As a modern girl who chases after big ambitions and aspirations, we find it increasingly harder to look for suitable soul mates to spend the rest of our lives with. A typical modern KL girl usually finds dating hard, when out of 10 guys:
- 4 would be intimidated of a woman's career success.
- 3 would be playboys only out looking for sex and one night stands.
- 2 would totally fail at taking care of the woman's needs.

And only 1 out of 10 guys may match well with the woman and have each other's needs fulfilled. He's not intimidated by her success and independence, and ready to commit and spend the rest of his life with this woman.

I wonder how do you girls cope with this situation? And what do guys think of this? And I would say, for those girls who have found that loving '1 out of 10' guy, you gotta feel really lucky.

This post has been edited by ace.princess: Nov 2 2008, 01:52 AM

1st, where did you get those stats from?

find guys outside of KL. KL is a corrupted place.

Define "Good" guy..... Dun be so pessimistic lar sister

"Good" guys is subjective, and depending on commitment and interest...

nowadays so hard to find good gal ....
gal only look at $$$$$$$$$$$$$$

Easy answer : because good guys, of course, all got TAKEN early already, left all the rotten goods only!!!

i thought 10 out of 10 is this problem.
haha

i lol on this. great statement man.

it is very hard to get success in both relationship & career (for woman).
u can either "grab a bear palm or fish" , u can't have both.

face problem good luck finding

This post has been edited by Frostlord: Nov 2 2008, 02:11 AM

This is because all these requirements you post take a back seat to your emotions. Guys that fit your "requirements" lack in the "feeling" department, and vice versa. Its not a problem with girls only, guys face the same problem looking for good girls.

( if the same career field.....absolutely. msian men developed inferiority complex cause women and society demands them to be the infinitely better than of what they are now----some got fed up with this and danced off to the sub-cultures, where's it all free loving.)


(why blame them when they are not ready to settle in? Your point applies to both sexes.)


(nothing to add. your needs should be respected as much as the next girl. Sometimes its hard to find the right one...but that's the way it is. Too good at this for the dates, and your asking whether hes really genuine? in between, and you think you can find someone better, )

persistance = success for this scenario. If it doesn't work, cast a bigger net with smaller holes. who knows, that small fish might be that precious endangered one.

its your filter. we filter gals too. sometimes ppl like u are caught in it, PREMATURELY perhaps??

This post has been edited by Redhunt: Nov 2 2008, 02:17 AM

I totally agree with this statement. Happiness is not impossible, sometimes it just takes a little more persistence, trials, and luck. And when you finally do find happiness, do your very best to appreciate them.

Spoken from own personal experience.

it all boils down where u find ur man, i think gals this day invest to much time loving so hard a man rather than getting to know what trouble they r gettin into.

I am not saying loving a person is bad, but i feel that gals literally saying, jump into the whole thing as though they r sure they got a guy whose Good Guy & husband worthy material.

instead they got a piece of ply wood.

This post has been edited by aurora97: Nov 2 2008, 02:28 AM

why cant i find a girl that will pay the bills instead?

why can't i find a girl that will just stop whining about everything instead of appreciate what they have?

tak suka, go find ang moh la.

i need a whose whose more successful & pay bills.. n i can sit in sofa everyday watch tv and provide life's daily pleasure to my woman...!

After got children than my turn to work

So,are you the type of girl who is still adamant that the guy must ; Approach the girl,be good looking,make a conversation,ask for a date,confess feelings,be rich,pay for everything etc etc?

Coz if you are,stop complaining and put yourself in the guys shoes.
If you're not,then you're lying because you'll be able to find a good guy easily.

for the
2 guys that would totally fail at taking care of the woman's needs, what do u mean by that? if there's something that u can change, n the guy is willing to change n improve for u then why not. take a guy who's willing to change for you..rather than a good guy who will not change for u.

yeah ! Totally agree to that. You all complaning about cannot find a good guy in the ending, but you all did choose that guy to become your bf. Those gud guy outside can jz comment " y that girl will choose such a guy" ... and dissapointed ~ bt cannot say more bcoz anyhow, we mz respect the girl's choice, right ??
But what is the main thing is see how the person attitude towards relationship matter.

geez... feminists.

geez woman.. stop complaining or you'll end up being a nun. so tell me.. what are your 'requirements' for a 'good guy'? one who isnt intimidated by you.. doesnt want to have sex with you.. and bows to your every command?

