its not just that, church people are not as what they market themselves to be. You go to some mega churches, they advertise on the big screen how fun they are...even play the video...do some flash dance etc etc. But when you join their ministries, u start to notice their ugly side...bickerings, politics, favortims, abuse of funds, backstabbing.
there is this botak christian so-called friend, i cut him off. He used to request for my accounting knowledge to help him in his ministries. He even ask me to pray together with him to find a job. I been there for him, when he was in trouble, and my biggest regret was to teach him my top secret winning formula in a job interview !
then when he got his job, he became lan see. At the church, got one old auntie was attracted to him, but he rejected her and criticized her, even became sore and bitter at her because she tried to pursue him. He think he so dam high standard. Come on, man...a girl like u, u dun like, then dun layan lah, but he got his whole cg, to boycott her because he is the boss, the cg leader. The auntie cried and left...what a cruel CG leader...he himself think he so hansom, purposelly want to kao all the girls half his age..but they know he is a mid 30 year old uncle who practice favortism.
then got one time, i ask him out to yam cha...he literally FFK on me. I was mad...none of my non-christian fren ever do this to me, not even my dates with my female friends. I scolded him and he turned up..then a small disucssion over cell group multiplication, he got mad for no reason, got offended so easily, walked out.
this is so disgraceful behaviour. Sometime i yam cha with him, i really want to slap him, because he criticize other christians and he thinks he so dam great. I wonder if he would condemn me behind my back too because i shared some stuff with him which i regretted thinking that he is trustworthy.
I realise that some christians tend to wanna be the whistleblower show off...so they will RAT on you. So never share any secret with a fellow christian.
There are two other christians that i trust, my real brother in flesh and my other best friend whom i have known for 14 years.
But this botak guy, i really cut him off, no yee hei one...even worst than a non christian in terms of friendship.
This reminds me of the story in 1 Samuel. Those days even the priest (Eli, the high priest, own sons did not follow the Godly way. They turned aside after dishonest gain and accepted bribes and perverted justice (1 Sam 8:3). But, I respect Samuel. In spite of the challenging environment, he still serve God faithfully from a small boy until old age.
For your friend, I think you can from time to time speak the truth in love to him.