They both Christian? I tot Christian shouldn't divorce unless  for marital unfaithfulness

Yes I believe nowadays christians are too emphasize on looking at other people's faults when finding life partners and not looking at ourselves inwardly. We should check our heart to see if we have lost that glimmer of love that we first had when we accepted christ. Sometimes its easy to forget when we are too busy in ministry work until we grieve other brothers with our own words and actions.

Its not a sin to divorce and remarry, if the other partner was caught red handed having an affair with another person.

wat happened to your maniackam123 a/c bro? kena ban arrrr?!! 

Its not a sin to divorce and remarry, if the other partner was caught red handed having an affair with another person.

Women needs security. Sometimes a stable man simply can win because he demonstrates stability.

I guess spiritual Christian need security in the sense that their spouse fear the God and always will put God in the first priority even over them. so when their spouse or partner is not Christian which also mean they are not fear and show reverence to God, how can they feel secure?

just my very fundamental understanding

I am not surprise at all.

I not to say I judge my fellow brothers la but I know a good and reliable brother when i see one. You know how? When i see him care about his brothers and sisters like the way a sheperd would take care of his flock. And not just leaders, in fact all of us are called to be sheperds, we should sheperd each other.

I know I know.

I think couples who really want to seek God's will always have one thing in mind, perseverance in a relationship. For this reason, I always see christians get together wanting to test a new relationship but there just isn't enough chemistry to like each other, thats why the relationship failed because the partner was just seeing if this works out. So the perseverance weren't there because they were telling themselves, i am settling down for the next best thing because i can't find a person who i can fall in love with. So the relationship becomes a big test for the poor dude. Sometimes I have even seen a christian guy barrage his newly converted girlfriend with full of tests. That takes away the intimacy and romance out of the relationship.

So before one commits to a relationship, make sure you see a future in the guy or girl or else, forget about it. I've seen christian girls even desperately try on a relationship with a non christian guy hoping that he will convert and change his worldly ways. But they know from the start it won't work, and they still get into this deal. And yeah, they are being very careful about it but if they were so careful, why commit into this in the first place and hurt the guy badly? I've seen this christian girl at church started a rship with an unbeliever guy, brought him into the church and try to accomodate him. To him, it became a test. And when things didn't work out because she thought he wasn't holy enough she ended it, the guy tried to barge in to see her, and then the whole cell group had to intervene to stop him. It was a mess, i saw the guy barge into the cell group's gates demanding to see her. I just didn't get involve because for me, its the girl's fault, she hurt him, she has to answer for it. Why pull my cg members into this fiasco?

So once both of them really like each other and fullfill the minimal requirements like trust and believing in christ. Next thing is let the relationship flow, don't make it become a trial examination. Its a torture, it takes away intimacy and romance.

Yeah i guess i be running without a running partner, too much hassle, haha.

Lighter to run alone.

With a partner you got to concentrate on family ministry, no time because have to raise family. But if you are alone, you can do all kind of stuff to help the church.

1 of the metaphor of relationship with God is husband and wife (mean God is husband and we are wife la ). when u have been into that stage u will know God well? have much closer relationship with God perhaps?

1 of the metaphor of relationship with God is husband and wife (mean God is husband and we are wife la ). when u have been into that stage u will know God well? have much closer relationship with God perhaps?

Every morning can say "O Lord Jesus, I love You" a few times xD

Try it

Now confirm already.

Pehkey, you know what I mean.

Now confirm already.

Pehkey, you know what I mean.