staying in Kl due to grow up and working in Kl too

although is not KL-SG LDR, it's still LDR

family business aka food?
extremely businesa no time to move around
typically its the female follows the guy direction
If she wants to gamble by submitting to his lead
but sadly, today women can be stubborn
they want to be career independent while having potential family
delusional

just break up with her. don't waste each other's time.

3 option

1: breakup and move forward
2: Go back malaysia and work ( I believe you still can thrive at malaysia, maybe salary lesser but still able to afford a fair life here)
3: relocate her whole family to sg but you need to very competent as your living cost will be very burden (You need to own HDB unless you want to rent, beside that, the rental fee is crazily insanely high now).

Thus, the easier solution is to breakup or go back to Malaysia.
The hardest choice is No.3
I hope you can stay happy with her anyway. However, don't ever waste her time if you cannot make a decision. This is selfish act.

merchandise business
yup, nowadays girl can be stubborn

at the end of the day, most likely see who can give in more

cannot give in then just see them as fwb
I don't see much problem with it
where is love? silverhawk lmao

work in sg, find a few fwb
have money when you look back you will giggle yourself
never follow a woman lead unless if she's rich or have a wealthy business

It's just personal preference.
What life you want to achieve at the end of your day

fwb for whole life?
Or having a family for your life?

I won't judge for their choices too, cause it's a free country and just do anything you like.

only weak minded people will take statements personally

request work from home then go back MY work

Did i offend you?

nope, only certain people here in this forum



This post has been edited by -mystery-: Jan 18 2023, 02:10 PM

Does the job in Singapore bring great potential currently and in the near future? If so, and if you feel both of you have great chemistry and great potential as life partners, then you'd consider bringing her over to Singapore. That's assuming her career in Malaysia is not progressing as fast as yours might be.

It is within reason why she shared her concern with you. If you think that BEING in Singapore is what you WANT, then be fair and straight with her and tell her so. At least both of you can discuss what options there are, and if both are adamant on her staying put in Malaysia, while you don't want to return to Malaysia anytime soon, might as well call it off. You can't expect her to be a full-time mum eventually and part time wife while you are away. Even without kids, what's the point of getting married but both are living separately for years and years?

Your question to yourself, what is your priority? Your career in Singapore or her as a potential life partner? Is 1 year enough for you to decide that?

i once know a friend, her father in SG working while the mother in MY taking care of kids (them)

once the kids all graduate SPM, they all moved to SG and sold their house in MY

not entirely impossible, but is your gf willing to do that? you need to ask yourself what kind of solution you can come out with that she can agree

This post has been edited by Chaud: Jan 20 2023, 03:33 PM

This enough to show money is more important to you than family whether current or future family. What is there to build in other country other than money or career. If you go country like Africa Bhutan then can believe lah your want to build youself spiritually

Career VS Relationship. Tough situation if you were to ask me.

Both required time to build but nothing is assured (future proof) until you get there. Is a lifetime decision to be made. I think I would starts from some logical question and answer making sure priorities are set correctly at this point of time. The situation is vary depending on many other factors as we all came from different walk of life.

1. Career and Relationship? The situation seems that you can only choose one unless stay LDR (it doesn't work out for me, so i got to choose one).

2. Singapore or Malaysia? If you are getting super good paid, no way you are not staying in Singapore. I meant you are super well pay above average. Otherwise, building you career and side business in Malaysia may be better option. Time is equal to money. If you are getting super good pay meaning you are going to need less time to make it. Otherwise, you need time to make what is enough for you. Time is always risker as we age.

3. Single or Married? For a guy, i personally not recommending getting marry too early. 35-40 is more ideal in my opinion. Stay Foolish but don't break any of your own rules/principles.

Good Luck.

guess nobody needs LDR anymore

B U M P

no more LDR rant here. hehehehe.

Back then before smartphone era LDR quite active. Gaduh with sms is insane, dunno how we did it back then. Calling her cost RM2 per minute. SMS was 20sen each.

You might very well have moved on with life since you last posted that, but it would be good if we could get an update, if possible

I wish you the best of luck bro.

LDR is more like online friends than potential life partners, from what I observed, one of my female friends almost cheated to be with another guy due to “emotionally attachment” while her then bf is in other country, mind u, they became couple cuz she confessed over a phone call, but then, let’s say if u r the then bf, u can’t do anything physically, even if she cheated you wouldn’t know

In the end, they tried but still broke up