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Added on November 2, 2008, 2:54 amwell.. she dated 10 guys.. 4 were intimidated by her career.. 3 only wanted to f*** her.. and 2 more werent gentleman enough for her.. the remaining one leh.. dumped her

This post has been edited by yingjee: Nov 2 2008, 02:54 AM

i will be the first one to volunteer, if any woman out there wants me to be my sugar mommy..

find the lonely old ladies

havent come across any men who are "Bao" by anyone yet, if any do recommend any aunties my door is always open.

Wow you're so sure and confident, unless....



They seem to match!

old ladies ! ! ! ... ... ewww....


ps: OLD ~ ... 50 60's ...

This post has been edited by sun1989: Nov 2 2008, 02:59 AM

ace.princess

aragorn.yoong

wow! they seem to match too! ta-da! TS you have found your compatible soulmate

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Added on November 2, 2008, 3:00 amahahaha.. rich ones yea.. so they can pay u using their hubby's money...

This post has been edited by yingjee: Nov 2 2008, 03:00 AM

ah~ too bad, she needs a bigger sample.

due to her nature.. there wasnt a chance

Is hard to find a nice girl as well... seriously contemplating being a monk..

if some1 found a perfect male/female , let me know ... i need 2 register him/her in WWF ... going into extinction alrdy

ohhh there now, u can always join me in my quest to be "Bao" by older woman

yea ~ same here
with condition if i cnt find my mate at age of 30~ after 30 den tats it

rest assured u wont find one MUAHAHAHAHAH

did u say "Bao"?

u give up too fast at 30, u r only reaching the best part of your life! (i hope darklight will elaborate on this)

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Added on November 2, 2008, 3:05 amehhh.. dun la pour cold water on ppl.. hahah.. or isit u wanna crush his confidence so u have a better chance? xD

This post has been edited by yingjee: Nov 2 2008, 03:05 AM

is that a challenge yinjee?

This post has been edited by aurora97: Nov 2 2008, 03:09 AM

30, best part, tats y la ~ den when there is the best part, girls coming to me wont be any good things, mata duitan n money come 1st ... den better dun wan.

btw im nt tat no confidence, a very good competitor, jz i dun wan spana other ppl only

u wanna hold competition with sun?

be smart when choosing the girl lo..
eh.. there are still plenty of single girls.. dunnit to spanar geh.. hahaha..

do some charity ler.. feed hungry girls

no no no... not just with Sun, i will take u both head on...

whats on the table btw?

competition to get "PAO" ?? ... tak mo lah ~ haha

im being quite smart when choosing, jalan supermarket also turn 2 round at least. wan buy thing den compare price 1st ~ but den tats y i still single ~ hahaha

the last one i fed, stil die of hunger.. cause the money i gave... her she got an LV handbag instead

This post has been edited by aurora97: Nov 2 2008, 03:15 AM

LV bags ... u dun die instead ? feed LV bags ... fuh~ my wallet will die faster.

har? u wanna challenge me? im not interested in pikating girls.. lols im not lesbian

hahahaha! walk 2 rounds? geng.. ill be so tired after 1 round of carrefour.. want walk 2 rounds sumore?

LOL!

2 round nt a problem at all ... bcoz normally i window shopping alone. if with frens ... uh ... sure cnt one. tat time i better keep quiet. later they aim me to push me buy something.
midvalley one round (all floors) quite tired one ... but i at melaka walk DP(dataran pahlawan) n MP(mahkota parate), tak ada rasa.

lol.. wait til u go sunway pyramid.. see if u can walk 2 rounds.. or times square.. hahaha

oh. sunway pyramid ~ hope to go. many of my frens there, but i wonder is there so fun ? haha
times square small matter only lah ~ xD but times square got a lot luxury shop, at shop outside see already sked u enough. haha

have u walked every single floor and corner twice? lol.. i think pyramid is more tiring

mostly lo.last time i went TS for bowling n gathering with frens. haha.
ic ic. i'l go pyramid once i gt the chance
btw, run out of topic ady ~ haha the thread runs wild

Did it in Mid Valley and 1 Utama, i think it is a good way for exercise

u will make a good guy.. since u can teman gf go shopping and walk the endless shops with her (back on topic)

1 utama ok la.. walk until sian edi.. ish..

unbelievable ~ nice turning.
hopefully ... still looking ~ but when shopping for shirts, make sure beside the girl shirt zone is guy zone, so that I can look mine also
if not ... jz one word, sien ... although willing to accompany her.

this is so much of a women bashing thread, I liek.

hahaha... well its like tht de la.. u will experience it sooner or later.. one day u have to teman ur wife go shopping.. sign credit card for her.. carry her shopping bags.. hahahha! be a 'ku li' for a day

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Added on November 2, 2008, 3:37 amu male, female or it?

