Yes, i agree with you that the rich and successful men are highly demanded as girls always seek for richer guy who can be depend on when she is tired of working life. as you said, buying house, car is definitely not an easy task for ladies.
but for TS case, his ex gf did not dependent on him, she got her own job but unfortunately the salary wasnt high. TS felt pity on her and thus recommended her a better job. this is what i meant by rely on him(unintentionally). her independence is shown when she stopped performing in KLCC after TS broke up with her.
no matter how independent or wealthy a woman is, when she is back at home, she is still a wife / mother, she needs a companion, needs love, needs support. and i think TS's ex gf has done what a girl should do, such as attending parties with him etc. the most touching part is, she had waited for him for years with the minimum communication between both of them. how many girls out there could do this? there is always a great woman behind a successful man. i think if TS's ex gf was not understanding enuf, he could not have done his PhD in 3 years, rite? since you said 2 capable people can provide a better home, dont you think TS has to tolerate / love her even more than before in return once he is back in Malaysia?but not keep listening to his dad who DOES NOT know anything!!

As a lady, i really don know why you just cant understand TS's ex gf feeling.

gosh I read the first 10page, too.
Honestly, if I am your gf, I would have dumped you before the relationship even reaches 1 year.

Come on,even after 8 years you  "never know which was her primary, secondary school and favourite places, I would have explored her childhood with her." u don't date 8 years for nothing.

It seems like she really got nothing...no undestandings , no love and care, no one call away bf, no one to gossip and share life's ups and downs 247. Gosh, I WON'T want to be in her shoes.

Her family probably hated u, too, and could've advised her to break up with u secretly, but she stayed on, and never put any pressure on u. But U instead, pressured her to "fit in", indirectly (through your teachings).

And to me, she was practically single throughout the 3 years u did ur PHD. U're relationship IS DYSFUNCTIONAL from the start. 5minutes a week.. nono, ur relationship  by right is less than even 5years..from the amount u spend/communicate with each other.

sidenote: My cousin and her bf 8 years together, and they know each other thoroughly. From each other's favourite past time, to the detergents they use.

and your family is DAMN BLOODY TRADITIONAL. Stop emphasizing u're the only son and your dad has high expectations on u.

U should bring in your sister , too. Is ur sister not part of the family? Must u be the only person who inherits everything?

It's the 21st century we're living in. My family is similar to yours, brother gets all the guidance he needs, whereas I got nothing, and boy was I pissed all the time. But learnt not to care.

Even I got more balls than u.I rebelled and got slapped on my left cheek by my dad until I almost got deaf on my left ear. My other gal cousin ranaway from home..in the end our parents realised their mistakes and changed for us instead.

In conclusion, stop being 'tied to your PARENT'S apron.' I know u have to respect them but u need to be respected , too, that u are old enough to decide what u want in life. Not be their puppet.

Your parents are going to leave u one day, and the one that has a higher probability is your partner. If u do end up getting together with someone to please your parents, and when they are gone, u and your "future" partner might not last. Then comes divorce and division of all your hardwork (money, property..etc).

I think its best if u are absolutely sure that u can spend more time and EFFORT with your ex..only then u try getting back with her. Otherwise, nope, stop wasting her time. Girls do get pressures, too, if the guy's suitable for us for eternity. Cause our biological clock is ticking.

So, if u can't change anything at all...work all hardcore now, get buried in all your business deals....retire at age 50, being all filthy rich, and get young 20 year old chicks / or a 20 year old chick to marry.

good luck, and sorry for the super long reply.

It never did. Conflict is what makes a person mature. This is the reason why education is important, to provide opportunities for people to disagree with each other, and then learn how to deal with disagreements. What? You think your dad is going to hold a debate competition between your siblings on who gets to have the car over the weekend?

This is also the reason why asians (with the exception of the Elevens) are so immature, it is because they avoid conflict.

Give me time, it takes a lot of courage to tell... Sorry, I'm a bit tired though.

Gals, am I the worst BF? Do you hate me? I know you hate a BF like me! I felt myself the worst BF.

This thread is going to be more than 20 pages very soon, hate me or not, you all have been blaming me wrong, but then why you wanna help an arrogant person like me? I'm curious.

I never self-pity! So, if you wanna scold, please go ahead.

Note: Story updated in first post. Thanks.

"once u see ghost, you will scare of darkness". It's me who have seen the scary thing, and I confess it was my mistake.

I never know who is him.

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Added on December 6, 2009, 2:53 pm

I think you are the only few who can't understand the story line. So far, I see the gals could understand the story.

Let me interpret clearly to save you some brain power.

Her father called her WINNE. This meant ALICE might not exist. I guess she never change her nick, and ALICE was just a make up. Got it?

I don't know who is James, but he called her Alice.

Anyway, if her father called her Winne, it means she put much weight on Winne, which is the name that I got her to match Winner.

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Added on December 6, 2009, 2:57 pmI love my GF, and if some of you followed my previous thread, you know I'm an open guy who gives freedom to my GF to do anything she likes, be it career or stay at home. She could socialise with anyone on earth, and I'm not in the least bit interested to put up any constraint on her, for I know that we both love each other and I know she is an obedient girl.

I hope I would not follow your footsteps! I love Winne most, I could not lose her Every night I think of her. Mystically, she always looks young in my mind, and I could never fall asleep without her beaming at me! 

Yeah, Dad and I always roar to each other. But, I have been getting soft lately because he is getting old and sick. I could only use the soft approach now. Same here, when my GF and I separated for one year (I'm trying to patch up now), I used to fantasy Korean, Japanese and Taiwanese cute girls, I thought I could forget about her, but instead, the sense of guilty and love for her grows as time goes by. Sigh... my fault.

this just begs the question. you've been her since you were 19. dont tell me you guys never slept on the same bed ? and when you went to genting you slept on seperate beds. i mean, honestly thats like a shot in the head to a girl. she would so take it the wrong way.