Thanks everyone for your comment, advice and encouragement. I'm off to prepare for reconciliation. There is a way if there is will. I'm off to MY tomorrow, and come back to NZ this Friday, just in time before my busy schedule haunt me again next week. Till then. Good luck to you all too!


This post has been edited by theWinner: Dec 1 2009, 09:39 AM

hoho

Address your inner demons before running to try to fix things with her. Changes start from within. Not from external forces. Right now you dont seem to be clear nor know why you want her back other than some emotional withdrawal.

A relationship is a lot more than just love. Right now you dont seem to understand that.

Take this time out and understand yourself and your situation/family/her better. Then you will understand what needs to be done.

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DO NOT even ATTEMPT to reconcile with her, unless you've sorted yourself out. Whether its being a daddy's slave or scheduling your time better so that you can both spend time together. Seriously, 5 minutes a week?? You're telling me you couldn't even take 5-10 minutes out of your daily eating schedule to give your gf a call and talk to her?

hey bro.....from the tone of ur talk....i kinda feel that u still have significant feeling for her which i think u feel that u may made the wrong choice by breaking up with her....just wanna wish u all the best n try to mend the relationship back to usual if possible or to learn from ur mistake....just do wat u think is correct n that u wont regret over it.....god bless~

from me n my gf~~

good luck

This post has been edited by tl123: Dec 1 2009, 10:47 PM

just talk nicely to your dad and convince him that theWinner will always be a winner, please have some faith in theWinner.

about ur gf wearing one piece of dark coloured swimming suit, your comments on her is really depressing..

if i were her, i would have cried for days and nights.
remember, girls can be look normal to the whole world, but they alwaz wanna appear to be the most beautiful person to their loved ones.

and you see, that is the reason why she got you to shop for her dress!...
not to end up, her not being the best for you (the swimsuit)

also, she is not born in a VIP family like you. so, it is more stressful for her to keep up with all the pressures & expectations (includes getting her golf membership) from your family, VIPs, and you. so, you think you were pressured to teach her golf slowly & patiently? how bout her self-esteem?
& picking up activities that are not her interest at all.
then why not you sign package on the activities which she is interested & accompany her?
where is the COMPROMISE?
if you can't even go shopping with her (her interest), but she have to play golf, swim, gym.

if you choose to get her back, can i get a favor from you?
give her time at least 5-10 mins A DAY.
it's simple, just don't see it as a job.. you can call her when having lunch, etc.

lastly, good luck..
remember, another half of your life is to spend with your love one (if you lucky enough), not your dad's expectation (winner in everything)
talk nicely with your dad.

there may be times we need to surrender to our feelings. need a cry, cry. need to talk, talk. put your ego aside, Mr. winner.


i'm sorry if my reply is too out-dated
i just finish my exam & it's already 15pages past this topic!

dear ts, it's time to settle down...i would really love to see ur story hv a happy ending....

Am surprised to see this well into 15 pages.

Good luck to you, Mr. Winner.

Actually, there're smtg which I can't understand about your action.
If you really love her at first, why would you agree with her request to break up and you just accept it easily.

Moreover, you didn't took the opportunity to ask for her return since 1 year ago. I don't know what is going on in your mind at that time, but this is going to be a big mistake since you've done ntg.

It is not too late to realize your mistake,
But what ever the result is, please respect the gal's decision.
Don't forget, she's been there for years,
And how many days you've made her happier.
Think about that.

I really envy you because you'd met a very nice gal.
She's been there for you even you neglected her.
Even now, she still wished you.
Not every guy has the luck to get this kind of gal.
Be more appreciative to her if you're able to take her back.

