Hi Sifus,

I have just moved to Singapore (August 2022) last year, as I have gotten a good job opportunity here in Singapore. My girlfriend and I just started our relationship in late December 2021, and after short 8 months, I flew to SG to work. I still visit KL, once a month, for my family and her.

She is a single child, and because of her parents (slightly aged), she could not move to Singapore to work, plus, she mentioned that she is afraid that she cannot cope with Singapore's work stress. I didnt force her either.

Recently, our argument always related to what happen after marriage, will I be still in SG? or MY? Personally, I never think of staying in SG until I die, but I still plan to build myself up in SG at least until 40+ years old ish. But then her concern would be what is the point of marrying, having kids, but I working in SG, while she take care of the kids and stuff (which she mention that she is scare of this as well).

At my currently age, I would say I am maybe 3 - 4 years to go before marriage, and not sure if this is too early for us to discuss stuff like this? FYI, we are at the same age.

Need some advice.

Thanks.