This post has been edited by yingjee: Nov 2 2008, 03:37 AM

while now, go out shopping with mama, still she pay for the items. hehe ... bcoz nowadays students, havent graduate also hutang keliling pinggang ady. I dun hope for more of my gf, jz willing to learn is important. n tolerance la of course, n other detail detail one...
if willing to learn den things can be brough in discussion (man si yao siong leong).

but actually good guys or bad guys jz is guy, jz the attitude he hav and point of view will determine whether he is good or bad.
other things such as romantic or not, noe tricks n so n so, it jz depend on the guy, every guy can do the same tactics, but inner side, we nid some time to observe only noe what is the really him. rite ?

lol... some girls will see tht as weak n 'mama's boy'.. maybe they never tried paying for themselves before.. everytime aso bf pay.. 'good guy' depends on individuals lah.. each gal has her own preferance.. even if the guy doesnt fit all her criteria, maybe she will still fall for him.. love is blind, after all n we shouldnt be too quick to judge a guy/girl.. maybe they have more complicated things deep inside..

you never know unless u try
and don't complain all the time when u find a bad one, is your decision anyway

not actually mean that also... hmm, mama's boy, now big ady, cnt be like dat ady. I say that bcoz normally my mum go shopping also buy those daily needs, so she will be "in charge" for it. If shopping for shirts, I tried to shopping with frens(very good frens, they will giv comment n suggestion on what to hav n what to dont), so far so good.
but anyhow, if the girl pick tat guy for becoming her bf, sure got reason de. tats the reason i never spana ppl ~ ~ respect ma ~
but den it is a legend that sound : a pretty girl is mean to be together with a "nt so handsome" guy, and a handsome guy is also rarely to find a pretty girl.
( as husband n wife, nt jz as bf gf)
so, i think i'l hav a so so gf ~ den those pretty one is for see see only. [For Display Only, Once Broken Consider Sold] many ppl broken it... tats y others dun hav the change.


edited : [For Display Only, Once Broken Consider Sold] many ppl broken it... tats y others dun hav the chance.

This post has been edited by sun1989: Nov 2 2008, 04:26 AM

cmon girls, u ppl aren't as perfect anyway..why wanna complain so much..

u girls think ur pu55y is paved wit gold isit? cmon, give n take la..if u wanted to be treated like a princess or want this want what, ask urself back, what HAVE U GOT to offer?



This post has been edited by chickmagnet: Nov 2 2008, 04:12 AM

C cups, slender legs , silky smooth skin , doll face,

yeah, that will do

lol.. ask la TS for a date tan tan

lols! looks doesnt really matter in the end wad.. n tht legend is stupid.. hahaha.. many.. mostly actually.. very pretty ones.. are too conceited.. so better go after the so-so ones lah..they wont complain so much

*ahem* there is only 1 girl complaining in this thread so your should use the singular form "girl" lol

Hmm..True true hi my dear TS, give and take la..complain so much.

Love is as simple as this:
I'm a guy,
I have a girl.
I can make her happy,
And she can make me happy.
Once you find a match like this -----> Marry her and live happily ever after.
Simple isn't it?
The only people who complicate this equation are those who have yet to find their happiness, usually desperate or impatient.

i shy

If every human is as simple as this, then there will be no need for "Cupids Corner"

so so ones for me ok la ~ if we say woman is like car. so local made =proton
pretty n luxury one=perdana, den follow on. but if lower price ones, although model n engine is the same type but there is still different in performance. but there is still good n nice one in the normal standards one. if u get den really is lucky enough.in engineering, there is nothing such as 100% efficiency, and yet, in the real world too, nothing is 100%

* suddenly thought of tis, jz for sharing, no offense.

edited to last thread:
leng lui [For Display Only, Once Broken Consider Sold] many ppl broken it... tats y others dun hav the chance.

This post has been edited by sun1989: Nov 2 2008, 04:27 AM

I'm a living example of this simplicity.
That's why I'm on Cupid's Corner with those complicating this simplicity.

This post has been edited by aragorn.yoong: Nov 2 2008, 04:26 AM

fuh feel like those in poem ...

you need the cupid's arrows which are hiding somewhere here to find your happiness

lol.. if only it was tht simple.. every1 would marry their childhood sweetheart

just say yes.. and TS will understand you..

*is lost* lol!

Most people feel the need to overcomplicate things anyway. It's human nature to want drama.

drama is what spice up our mundane life

Like buns and paos.

without drama, life would be too simple and boring

Like condoms and <removed>'s

Mr dark, u look muscular.. will u go on a date with me?