I am a guy like you who lost a wonderful GF.
I've waited and approached her for 2 years.
But, I respect her decision of not getting together again and be just a normal friend.
You love your EX. I can feel it too because we're guys.
To gal, not to offend,
In my opinion, I believed that guy can love a gal very much even always neglecting her. They just don't realize how lucky are they when they're together, and always don't appreciate their GF. I think is common nowadays because of immaturity of guy =p
(normal guy, don't apply to those playboys)

A guy and a gal's heart are just like papers.
Two pieces of papers will stick with each other when they're in love.
When break up, the glued papers will force to tear apart.
The papers are being tore, it will leave a lot of scars behind.
Therefore, even if they're able to together again, the scar will still there.
So, make her to trust you 100%!

All the best!

Can't believe it that i read the whole story...
If I have a GF, i will cherish every moment with her no matter how bz I am. Gals are quite different, they need attention, love and caring. Imagine if u marry d, then if u always bz with ur work, soon, there will be less communication and will end up divorce. What's the point of loving a person then if u just keep busy all the time and think about urself.

U maybe annoyed with ppl msn or disturb u while u do work, but for god sake, if she is ur wife, how would u treat her then? By the way, the gal u choose will live with u forever and not ur dad that sleep next to u...That's what someone told me....Happiness is in ur own hand...

a girl not only need financial security from a guy but also love and understanding. dont feed your gf with wealth and money. feed her with love and support.

BTL

u ghey

gosh I read the first 10page, too.
Honestly, if I am your gf, I would have dumped you before the relationship even reaches 1 year.

Come on,even after 8 years you "never know which was her primary, secondary school and favourite places, I would have explored her childhood with her." u don't date 8 years for nothing.

It seems like she really got nothing...no undestandings , no love and care, no one call away bf, no one to gossip and share life's ups and downs 247. Gosh, I WON'T want to be in her shoes.

Her family probably hated u, too, and could've advised her to break up with u secretly, but she stayed on, and never put any pressure on u. But U instead, pressured her to "fit in", indirectly (through your teachings).

And to me, she was practically single throughout the 3 years u did ur PHD. U're relationship IS DYSFUNCTIONAL from the start. 5minutes a week.. nono, ur relationship by right is less than even 5years..from the amount u spend/communicate with each other.

sidenote: My cousin and her bf 8 years together, and they know each other thoroughly. From each other's favourite past time, to the detergents they use.

and your family is DAMN BLOODY TRADITIONAL. Stop emphasizing u're the only son and your dad has high expectations on u.

U should bring in your sister , too. Is ur sister not part of the family? Must u be the only person who inherits everything?

It's the 21st century we're living in. My family is similar to yours, brother gets all the guidance he needs, whereas I got nothing, and boy was I pissed all the time. But learnt not to care.

Even I got more balls than u.I rebelled and got slapped on my left cheek by my dad until I almost got deaf on my left ear. My other gal cousin ranaway from home..in the end our parents realised their mistakes and changed for us instead.

In conclusion, stop being 'tied to your PARENT'S apron.' I know u have to respect them but u need to be respected , too, that u are old enough to decide what u want in life. Not be their puppet.

Your parents are going to leave u one day, and the one that has a higher probability is your partner. If u do end up getting together with someone to please your parents, and when they are gone, u and your "future" partner might not last. Then comes divorce and division of all your hardwork (money, property..etc).

I think its best if u are absolutely sure that u can spend more time and EFFORT with your ex..only then u try getting back with her. Otherwise, nope, stop wasting her time. Girls do get pressures, too, if the guy's suitable for us for eternity. Cause our biological clock is ticking.

So, if u can't change anything at all...work all hardcore now, get buried in all your business deals....retire at age 50, being all filthy rich, and get young 20 year old chicks / or a 20 year old chick to marry.

good luck, and sorry for the super long reply.

This post has been edited by mic.darlin9: Dec 2 2009, 12:00 PM

salute!!!

TS has no balls ... how to talk to his dad ....

proof > eight years oso no *** .... coz no balls ... scared will make the gf shocked ...

+1

That is why TS GF dump him.

balls not working...

of course she will invite u to choose for her coz she wanted to wear what u like. and she even use ur credit card, but she still thinks about u. some ppl might spend everything without even care about u.