Jan 18 2023, 10:26 AM
QUOTE(whatislyfe @ Jan 17 2023, 05:41 PM)
Hi Sifus,
I have just moved to Singapore (August 2022) last year, as I have gotten a good job opportunity here in Singapore. My girlfriend and I just started our relationship in late December 2021, and after short 8 months, I flew to SG to work. I still visit KL, once a month, for my family and her.
She is a single child, and because of her parents (slightly aged), she could not move to Singapore to work, plus, she mentioned that she is afraid that she cannot cope with Singapore's work stress. I didnt force her either.
Recently, our argument always related to what happen after marriage, will I be still in SG? or MY? Personally, I never think of staying in SG until I die, but I still plan to build myself up in SG at least until 40+ years old ish. But then her concern would be what is the point of marrying, having kids, but I working in SG, while she take care of the kids and stuff (which she mention that she is scare of this as well).
At my currently age, I would say I am maybe 3 - 4 years to go before marriage, and not sure if this is too early for us to discuss stuff like this? FYI, we are at the same age.
Need some advice.
Thanks.
3 optionI have just moved to Singapore (August 2022) last year, as I have gotten a good job opportunity here in Singapore. My girlfriend and I just started our relationship in late December 2021, and after short 8 months, I flew to SG to work. I still visit KL, once a month, for my family and her.
She is a single child, and because of her parents (slightly aged), she could not move to Singapore to work, plus, she mentioned that she is afraid that she cannot cope with Singapore's work stress. I didnt force her either.
Recently, our argument always related to what happen after marriage, will I be still in SG? or MY? Personally, I never think of staying in SG until I die, but I still plan to build myself up in SG at least until 40+ years old ish. But then her concern would be what is the point of marrying, having kids, but I working in SG, while she take care of the kids and stuff (which she mention that she is scare of this as well).
At my currently age, I would say I am maybe 3 - 4 years to go before marriage, and not sure if this is too early for us to discuss stuff like this? FYI, we are at the same age.
Need some advice.
Thanks.
1: breakup and move forward
2: Go back malaysia and work ( I believe you still can thrive at malaysia, maybe salary lesser but still able to afford a fair life here)
3: relocate her whole family to sg but you need to very competent as your living cost will be very burden (You need to own HDB unless you want to rent, beside that, the rental fee is crazily insanely high now).
Thus, the easier solution is to breakup or go back to Malaysia.
The hardest choice is No.3
I hope you can stay happy with her anyway. However, don't ever waste her time if you cannot make a decision. This is selfish act.
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