Ok seriously Wolf516, a lot of people don't realize that the dramatic shit they see on TV is fake, while people get hurt in real life. I think love is actually quite simple, just that people feel the need to continuously test their partners.

Without spices of life, your story that will be told to your children will be as bland as untoasted tortilla...

Anytime baby. Just tell me when.

buaya mode on

its because they felt insecure with their partners..... trust is gain in the hard way for most of the couple's nowadays

people just can't stop themselves from hurting others, whether they want it or not

You mean people hurt their partner to test them to see if they really love them or not. There're many other ways to prove integrity and loyalty. Drama is not necessary imo. Trust me, shit will come into the path of the happiest couple. Life already has a way of screwing with you. Why need to compound the stress?

all of us has our life screwed by something , the only thing left to do with the stress is to wait for something good to happen......

or if you're hardworking, make it happen

I wish there are someone for me in this world as well......

Exactly. Hence the question why the need to create drama.

About someone for you, tell me, do you believe in fate? Stuff like someone being meant for you?

I'm actually greatly impressed with TS's set standards for what she wants in her partner. It addressed an issue which will only detriment the female population, that is sometimes men just don't respect women!

Some men (I'm not saying all) treat women only as sex objects and children-making machines, paying no regards to her feelings and values as a person. And the funny thing is, sometimes why men continue to behave this way is because there are women who allow men to walk all over them as sex objects.

If only women have greater self-respect for themselves, setting higher standards for their partners (means wanting a man who will appreciate her as a person, not just a sex and baby-making machine for the husband), probably this situation may improve.

Call me a feminist, if that irritates you, being a feminist is not a bad thing. I do expect criticisms to my comments coming from a world full of sexists. Maybe you are that 4 out of 10 men which TS quoted as "intimidated by women with career success", or a woman who needs to have more self-respect.

I don't really believe in magic encounters or some sort like that.....

someone who is only meant for you only happens in movies or drama's... in the real world its like a dogfight on the partners that you want

nothing sweet has happen to me yet

Well just remember fate gives you the opportunity, free will decides whether you'll make it happen or not. No fate but what we make. That was a good line from T2.

sometimes, women use men as a sex object.. and also ATM machine.. so i guess its even, no? women also love torturing men for self satisfaction.. (not all yea.. usually applies for conceited beautiful women) so instead of complaining about what men should be, y not try to change our own gender first? sex is not just enjoyable for the men.. im sure the female enjoys it too. dont see sex as a disadvantage for women. its merely an act of love between two lovers. if the female doesnt like it, then dont have sex! its that simple

P.S. im not being sexist as im also a female

This post has been edited by yingjee: Nov 2 2008, 05:04 AM

men like these get all the girls they want,i wonder why
they will even come back for more after they break up

guess darklight79 is right they like to make they own drama

no drama no life

agreed with u..when u have found out that u really love him, you will think tat he is a good guy for u jor.

Agree with the ATM machine part (not saying all women use men as ATM machines). This is weird (I'ma virgin), some girls, say sex hurts but some enjoy, I'm confused, anyone here can clarify?

Agreed!

So to the girls out there
Even if the ratio for your dream guy would be 1 out of 10, you have all the time for yourself to look for one

A good example of girls this days
http://forum.lowyat.net/topic/626300/+320

This post has been edited by whirlwind: Nov 2 2008, 11:43 AM

Nonsense. Girls don't look for "good guys." They look for the bad ones.

Simple. You aren't good enough for good (from your statement) guys and you aren't attractive enough to be with a good guy. I always love to joke around good guys are always hiding, but the truth is they aren't hiding at all. They are very active as well in the society together with those bad ones. They as well, are looking for their best options out there, same as you. And if you can't attract them, then don't blame the whole male society for lacking good men. Because at the end of the day, the fingers are pointing back to you.

Now, i don't think so we are going to define nor differentiate between a good guy and a bad guy. It is very very subjective and grey area does exist between them but as long you are clear with what you want in a man, then focus on it. Generalize them into category that fits your choices just like you wrote in your first post or the above and go out and attract them. I don't know how you going to hunt them, but keep it to yourself because it is less important for us to know. But maybe before you hunt for them, might as well take a look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself are you a good girl too? Can you handle such guys?

Moreover, there is no saying being with a good guy provide a long lasting relationship. That's hypothetical BS. I've seen people with bad partners but still they go strong. Remember, it depends on whether it works or it doesn't work, which implies to how both you and your partner work it together.

This post has been edited by peinsama: Nov 2 2008, 11:56 AM